• Was I right to confront my future sister in law about not making me her bridesmaid?

    So in the beginning of my brother's engagement he said he would make me his wive's honarary bridesmaid. I was very excited After six month in the engagement (today) my future sister in law sat me down and said, she would prefer to have close friends and her sisters to be her bridesmaids and insincerely... show more
    So in the beginning of my brother's engagement he said he would make me his wive's honarary bridesmaid. I was very excited After six month in the engagement (today) my future sister in law sat me down and said, she would prefer to have close friends and her sisters to be her bridesmaids and insincerely apologized. This pisses me off. So I later confronted her and told her how much of a controlling ***** she is and just jealous because my brother loves me more and I even threatened to ruin their relationship. She was in tears and my brother was very upset with me and hurt that she didn't want me as her bridesmaid. Who's in the wrong?
    17 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 1 day ago
  • Is it bad that my boyfriend watched porn?

    This happened awhile ago but my boyfriend confessed to me that even though we re together, he still felt the need to watch porn videos. He also confessed that he masturbated to them. Of course, I was shocked and felt betrayed. I could tell he felt guilty about it and he apologized, even in the days that followed.... show more
    This happened awhile ago but my boyfriend confessed to me that even though we re together, he still felt the need to watch porn videos. He also confessed that he masturbated to them. Of course, I was shocked and felt betrayed. I could tell he felt guilty about it and he apologized, even in the days that followed. We actually had a good talk about it. We re going on being together for 4 years now and we haven t mentioned that since. But I have to wonder, is it bad that he felt the need to do that?
    61 answers · Singles & Dating · 5 days ago
  • How many aunts and uncles do you have?

    I have an aunt from my dad's side and 4 uncles from my mom's, my mom is the only girl out of her siblings. How about you?
    I have an aunt from my dad's side and 4 uncles from my mom's, my mom is the only girl out of her siblings. How about you?
    14 answers · Family · 23 hours ago
  • Should my friend keep her kids away from their dad?

    my friend has left her marriage and she feels afraid of her husband. Some founded fears and some unfounded never the less she will not allow their children to speak or see their father. He wants to see and talk to his kids but she won't let him. I feel this is making the situation worse for herself but she... show more
    my friend has left her marriage and she feels afraid of her husband. Some founded fears and some unfounded never the less she will not allow their children to speak or see their father. He wants to see and talk to his kids but she won't let him. I feel this is making the situation worse for herself but she won't listen to me and in fact, it has driven a wedge between our relationship. I am just wondering if I am in the wrong for telling her she should let her kids have a relationship with their father. My point of view is that the kids didn't do anything that they should have lost their dad. He may have been a crappy husband but he was a good father. The kids loved their dad and he loves them. She keeps saying they will be fine without him. I don't agree and now she hates me for saying that. She feels I have sided with him but the reality is i have sided with the kids because they don't get a say.
    12 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 11 hours ago
  • Why is my mum such a ******* idiot?

    I asked her if I have permission to take magic mushrooms, and she said no, I have taken them before which she is well aware of, she is also well aware of the fact that they haven't done anything negative to me or anyone around me, yet she started to scream at the top of her lungs for me to get out of the house... show more
    I asked her if I have permission to take magic mushrooms, and she said no, I have taken them before which she is well aware of, she is also well aware of the fact that they haven't done anything negative to me or anyone around me, yet she started to scream at the top of her lungs for me to get out of the house and to not talk to her, and when I mean scream I mean she full of screamed, she also whacked me with a belt as i left the room I don't understand what her problem is, if she's not going to allow it I just wanted 1 good reason to why. I wasn't even annoying her I asked that 1 time. Is there anyway to convince her? Or is she some crazy ******* lady who's unfortunately my mum
    12 answers · Family · 13 hours ago
  • I hate my family please help?

    I am a 20 year old girl .I am graduated from biology science in high school because my family wanted me to be a doctor which doesn't fit me mentally.I always wanted to study mathematical and engineering disciplines in university.In my country there aren't colleges and we should pass hard exams for... show more
    I am a 20 year old girl .I am graduated from biology science in high school because my family wanted me to be a doctor which doesn't fit me mentally.I always wanted to study mathematical and engineering disciplines in university.In my country there aren't colleges and we should pass hard exams for university. Last year i couldn't be a medical student i must be a doctor this year which i hate. If i can't be a medical student this year i have no idea about what should i do with my family.Everybody is waiting for the exam's results.... I am depressed.If i can't get their goal my mom will cheapen me for the rest of my life.I can't study in any engineering disciplines because of my high school diploma... They act me like i am a kid.When my older sister who is 6 years older than me was 20 years old she was like a young girl... I don't even have a cell phone.I mustn't wear make up etc I want to die.They destroyed my future i could be very successful.... Please help me... And i am not American please don't tell me to move out
    17 answers · Family · 3 days ago
  • Do you need love In marriage?

    Let’s say that you married your wife because of a serie of unfortunate circumstances and family pressure. It was a kind of an arranged marriage. So you have no feelings for her, but you still think that she’s a good person.
    Let’s say that you married your wife because of a serie of unfortunate circumstances and family pressure. It was a kind of an arranged marriage. So you have no feelings for her, but you still think that she’s a good person.
    33 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 4 days ago
  • Why do women feel so entitled?

    They can clown a guy for being short but if a guy says that he doesn’t want a fat girl because it’s not his preference, then girls say “you’re a d*ck you’re supposed to love a girl for what’s on the inside” like wtf?
    They can clown a guy for being short but if a guy says that he doesn’t want a fat girl because it’s not his preference, then girls say “you’re a d*ck you’re supposed to love a girl for what’s on the inside” like wtf?
    11 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 days ago
  • Age difference is too much for her!?

