• Do guys prefer being approached first?

    Best answer: Everyone, prefers to be approached, rather than do the approaching. I get that you're a very shy girl, but they may be a very shy boy. If you're not proactive, then you're just being reactive. That means, if you don't seek-out the boys you want, than you're just waiting for whatever boys may approach you, and you... show more
    Best answer: Everyone, prefers to be approached, rather than do the approaching. I get that you're a very shy girl, but they may be a very shy boy. If you're not proactive, then you're just being reactive. That means, if you don't seek-out the boys you want, than you're just waiting for whatever boys may approach you, and you may miss-out on the boy you really want. Don't approach the boy for a date. Approach him, to get to know him. Begin, by introducing yourself, and talking about common interests. Be observant, and listen, to learn more about him. Is he wearing a hat with a sports team? Is he wearing a certain kind of shoe, that suggests either a brand or a sport? Is he wearing anything, that may suggest the music he likes, or do you see him with ear-buds, actually listening to music? Is he in the same class? All of these are subjects you and he can discuss. If you're observant and listen, you can learn a lot about someone, and it can give you something to talk about. Nothing is more awkward, than having nothing to talk about. Remember to smile. If you smile, when you speak, you'll feel more approachable. I get that you're the one approaching him, but if you approach him with a smile, he'll be more likely to speak with you. Once you've spoken, and gotten to know one another, it will be much easier to ask him out. Rather than say, "would you like to go on a date with me," say, "I'm going to X, and I'd really love if you joined me." "Would you like to go on a date with me," is a question. It gives him the power to say no. The ball is in his court to respond to that question. "I'm going to X, and I'd really love if you joined me," is a statement. You retain the power, and all he has to do is agree with you. If he disagrees with you, he's not rejecting you. He may just not be able to attend the event, at that given time. But, it leaves the door open to another possible date. If you say, would you go-out with me, and he says no, that's it, you're done. But, if you say, "I'm going to X, and I'd really love if you joined me," and he says, no, sorry, then you can say, "well, another time then." The point is, it doesn't close the door, to a possible date, in the future, and it gives him a little more time to think about dating you. He may even suggest a different date, at a different time. "I can't make X, at Y time, but I am going to A, at B time, and I'd love if you joined me." The point is, it plants the seed, in his mind, and gets him thinking about spending time with you. It leaves it casual, and comfortable. There isn't this mindset of, we are dating, but more, a mindset of, we know each other and want to spend time with each other. It, also, gives him the impression, that you have an active social life, and want to include him in your active social life. If you, already, have an event, at a given time, like a movie, or shopping, or even a walk, than that means you're not relying on him, to create a social life. You, already, have a social life. The pressure is off him to create a social life for you. All he has to do is participate in your activity. Now, at the end of the date, make sure you plan the next date, if he doesn't. If he doesn't plan the next date, then you can suggest another date. You can let him know you enjoyed your time together, maybe kiss him, or hug him, and you can indicate further interest by mentioning another event, at another given time, you'd like him to attend. On your date, you should wear something soft, but something practical. While it may be nice to see skin, its just not practical in Winter. So, consider a soft, warm sweater. Soft fabrics inviting touching, like a hug, or a hand on an arm, and if you're warm, you won't get cold, and you'll be less likely to complain about being cold. Consider warm boots too. Guys would much rather you be happy, warm and comfortable, than complain that you're dressed for a date, and not for comfort. Go easy on the perfume or body spray. Guys really don't like scents, as much as you do. In-fact, if you wear perfume, on your face, and he kisses you, it'll taste really bad, or it may even offend his sense of smell, so much, he won't want to kiss you. You can wear a deodorant, and some baby powder, but on a first date, its best to not wear too much of an artificial scent. You need him to smell you, not the perfume. Don't go overboard on make-up either. Basic make-up is fine, but you're better-off going for a natural look, rather than a dolled-up look. Its one thing to hide imperfections, but its quite another to have really red lips, and really dark or bright eyes. Just keep it simple. Most guys, would prefer the girl next door, who has a more natural look.
    5 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • Can i date three girls at once?

    Sure, you can date as many women as you like. However, you can only have a loving, committed relationship with one girl. There is a difference between dating, and having a relationship. Just make sure, all these girls understand that you're dating, not having a relationship. There may come a time, when you need to make a decision, as to whom... show more
    Sure, you can date as many women as you like. However, you can only have a loving, committed relationship with one girl. There is a difference between dating, and having a relationship. Just make sure, all these girls understand that you're dating, not having a relationship. There may come a time, when you need to make a decision, as to whom you want to be in a relationship with. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    11 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • He's 21, I'm 24. Is this a bad age gap?

