• How often should married couples have sex ?

    Best answer: Anywhere from ten times a day to never. It all just depends on their individual libidos and what they've negotiated between themselves. Childless newlyweds will usually manage several times a week unless either of them have an extremely demanding job or unpredictable schedule. Sex tapers off of course if... show more
    Best answer: Anywhere from ten times a day to never. It all just depends on their individual libidos and what they've negotiated between themselves. Childless newlyweds will usually manage several times a week unless either of them have an extremely demanding job or unpredictable schedule. Sex tapers off of course if children are involved and there'll usually be about a ten or so year period when sex has to scheduled for "date night" or on those rare occasions they get to take a vacation without the kids. But then as the children grow into teens and prefer their own company the parents will have more freedom to rekindle their sex lives. There is no absolute to this though.
    17 answers · 3 days ago
  • Are you married?

    Best answer: yes i am married
    Best answer: yes i am married
    10 answers · 1 day ago
  • Is it true in marriage womens feelings shouldnt matter and she should obey husband either she likes it or not?

    If woman doesnt obey and displays her unhappiness , does it mean its her hormones ? My wife refused to have sex with me and i still force her too she often tells her daughter how ubhappy she is and she tried telling me too but i told her go to church so she even got more angrier .
    If woman doesnt obey and displays her unhappiness , does it mean its her hormones ? My wife refused to have sex with me and i still force her too she often tells her daughter how ubhappy she is and she tried telling me too but i told her go to church so she even got more angrier .
    7 answers · 6 hours ago
  • How can I have a prenuptial agreement with my fiancé without coming across as not caring about or loving her?

    Before I start off, it's been 17 years since I was born, I've never been in a relationship before, and I have never kissed anyone because I want to save that for one person. Call me what you will, I know who I am and it is my choice. Alright so, let's begin. I've been thinking about the future and... show more
    Before I start off, it's been 17 years since I was born, I've never been in a relationship before, and I have never kissed anyone because I want to save that for one person. Call me what you will, I know who I am and it is my choice. Alright so, let's begin. I've been thinking about the future and planning a lot. Marriage and Money are the things I think the most about. My marriage will obviously be the most important thing in my life, my family and friends second, and my money third. I am not a stingy person when it comes to money. I love paying for meals when eating out, giving big tips, helping people out financially when they legitimately need it, stuff like that. It makes me happy to help people. However, I am working very hard to set myself up financially for the future. I am not willing to get into debt except for absolute emergencies. And in the sad and unfortunate case of a divorce, I do not want half of my hard work to go to someone who is ditching me. Nor do I want someone to think that my stuff belongs to them. Those are the only reasons I even want a prenup. I want to be the best possible husband I can be, and love and care for my future wife more than most people do. Divorce is something I don't even want to think about because I hate it so much. Sometimes though, not everything is up to you. So now with my explanation done, how can I talk about or discuss this with a girlfriend/fiancé, but make sure that she knows how much I love her and knows my reasoning?
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • What to do if my friends with benefits ex-wife gets a serious boyfriend?

    Best answer: Well, first mistake was to think about getting back together. You two broke up for a reason, and that reason is still there. Get back, and you two will only break up again. Second mistake was to not do the "one-year NO communication" rule. Yes, now that she is falling for someone else, she will drop... show more
    Best answer: Well, first mistake was to think about getting back together.
    You two broke up for a reason, and that reason is still there.
    Get back, and you two will only break up again.

    Second mistake was to not do the "one-year NO communication" rule.

    Yes, now that she is falling for someone else, she will drop you.

    As for rekindling a flame, once a fire has turned to ashes you cannot re-light it.
    13 answers · 2 days ago
  • Am I wrong for giving my husband this ultimatum?

    My husbands friend has been living with us for over a year now. I only agreed in the beginning because he was getting kicked out of where he was living and needed a place to go. I assumed it would be a temporary thing (a few months, maybe) but boy was I wrong. This friend pays a small amount to live here and only... show more
    My husbands friend has been living with us for over a year now. I only agreed in the beginning because he was getting kicked out of where he was living and needed a place to go. I assumed it would be a temporary thing (a few months, maybe) but boy was I wrong. This friend pays a small amount to live here and only has to buy what food he wants to eat. So you could say he has it very easy. After the first few months I realized he had no plans to move out as he would spend all of his money and would be completely broke every single month. He was only asked to do the bare minimum around the house, such as washing his own dishes, cleaning his own room, and helping take care of the lawn. At first he was eating all of our food, and we have asked him probably 100 times to stop as he still steals food behind our backs. We ve also had to ask him time and time again to clean up after himself. He has no job, he gets a check every month, so he sits on his *** all day every day. I am getting fed up with him being here, as I m the one that has to clean up the messes and deal with the day to day as my husband is at work. I ve voiced my concerns to my husband many times.
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • I don't want to have sex anymore....?