    Best answer: OK first of all everyone saying that the fact the age gap bothers her means she doesn't like you enough are just people talking out of their a'rse who never were in love with someone much younger and better looking than themselves. Especially for a woman it can be a scary prospect since society is even... show more
    Best answer: OK first of all everyone saying that the fact the age gap bothers her means she doesn't like you enough are just people talking out of their a'rse who never were in love with someone much younger and better looking than themselves. Especially for a woman it can be a scary prospect since society is even more judgmental of it than if the man was the December and woman was the May party in the relationship.

    Everyone in her circle, including her child will have something to say and it will go from how dare you act like a cougar and want just sex from this younger guy to, good for you, you cougar you, get some good sex out of this much younger guy.

    It doesn't matter that you guys aren't really even that far apart in age, considering you're 30 yourself, your girl was never before in love with someone 13 years her junior and society has indoctrinated her that a woman should be with a man slightly or even a good deal older, or one her age, never a younger one...

    Also, no one, not a single person, not even the most well intentioned person in her life will assume that she might want a proper relationship with you, or that you would ever take her seriously enough to want that...

    She will, of course, want that and see that you too want it, but this indoctrination in her head and the people round her acting like this is impossible and crazy will constantly gnaw at her making her think you guys can't possibly work and she will get hurt and heart broken.

    She will imagine all the young women you can date, all their young perky bodies, and she will, as you say, be properly freaked out about all that.

    I think the fact that she dreads the age difference is more likely to mean she does care about you a great deal, than the contrasting...

    If she didn't really care about you, she'd get some good sex out of a younger man and when she'd done, or when you've had your fill of older woman fantasy and move on, she would be OK.

    But if she is in love with you, she must be properly terrified...

    Even though in comparison to how young my 17 years younger husband was when we met you guys don't have an age difference to your girl you do, since you are the youngest man she ever loved.

    She needs time to adjust to the fact you are 30 and she's 43 and that PERFECTLY OK. She also needs more reassurance than you could possibly imagine from you. You need to be very assertive, sure that you want her and show it abundantly, both emotionally and sexually. Be all over her sexually since she will start off thinking why on Earth would he bother with my mature body when he could be dating a 20 year old and her perky bum...etc

    I am worried a bit about the fact she said she wishes you were older and not that she were younger, since I personally in seven years never once wished my husband were older than he was. To me he's perfect just the way he is, I did wish many times I was a decade younger and more age appropriate for him....But that doesn't mean anything, it's one sentence out of many she said to you, that you may or may have not remembered correctly...

    Also, maybe I don't remember my life correctly either and I did act or even say I wished my husband was seven years older at the time... This doesn't mean I wanted to change him, or that he was immature...We all grow up in a society and our minds are inevitably indoctrinated with the beliefs (that can be right or wrong) of this society and I was taught to believe that if I accept a reationship with this man I adored I will disrupt his development and ruin both his life and him...I felt u had to leave him or I'm not just selfish but evil. Of course all he saw was rejection and he was hurt, he didn't feel loved but hurt... I was being hurtful....

    Anyway, point being, if you want this woman you have to be sure you want her and show it very assertively and abundantly...She will then be reassured you do want her, she's not just some older woman fantasy phase for you and she will get used to your age and she won't notice it anymore...

    Whenever someone says something disparaging about the age difference in my marriage i just think f'uck you, you ignorant t'wat, and sometimes i say it too...Doesn't phase me one bit, as before I would feel terribly selfish and like I'm tying my husband down to a literally OLD ball and chain and distracting him from perhaps women better for him on paper....But he showed me so many times, and with such love and passion, that it's me he wants, I make him happy and I can make him miserable by being a bad wife due to my indoctrination and fears, or by leaving...That finally I had to let go of my fears and indoctrination so I can be the kind of wife he deserves.

    Please disregard the advice of people who've never been in love with someone younger and are talking out of prejudice and their own indoctrination.

    People will assume many things, that she's in charge in the relationship, that you are looking for a mother figure....and many, MANY other stupid things that make zero sense...In reality I know some couples where the younger person (in this case the woman) is in charge and her significantly older husband is the walkover, I don't think power struggle couples have as much to do with age as much they are to do with character...

    In my marriage we are two equals who are trying to balance each other out and age doesn't even come into it...This is so because we are two people who don't believe love and marriage should be based on a power struggle but working together as a team...

    My husband is my rock and I try to be his strength as well, and I don't even remember the stupid fears and guilt that paralysed me in the beginning and I regret giving in to those and not being a better parter to my husband from the start...

    Good luck.
    11 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 19 hours ago
  • Do men like fat women?

    12 answers · Singles & Dating · 21 hours ago
  • Why have many women today lost the modesty of being naked in front of their parents?

    Best answer: They haven't.
    Best answer: They haven't.
    9 answers · Singles & Dating · 6 hours ago
  • Why do men leave women they really like because they’re ‘not ready for a relationship’?

    Why do they date women afterwards if they’re not ready.
    Why do they date women afterwards if they’re not ready.
    9 answers · Singles & Dating · 6 hours ago
  • Hi How do i get my husband from controlling our bank account?

    Hi My husband and I share the same bank account. My husband gives away the money that I work hard for to other people. I asked the bank for a separate account where I can control and use the money I earn from work. The bank said I cannot. Now I cannot control where my money goes since my husband has a lot of... show more
    Hi My husband and I share the same bank account. My husband gives away the money that I work hard for to other people. I asked the bank for a separate account where I can control and use the money I earn from work. The bank said I cannot. Now I cannot control where my money goes since my husband has a lot of control over our account? What do I do?
    13 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 1 day ago