    Best answer: I don't think this is a bad age gap. I just think this is the wrong age, to be dating someone, that much older. He's 3-years-younger than you. If you were 34 and he were 31, it wouldn't be a big deal. Why? Because, the older we get, the larger an age gap we can have, because we're both in the same place, in our... show more
    Best answer: I don't think this is a bad age gap. I just think this is the wrong age, to be dating someone, that much older. He's 3-years-younger than you. If you were 34 and he were 31, it wouldn't be a big deal. Why? Because, the older we get, the larger an age gap we can have, because we're both in the same place, in our lives. 24-year-olds are either finishing their bachelors degrees or starting grad school. Maybe, they're even beginning their careers. 21-years-old are, still, working on their bachelors degree, and they're just old enough to drink, which means, they're in their party years. By the time you're 24, the novelty of being able to legally drink has worn-off, and you're starting to get-over the party years. Around age 23, a person reaches a point, where they're, finally, ready for a serious relationship. Everything, before that age, is just practice. Its successfully discovering what you don't want. By age 24, you know what you want. 21-year-olds, don't, yet, really know what they want, which is find, if they're dating another 21 or 22-year-old, but something happens, between the ages, of 21 and 24. People grow-up. People change. Priorities change. Life changes. You cannot expect him to act like a 24-year-old anymore than he can expect you to act like a 21-year-old. You've been 21. He hasn't. Let him enjoy it, while it lasts. Meanwhile, don't miss-out on being 24, because you're still trying to act like a 21-year-old. Like I said before, when you're 34, or even 44, its not that big a deal to date someone 31 or 41, because, by that age, you're in similar places in your life. School is over, you're both more serious about a relationship, and maybe you're even both ready for a commitment and a family, but right now, the math just doesn't work. Right now, is a bad time to be dating someone, that age. Its best to stick with someone, with-in a year or two, of your age, at this point in your life. I'd say, you'll be more compatible with someone between 23 to 25-years-old. Just remember, compatibility is more important than age. The question isn't is this a bad age gap? The question is, who will you be most compatible with. Quality is always better than quantity. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    15 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • What are the chances of a man getting laid through Craigslist?

    Best answer: There is, actually, a pretty good chance of finding sex on Craigslist. Should you find sex on Craigslist? No. Yeah, you can find sex, but whether or not the person is attractive isn't even the issue. This is a stranger. You have no idea if they have a disease. You have no idea, if they're in a relationship. A lot of the... show more
    Best answer: There is, actually, a pretty good chance of finding sex on Craigslist. Should you find sex on Craigslist? No. Yeah, you can find sex, but whether or not the person is attractive isn't even the issue. This is a stranger. You have no idea if they have a disease. You have no idea, if they're in a relationship. A lot of the women on Craigslist, are creepy, mentally ill, stalkers, prostitutes, or have some other issue you should avoid. Craigslist is not a dating site, especially the way your friend is using it. There is a casual encounters section, but you will not find someone who is mentally healthy, in the casual encounters section. They may not even be physically healthy. Find a real woman. Get to know her. Let her get to know you. The sex will be better, if you actually put-in the time, and get to know one another. You may even find you really like her, which means you may gain more than just sex. There are no short-cuts in life or love. When you take short-cuts, you end-up with regrets, and trust me, you will regret the kind of women you meet on Craigslist. The old joke is who has better friends, Mark Zuckerberg from Facebook, or Craig from Craigslist. Well, Zuckerberg has more friends. The kind of friends who will help you move a couch. But Craig has creepier friends. The kinda friends who will help you move a body. There is an ounce of truth in that joke. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    6 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • Girlfriend cheated on me but I love her , what do I do?