    I am 49 years old and dont want to have sex with my husband anymore, we have been together for 31 years and I just dont want to. He on the other hand wants to everyday and gets mad at me when I say no so I just do it so he doesn't get mad. Please don't tell me to just do it or to talk to him and tell him... show more
    I am 49 years old and dont want to have sex with my husband anymore, we have been together for 31 years and I just dont want to. He on the other hand wants to everyday and gets mad at me when I say no so I just do it so he doesn't get mad. Please don't tell me to just do it or to talk to him and tell him maybe every other day or something like that. what could I do to want to do it.
    20 answers · 4 days ago
  • Financial imbalance in marriage, what do do?

    My husband and I have been together for 6 years, we don't have a kid yet but planning to have one very soon. Our relationship has up and downs just like others, we love each other but lately I've been feeling a lot stress from work and life in general. My husband lost his job 2 years ago, ever since... show more
    My husband and I have been together for 6 years, we don't have a kid yet but planning to have one very soon. Our relationship has up and downs just like others, we love each other but lately I've been feeling a lot stress from work and life in general. My husband lost his job 2 years ago, ever since I've been supporting us financially, lucky enough I got a well paid job. I'm nearly 10 years younger than him, it's a bit tough that I have to be the one supporting everything financially for two. I feel I'm losing my freedom because I'm working too hard, no weekend or holiday is normal for me, I'm doing two jobs to keep us going. He's trying his best I know, but definitely not in the right position to earn enough money to support the family. I understand once you're married, everything should be shared equally. Sadly my family and I have always been the weather part, now I'm reaching to a point that I'm tired of paying for two, I know this can be very selfish thinking. That if I was single, or with someone else who is in better financial situation, I could live with a lot more freedom in life. Now I'm looking after two. once we have a baby, I have to look after 3. I'm only 30, I don't want my life get stuck like this, am I being too selfish feeling that I shouldn't pay for two in a relationship?
    7 answers · 2 hours ago
  • Why doesn't my husband understand that he hurt my feeling over his comment?

    My husband recently found out that his daughter's mom is on crack and cocaine. She's lost everything and is sleeping in her car. My husband has had full custody of his, now 21 year old, daughter since she was about 2 years old. Her mom has several younger children and they are now with the older sister. ... show more
    My husband recently found out that his daughter's mom is on crack and cocaine. She's lost everything and is sleeping in her car. My husband has had full custody of his, now 21 year old, daughter since she was about 2 years old. Her mom has several younger children and they are now with the older sister. Well, he called me upset because they have always had a good relationship through the years and knowing that my ex-husband was on drugs he just needed to talk and get some advice. During our conversation he made the comment that he's going to do what he can to help her and right now "nothing trumps her and her situation." I took that to mean that he was placing his daughter's mom over me. I became highly angry and hung up the phone on him. They haven't been a couple in some 20 years so why is he so dead set on helping her out? No, I don't like her due to some drama she and I went through about 10 or 12 years ago. He met up with her after he got off work last night and when he finally came home around 9 PM you could tell he had been crying and of course, we got into it again. Now he's not speaking to me. I just wanted to know what happened but he felt that with the way I acted on the phone earlier in the day I didn't have a right to know anything. Is he right? Why can't he understand that he hurt my feelings with his comment?
    8 answers · 3 hours ago
  • Is it normal to have doubts before getting married?

    I'm a 26 year old female in a serious relationship...we are discussing marriage and I feel that he is going to propose soon. I know I'm at the "right age" to get married and I'm ready to start my life with someone. However I've been having these little thoughts of doubt about whether or... show more
    I'm a 26 year old female in a serious relationship...we are discussing marriage and I feel that he is going to propose soon. I know I'm at the "right age" to get married and I'm ready to start my life with someone. However I've been having these little thoughts of doubt about whether or not he's really "the one". I suffered a major heartbreak a couple years prior to meeting him (an ended engagement to another man) and it devastated me. I feel very lucky to have been given another chance at happiness with another man. But I am very aware of the potential for divorce as it seems like almost all of my friends are divorced. I dont want to go into something that will be a mistake or regret. He's a great guy, very responsible, etc. But he tends to make jerk comments sometimes. I've spoken to him about his comments, and he seemed very sorry about that and he said wasn't aware he does it. He said other people have told him he makes jerk comments sometimes, so I'm not the only one to notice it. I worry this will become a problem in our marriage. But its a good thing that he acknowledged it and was sorry for it. So I hope he will stop doing that. I think its just a part of his outgoing personality, to not think much about how his words may affect someone. Anyway...is it normal to feel doubts about someone before getting married?
    27 answers · 5 days ago
  • Do your in-laws insist on visiting at inappropriate times? What did you do?

