After 12 years of being in the family, my in-laws still think I am going through some "phase" or another where I won't eat their cooking. The current "phase" is vegetarianism. Mom-in-law cooks EVERYTHING in bacon grease and usually deep-fries a turkey, bakes a turkey, bakes a ham - and uses the drippings for seasoning everything else. Other than bread, there is absolutely nothing on the table I can eat - ever. She even tosses the salad with bacon drippings.
My hubby has been veggie for about 7 months now (partly because of health reasons, partly because of me) and the in laws are convinced he is just in a phase, too, like I made him join my "cult".
Every big family meal, I prepare a few dishes and bring them along so I will have something I can eat - but they still make me feel awful for doing so. I've tried to rationalize with them, but they are meat and potato deer hunting gun toting southern Baptists....
When they come to dinner here, I make sure to prepare something with meat - and stock up on white bread and soda. I am a very accommodating hostess.
Am I on a soapbox for no reason? This appears to be a battle I shall never win.
Am I being rude? I'm not even asking her to make anything special for us - I'm bringing my own food. Everyone potlucks - but when I do it they make me feel like I just ran over their dog.