    The relationship is over. You need to move-on. You may think you love this girl, but it is not a healthy relationship, and you need to end things with her. Lets examine the facts. You viewed pornography. She found-out you viewed pornography. She no longer trusted you. If she didn't trust you, why did she even continue the... show more
    The relationship is over. You need to move-on. You may think you love this girl, but it is not a healthy relationship, and you need to end things with her. Lets examine the facts. You viewed pornography. She found-out you viewed pornography. She no longer trusted you. If she didn't trust you, why did she even continue the relationship? You cannot have love, without trust. That means, when she stopped trusting you, she stopped loving you. She slept with another man. Its not your fault, that she slept with another man. There is no such thing as her being soooooo vulnerable, because of something you did, that would make her sleeping with another man, your fault. This is her fault. This is your fault. You didn't cause this. Should you have been viewing pornography, while in a relationship? No, probably not, but you're 18, and you probably didn't know any better, because you lacked experience, and you may not have even known it would hurt her. But, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that sleeping with someone else will hurt the person you're in a relationship with. I don't care how young she is, she knew this would hurt you, and she did it anyway. You never intentionally tried to hurt her, with the pornography. She hurt you with the cheating. That, and cheating is way worse than viewing pornography. You weren't having sex with the women in these videos. She was having sex with another man. I believe, the reason she's so afraid of pornography, is because she thinks, it will lead to infidelity. The reason she thinks it will lead to infidelity, is because she's a cheater. She was projecting her ideas, of what she would do, upon you. You're not the cheater. She is is the cheater. I doubt this is the reason she's sorry she slept with him. I doubt this is the reason she deleted him off Facebook. She deleted him off Facebook, so she wouldn't get caught. She deleted him, because she felt used by him. Had he wanted a relationship, they'd still be fooling around. She waited 3 weeks to tell you, and she probably only told you, because either she got caught, or was going to get caught. Why on earth would you trust her? She doesn't trust you. What you did, to her, isn't half as bad, as what she did to you. What if she had gotten a disease? What if she had gotten pregnant? If she waited 3 weeks to tell you, you could have slept with her, right after she slept with him, and you would have caught the disease. Furthermore, you could have wound-up raising someone else's kid, as your own, if she got pregnant. This woman is dishonest, not trustworthy, and not someone you want to be around. Its great you've learned from your past, and you no longer view pornography, but you need to move-on. You deserve better, than some girl who cheats on you, and then blames you, for her mistakes. She's telling you, its your fault, she cheated. That's insane. She's not even taking responsibility for her actions. How sorry can she really be, if she believes this is your fault, for making her vulnerable? Dump her. This is an unhealthy relationship. Get as far away, from her, as you possibly can. You deserve better. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    6 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • Crush is ignoring me..what do I do?

    Best answer: Yes, you should give-up on this boy. I know others may say he's playing hard to get, but what's wrong with this sentence? He's playing. You don't want someone who plays games. This isn't a game. When people play games, someone looses. Even if there is a tie, no one really likes a tie. Find someone, who... show more
    Best answer: Yes, you should give-up on this boy. I know others may say he's playing hard to get, but what's wrong with this sentence? He's playing. You don't want someone who plays games. This isn't a game. When people play games, someone looses. Even if there is a tie, no one really likes a tie. Find someone, who doesn't play games. You texted this boy, and said, "What have I done wrong?" Why must you have anything wrong? This makes you sound vulnerable, needy, self-deprecating, and desperate. He's already harmed you, by not replying to you. Don't further the damage, by harming yourself. You said, "Whenever I talk to him I feel happy, but when I don't I feel depressed and lonely." You're teaching yourself, that your happiness depends upon others. Its as if you're seeking an external solution, to an internal problem. In this case, that external solution, is a boyfriend, and the internal problem is depression and loneliness. If you can just find someone to accept you, compliment you, keep you company and love you, you'll be happy. This tells me, that you do not have a positive, healthy self-relationship. A self-relationship is based upon self-love, self-respect, self-esteem, self-confidence, a healthy body-image and a positive outlook on life. Self-esteem is knowing who you are and what you want. A person should never try to become someone they're not, just to impress another person. You don't want to loose your own identify. Work on your self-relationship. The healthier your self-relationship becomes, the more healthy boys you'll attract. As long as you're unhealthy, meaning depressed and lonely, you will not attract healthy boys. You will only attract unhealthy boys. Being depressed and being lonely, is not attractive to healthy people. You may find love, while unhealthy, but it will be unhealthy love, in an unhealthy relationship. Worse yet, you may attract predators. In the animal kingdom, you have animals, such as the lion or lioness. The lion doesn't waste their time with the strong animals, who travel in packs. No, they seek-out the wounded animal who travel alone. If the prey is wounded, then they can, quite easily, capture them, and devour them. Often times, when there is a history of abuse, in a person's past, that pattern continues in future relationships. Why? Because that person has been wounded by the previous abuse, and is not only vulnerable, but is actually attracting more predators, who will further abuse them. So, while you're unhealthy, at best, you'll attract someone else, who's equally depressed and lonely. At worst, you'll attract a predator, who will harm you. The only person you should be dating, is yourself. Work on being in a loving, committed self-relationship. Go on self-dates with yourself. Notice I said with yourself, not by yourself. The word "with" suggests that you are present in your own life, whereas the word "by" suggests that you are alone, and not present in your own life." You don't have to be alone, your entire life. Once you have a healthy self-relationship, you will attract healthy people, and you will have a healthy relationship with another person. Another thing to remember, is you are only 16-years-old. You will not have a real relationship, until you're, at least, 23-years-old. Until then, every relationship you do have, will be a learning exercise. Basically, make the mistakes now, while you're young, so you don't make these mistakes later, when it really counts. You're not going to marry any of the boys you're dating now. Most of these relationships wont last very long. Just make sure, you're not establishing bad habits, or getting involved with anyone who may harm you. If you'd like to learn more about relationships, consider taking some sociology, psychology and communications courses, while in college. You may even want to consider biology and anthropology courses too. All of these subjects deal with the human experience, and may improve your understanding of yourself and others. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • Am I in love with this guy I've never spoken to?

    Best answer: You are not in love. You are in lust. This is not love. This is attraction, but this is not love. He became memorable because he annoyed you. Now, he's memorable, but you don't know anything about him. Just because he's memorable, doesn't mean he's desirable. Either get to know him, or don't. If you... show more
    Best answer: You are not in love. You are in lust. This is not love. This is attraction, but this is not love. He became memorable because he annoyed you. Now, he's memorable, but you don't know anything about him. Just because he's memorable, doesn't mean he's desirable. Either get to know him, or don't. If you don't, then move-on, because you're not in love with him. What you have, is an obsession for him. You are feeling compelled to think about him. Obsessive Compulsive behavior is not love. Again, either get to know him, the real him, or move-on. Best of luck in life or love. :-)
    4 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • Should I be flattered that he dated me for 7 months just to sleep with me?

    So, you're upset that he left you, because you refused to sleep with him? He made it very obvious, that he did not want an emotional, long-term relationship. He only wanted sex. You two were apart, very often, and so you never really had a chance to develop anything substantial. He made it clear, he didn't want to develop anything... show more
    So, you're upset that he left you, because you refused to sleep with him? He made it very obvious, that he did not want an emotional, long-term relationship. He only wanted sex. You two were apart, very often, and so you never really had a chance to develop anything substantial. He made it clear, he didn't want to develop anything substantial. I don't think you should be flattered he dated you for 7 months. I think you should ask yourself why you dated him for 7 months. Why did you date him for 7 months? Did you want to have sex with him? Did you want a real, emotional, long-term relationship. You knew, he did not want a real, emotional, long-term relationship. So, why did you date him? I don't think you have any right to be mad at him. He wasn't dishonest. He told you, point-blank, he was only dating you, to have sex with you. You, also knew that you two were apart for periods of time, and that this would not make it possible to have a successful relationship. What I would say, is learn from this experience. If you want a real relationship, then don't date anymore men, who are just using you for sex. If you want a real relationship, then you and he need to make yourselves more available, both physically and emotionally. You have successfully discovered what not to do. So, take this experience, for what it is. Its a learning experience. You learned a very difficult lesson. You learned, this is not the sorta guy you want to date. You're upset now. Do you really want to feel this way again? If you don't want to feel this way again, then don't date anymore guys like him. Yeah, a few guys may slip through the cracks and lie to you, but if a guy is up-front and tells you, he's only dating you for sex, that's a red-flag to stay away, unless, of course, that's all you want too. But, I get the impression you want more. If all you wanted was sex, you would have had sex with him, and you wouldn't have waited 7 months. You don't have to be flattered, but you don't have to like it. Its okay not to like it. Just learn from the experience and don't date anymore guys like this. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    6 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • Am a fat for my age and height?

    You're only 118 lbs, and you're 5'9" tall. No, you're not fat. I'd say you were average to thin, considering your height. It is natural for women to have wider hips, and thus a bigger butt. It is okay to have wider hips than your waist. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    You're only 118 lbs, and you're 5'9" tall. No, you're not fat. I'd say you were average to thin, considering your height. It is natural for women to have wider hips, and thus a bigger butt. It is okay to have wider hips than your waist. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    4 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • I don't want to be in a relationship?

    Best answer: You're 15-years-old and what you call a relationship, is not a relationship. Its dating. Teenagers, in general, don't really have relationships. Oh sure, they may date for awhile, but more often than not, they date, break-up, date someone new, break-up, graduate, and move-on with their lives. None of these so-called... show more
    Best answer: You're 15-years-old and what you call a relationship, is not a relationship. Its dating. Teenagers, in general, don't really have relationships. Oh sure, they may date for awhile, but more often than not, they date, break-up, date someone new, break-up, graduate, and move-on with their lives. None of these so-called relationships will last past graduation anyway, and many of them won't last a week, a month or a semester. That being said, people do it, not to form a long-lasting relationship, but to gain experience, often painful experience. Its a lot of trial and error, so you figure-out what works and what doesn't work. That way, when you're much older, you'll have healthier relationships. Everyone matures at their own rate. 15-years-old is still pretty young, and you may not be ready to date. Just because your friends are ready, that doesn't mean you're ready. Your friends don't have the same history, the same family, the same hormones, and the same body that you have. Its not their life. Its yours. A lot of young people feel nervous. Many are better at hiding it, than others. When you say you loose feelings for those boys who ask you out, it may be that while you enjoy fantasizing about them, that's all you're really ready for. A fantasy. When they ask you out, they destroy the fantasy. "I liked you. In my head, we were great together and you were cute and nice. Then, you had to go and ask me out. You made it too real. Now all I can feel, when I see you, is anxiety. I'm worried about what may happen next. Will you want this or that? Will you pressure me? Will you tell your friends stuff about me? Can I trust you? Will you break-up with me? What do I wear? What do I say? What do I do with my hands? What do I do with my mouth? Am I doing this right? Its enough to drive anyone crazy, when you lack experience and all you have are questions, but no answers. So naturally, I loose feelings for you, because all you had to do was leave well enough alone. We were good together, when you were just a fantasy, but now you're asking me out, and well, I'm not ready for that." Try being friends with boys, before you look for a boyfriend. You'll be ready, when you're ready. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    5 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • Am I a whore or a slut?

    Best answer: No, you're not a slut. You're a 16-year-old virgin. Kids in high school are cruel. "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    Best answer: No, you're not a slut. You're a 16-year-old virgin. Kids in high school are cruel. "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    8 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • How to gain self-cofidence and get the girls?

    Best answer: Confidence means knowing who you are and what you want. What you're describing, sounds more like courage. Courage is having fear, but doing it anyway. When you have fear, you can practice 15 seconds of courage. This means, that for 15 seconds (a quarter of a minute), you have to be courageous, and not show the fear, that... show more
    Best answer: Confidence means knowing who you are and what you want. What you're describing, sounds more like courage. Courage is having fear, but doing it anyway. When you have fear, you can practice 15 seconds of courage. This means, that for 15 seconds (a quarter of a minute), you have to be courageous, and not show the fear, that you're feeling. After those 15 seconds of courage, you can either stop, and walk-away, or you can continue for another 15 seconds, if you like the results of your courageous act. A self-relationship consists of self-love, self-esteem, self-respect, self-confidence, a healthy body-image and a positive outlook on life. If you do not have a healthy body-image, then you will discourage others from considering you. Furthermore, we seek those who agree with us. Imagine a scenario, where you meet a girl, and she tells you you're cute. You don't agree with her. You don't think you're much to look at. Do you really think this relationship is going to work, if you disagree with her? Now imagine a scenario, where you openly display that you don't think you're much to look at. You may talk others out of considering you. You may hide your face, not make eye-contact, slump your posture, or appear guarded. If you openly criticize yourself, you will appear negative, critical, and even unpleasant. Why would any girl want to hang-out with the guy I just described? They wouldn't. They want to hang-out with a guy who smiles, makes eye-contact, has good posture, is open and honest, is not critical or judgmental, of himself or others, and is pleasant to be around and polite. I'm not saying that physical appearance isn't important. What I am saying is that physical attraction only counts for 20% of all attraction. Attraction is physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual and social. Furthermore, you can disqualify yourself, by being critical, judgmental, guarded or openly-hostile. Right now you're, also, being very prejudice. Why do I think you're being prejudice? I think you're being prejudice, because you're prejudging these girls. You are assuming that they are superficial, and only care about looks. You're prejudging them, and assuming they've been dismissive of you, before you've even approached them. You're projecting any of your issues, upon them. Just because you don't think you're much to look at, doesn't mean they think that. Don't be prejudice. Don't tell these girls what they should think. Let them decide for themselves. Furthermore, don't create a self-fulfilling prophecy. A self-fulfilling prophecy is where you self-sabotage yourself. See, I knew they wouldn't like me. I was right. No, you weren't right. They don't like you, because you sabotaged yourself. Why? To prove you were right. Great, you're right. Good job. What did you gain from being right? Don't create a self-fulfilling prophesy. Be nice to yourself. Be nice to others. Hope for the best. its okay to be wrong about this. You can be pleasantly surprised, when they accept you, and not reject you. Finally, the reason true confidence is important, is because if you know who you are, then you know if others are compatible with you. If you know what you want, then you will further know the type of girl that you want, and you may also know the career path you want in life too. This means you will find a girl, with the right traits, and who's compatible. This will ensure a successful relationship. If you know what you want, you will also be successful in life, and this will ensure stability. Women want to know that you're compatible and stable. So, its important to figure-out who you are and what you want. Practice both confidence and courage. Be open, honest, and polite. Use eye contact and have good posture. Don't be critical, or prejudice of anyone, including yourself. Focus on your self-relationship, before you focus on a relationship with others. Wayne Gretzky once said, "You miss one hundred percent of the shots, you don't take." Dr. Seuss once wrote, "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Take a shot, with those who matter. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    5 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • New guy has a kid! What do I do?

    No, do not continue seeing him. Why would you? You said, you do not want kids, right now, and do not want a step-child this young. There is no point to continuing the relationship. You would only lead him on, if you went on another date, which would hurt him. Furthermore, you may hurt the child, if you stay. Right now, you haven't met... show more
    No, do not continue seeing him. Why would you? You said, you do not want kids, right now, and do not want a step-child this young. There is no point to continuing the relationship. You would only lead him on, if you went on another date, which would hurt him. Furthermore, you may hurt the child, if you stay. Right now, you haven't met this child, so if you leave, you will not hurt this child. A 4-year-old is old enough to bond with you. If you leave after the child has bonded with you, you will be breaking-up with both the father and the child. At least, if you leave now, you will not be emotionally invested. There will be other guys, your age, without children. Find someone who you are compatible with. You are incompatible with this man. He's only compatible with women who want to be a step-mom and want a step-child. Its best to end things now, than to wait and lead him on. Sometimes doing the right things feels bad. I'm sure he's a very nice man, and I'm sure you had a nice time with him. But, you don't want a child and he has a child. That's a deal-breaker, for you. Simply tell him, you're only 21-years-old and you're not ready for a child. I'm sure he'll understand. In the future, if a guy tells you, when you meet, that he has a child, don't date him. Your problem was, he was very upfront, and told you, when you met, that he had a 4-year-old and you dated him anyway, knowing full-well that you weren't ready for that kind of responsibility. Learn from this situation, and in the future you'll be able to make better decisions, as to who to date. I'm not saying its wrong to date someone with kids. I'm saying its wrong to date someone with kids, if you're not ready for kids, or don't want to be a step-parent. Find someone who you're compatible with. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    7 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • What do American guys think of English girls?

    Best answer: I think, for the most part, American's like British accents. I know what you mean by regional though. American's have this idea about what a Brit should sound like. When I traveled to England, I was surprised to hear all the various, more regional accents, some of which, were more difficult to understand, than others. I... show more
    Best answer: I think, for the most part, American's like British accents. I know what you mean by regional though. American's have this idea about what a Brit should sound like. When I traveled to England, I was surprised to hear all the various, more regional accents, some of which, were more difficult to understand, than others. I think, the stereotype is that British girls are educated, perhaps more posh, although, there is also a punk stereotype too. There is this idea that British girls are similar to American girls, but there are little differences, mostly having to do with certain British English slang. I think there are American's who are interested in British culture. There aren't too many negative British stereotypes. I can count, on one hand, the number of negative British stereotypes, that I've heard, in America. Negative British Stereotypes 1) All British people have bad teeth. 2) All British food is bad, including the warm beer. 3) All British sports are boring. 4) British people think they're better than everyone else, and are snobs towards Americans. 5) British people are bad drivers, because they drive on the wrong side of the road. I'm not saying these stereotypes are accurate. I'm just saying, these are the only negative stereotypes I've ever heard, and most people don't believe them. Chances are, you'll do well in America, for a few reasons. First, you're a girl. Girls can get dates. I don't care what a girl looks like, pretty much, any girl can get a date. She may not always be attracted to the guys who want to date her, but she can get a date. Second, many guys will think your accent is cute, if not exotic, and they'll be attracted to you, just because of your accent. If you happen to find a guy, who's particularly into British culture, like someone into Dr. Who, or The Beatles, then he'll go nuts for your accent. Finally, you're visiting America, not moving here. You won't be starting a relationship with a guy. At best, you'll hook-up. If all you're doing is hooking-up, its pretty superficial, and he won't judge you negatively, for being British. Lol, in-case you're wondering, there aren't any hard-feelings about the Revolutionary War or the War of 1812. :-) I think we've kinda gotten over that, and moved-on. As far as races of people go, there are far more negative stereotypes of Germans, Chinese, Japanese, Italians, Swiss and French. Heck, there seem to be far more negative stereotypes, in America, of other Americans, such as people who live in the South, people who live in the North, Blacks, Whites, Asians, hillbillies, rednecks, city folk, islanders, mainlanders, Alaskans, Native Americans, Texans, Bostonian, New Yorkers, people from Chicago, people from LA, people from Seattle. America is a HUGE place. If anything, we're far more bigoted towards our own people, than others. Its only when we travel outside of our country, that most of us declare ourselves as Americans. When we're in America, we tend to be hyphenated Americans, like Irish-American, Italian-American, African-American. As long as you're not Muslim, you'll probably do well. Of course, I'm sure that's true in England too, considering you, also, have a large Muslim population, and had your own 2005 attack. Trust me, we will, probably, like you better than other American girls. If you find someone who doesn't like you, then don't waste your time with them. Life is too short, to waste your time with someone who's bigoted. "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    7 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • Can a guy who has a girlfriend go on dates with other women?

    No, he has a girlfriend. Its one thing, if you're not in a committed relationship, and its quite another, if you are in a committed relationship. If you have not committed to anyone enough to call them your girlfriend, than you can date whomever you like. If you have committed to someone enough to call them your girlfriend, then you should... show more
    No, he has a girlfriend. Its one thing, if you're not in a committed relationship, and its quite another, if you are in a committed relationship. If you have not committed to anyone enough to call them your girlfriend, than you can date whomever you like. If you have committed to someone enough to call them your girlfriend, then you should not date other people. That's how monogamy works. Best of love in life and love. :-)
    8 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • What if a young girl goes out to her date with running shoes ?

    Best answer: If its a casual, or sporty date, then running shoes may be appropriate. If the date requires formal dress, than you'll want to wear more formal shoes. The shoes should match the situation. Not all dates are formal. Also, I guess it depends on who she's dating too. If he's wearing running shoes, then she can too. There... show more
    Best answer: If its a casual, or sporty date, then running shoes may be appropriate. If the date requires formal dress, than you'll want to wear more formal shoes. The shoes should match the situation. Not all dates are formal. Also, I guess it depends on who she's dating too. If he's wearing running shoes, then she can too. There are some very attractive running shoes, and some people enjoy wearing them. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • Are women truly interested guys whom have never kissed a girl before?

    Best answer: I don't want to speak for all women. I'm sure, there is some woman, who wants an inexperienced man, because she's inexperienced too. Inexperience may even be part of the attraction, if she's saving herself for marriage. That being said, I think these women are the exception, not the rule. I think, many women; I'm... show more
    Best answer: I don't want to speak for all women. I'm sure, there is some woman, who wants an inexperienced man, because she's inexperienced too. Inexperience may even be part of the attraction, if she's saving herself for marriage. That being said, I think these women are the exception, not the rule. I think, many women; I'm hesitant to say most, because I'm only really speaking about western-cultures; but, I think, many women would prefer a man who has experience. Obviously, you don't want a guy with too-much experience either, but many women do want a good kisser. They don't really want to teach a guy how to kiss. They want a guy to knows how to kiss them. There are a lot of women who are impatient, and will not give a guy another chance, if he's a bad kisser, or bad in bed. Women like confident men. Confidence is not the same as courage. Confidence is knowing what you want and who you are. Without experience, its difficult to know what you want, nor who you are. We're defined by our experiences. We learn what we want, by our experiences. More often, than not, we successfully discover what we do not want in a partner. The phrase, you have to kiss a lot of frogs, before you find your prince, comes to mind. Women don't really like kissing frogs. I know you're probably thinking, wait, how do I get experience, without getting an oppertunity? You know, dating is a lot like job-search. Employers will not hire you, unless you have experience, and references, but how do you get experiences and references, without a job? Even with an education, many places want you to have real-world experience. The same is true of dating. The idea behind kissing is pretty basic. You pucker your lips, and you press them against someone else's lips. Simple right? Yeah, not quite. Lots of people take sex-ed, but that doesn't mean they're good at sex, or sexually compatible with the person they're with. There are a lot of things, that an education cannot teach you. This is why employers want you to have experience and this is why women want men to have experience. Its been said, that women are sex-objects. Well, guess what? Men are success-objects. Women are attracted to success. To be successful, requires both experience and others vouching for you. This is why a resume requires both career history and references. Its the same for dating. Many people meet through friends. Their friend vouches for them. They tell the woman, this is a good guy. But, there are other ways we look for someone to vouch for us. We, often want our partner to have some experience, and know what they're doing. We want them to have some long-term relationships, in their past, instead of a bunch of one-night-stands. It can be difficult to gain experience, in the beginning, because people may not take a chance on you, without experience, but once you've gained experience, you will have more success, boy in love and life. Best of luck in love and life. :-)
    13 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • IS it ok to have sex with my exs friend?

    Best answer: No, its not okay to have sex with your ex's friend. Just because you're sexually attracted to Shawn, does not mean you should have sex with Shawn. You know I'm right, otherwise you wouldn't have asked. If you thought, even for a second, that it was okay to have sex with your ex's friend Shawn, you never would... show more
    Best answer: No, its not okay to have sex with your ex's friend. Just because you're sexually attracted to Shawn, does not mean you should have sex with Shawn. You know I'm right, otherwise you wouldn't have asked. If you thought, even for a second, that it was okay to have sex with your ex's friend Shawn, you never would have come here, and asked this question. Part of you know, its not okay. There may be a part of you, that know its not okay, but wants to do it anyway. Basically, you're not asking us if its okay to sleep with his friend. You're asking us to condone this behavior. You're asking us to take responsibility for this behavior. That way, when you do sleep with Shawn, you can say, well, those people on Yahoo! Answers said it was okay. No, its not okay. Just because you and Von no longer talk, doesn't mean that Shawn and Von no longer talk. Von broke-up with you, not Shawn. If Shawn sleeps with you, it will destroy their friendship. Do you really want to damage their friendship? Do you really want to hurt your ex's feelings? If you cannot control yourself arround Shawn, then you need to get away from Shawn. He is not your friend. He is your ex's friend. This is not a healthy relationship to pursuit. It won't end-well for anyone. To put this into perspective, that you may be able to understand, do you really want Von sleeping with one of your friends? Even if you say, you wouldn't care, if he did, you may not know how you'll feel, until afterwards. Sometimes, we don't care, until it happens, and then, we discover we do care. Don't have sex with his friend. If you want to have sex, do the right thing and find someone else. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    3 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago
  • How do I ge the old version of Yahoo answers back?

    http://ca.answers.yahoo.com This is the old Format Best of luck. :-)
    http://ca.answers.yahoo.com This is the old Format Best of luck. :-)
    5 answers · Other - Internet · 4 years ago
  • Feminine things for men to try?

    Stereotypical feminine things for men to try: Be protective Be a provider Listen Empathize Display emotion Cry Verbally communicate more Communicate your feelings Be social Enjoy the company of babies Enjoy the company of children Enjoy the company of animals Be nurturing Cook Clean Be well groomed Wear more... show more
    Stereotypical feminine things for men to try: Be protective Be a provider Listen Empathize Display emotion Cry Verbally communicate more Communicate your feelings Be social Enjoy the company of babies Enjoy the company of children Enjoy the company of animals Be nurturing Cook Clean Be well groomed Wear more colours Garden Exercise Prayer Meditation Wear softer clothes, that are more inviting to touch Smile more Instead of explaining how to fix things, without an explanation, relate a story of a similar event in your own life and how you resolved the issue. Honesty Ethical Moral Responsible Creativity Start and run a successful small business (female-owned and operated small businesses are more likely to succeed than male-owned and operated small businesses, within the first 5-years) Multitask Sew Do laundry Decorate Shopping Childcare These are, of course, stereotypes and do not apply to all women. Some of them may only apply to mothers. A lot of mothers are protective, providers, are honest, ethical, moral, responsible, enjoy the company of children, provide childcare, multitask, sew, do laundry, clean, shop, cook, listen and empathize. A lot of stereotypes we think of as being masculine, such as being a protector and provider, are inherently feminine traits. A woman's anatomy is designed to both protect and provide. Her womb protects, while her breast provides. Mothers of many species are very protective of their families, and many are excellent providers too, such as the lioness or mother bird. If you were expecting me to say things like wear make-up/moisturize or get a mani-peti, that could fall under grooming. The fact is, more and more men are moisturizing, and taking care of their nails, to appear more presentable. Humans are one of the only species, where the female is prettier than the male. In most species, the male is far prettier, and his appearance is used to attract a mate, such as the peacock. As you can see, there are many feminine things for men to try. Best of luck in life and love. :-)
    5 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 years ago