    We are moving and will only be in our house "6" days and my husband's mother insists on coming to visit to "see" the house. We will have a massive amount of unpacking to do yet. His dad said, What, you won't have the place unpacked yet. To me that is just crazy talk, expecting the... show more
    We are moving and will only be in our house "6" days and my husband's mother insists on coming to visit to "see" the house. We will have a massive amount of unpacking to do yet. His dad said, What, you won't have the place unpacked yet. To me that is just crazy talk, expecting the house to be in order by 6 days. It is a stressful time right now packing everything up, let alone moving to a new place and company wanting to visit right away. Of course, my husband won't say no to them as they are in poor health. I get that, but their timing has never been good. I guess they will just have to deal with the boxes everywhere. Beds won't be entirely set up yet, etc. I will not make any apologies for the unpacking not being done.
    14 answers · 3 days ago
  • Caught my underaged daughter having sex my husband is encouaraging it and I despise it?

    My husband and I are in a disagreement because our daughter is 15. He thinks its amazing that she's having sex because that's when he started. He actually started younger than that. Anyway, I caught my daughter and I let them finish the deed and waited until later when the boy left and then I talked to my... show more
    My husband and I are in a disagreement because our daughter is 15. He thinks its amazing that she's having sex because that's when he started. He actually started younger than that. Anyway, I caught my daughter and I let them finish the deed and waited until later when the boy left and then I talked to my husband about it. It makes me sick that he's encouraigng this and he thinks its the greatest thing of life. He's praising our daughter for it as well. is this weird? Should I talk to my daughter if my husband already talked to her?
    46 answers · 6 days ago
  • I think I want a divorce?

    Best answer: Your title says a lot, because people who are ready to leave a marriage don't say they "think" they want a divorce. They know it! Is it possible your expectations are too high? Being the parent of a 1 year old is obviously a lot of fun and love, but it's also incredibly stressful. Are there... show more
    Best answer: Your title says a lot, because people who are ready to leave a marriage don't say they "think" they want a divorce. They know it!

    Is it possible your expectations are too high? Being the parent of a 1 year old is obviously a lot of fun and love, but it's also incredibly stressful. Are there other issues cropping up, like sharing of workload, finances, etc? If so, you may not have gone to a good therapist. Also, are the 2 of you having date nights together? Experts recommend this, because it gives you a chance to reconnect. It doesn't have to be expensive, but it's so important.

    Another idea: do you know anyone who's ever gone to those couples workshops on a weekend? I know 2 people in 2 different states who've done this, and they loved it! You learn a lot, but it's fun and rewarding. My husband and I are thinking of doing this, and we have a very happy 10+ years marriage.

    I'm not trying to talk you out of anything, but the way you wrote this doesn't sound like someone at their wits end. It sounds like someone in a rut. And you do want to be able to tell your child some day that you did everything you could to make this work.
    10 answers · 2 days ago
  • Should I get surgery to repair my hymen?

    Im a Muslim arab girl and I have been majorly worried that I will never be married or happy. I had my hymen broke when I was 15-16 by a mans fingers. I bled and hurt after that moment. So i know my hymen is broken. Now that im 22 I am worried that if I get a husband he will divorce me on our wedding night because... show more
    Im a Muslim arab girl and I have been majorly worried that I will never be married or happy. I had my hymen broke when I was 15-16 by a mans fingers. I bled and hurt after that moment. So i know my hymen is broken. Now that im 22 I am worried that if I get a husband he will divorce me on our wedding night because he will think im unpure and bad girl because I didn't bleed having intercourse. What should I do?? Should I stick with western men(white men) or marry an Arab Muslim guy and tell him the truth? Or get surgery to reintact my hymen?
    11 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is it wrong for my fiancé to ask me to pay him back?

    For a couple years, my fiancé had helped me with finances because I had a tough time getting work in my field. I recently landed a great job in my field and now bringing in more money, however, today he tells me that I owe him about 10k for everything he’s done for me. He said that he wants 300 out of every... show more
    For a couple years, my fiancé had helped me with finances because I had a tough time getting work in my field. I recently landed a great job in my field and now bringing in more money, however, today he tells me that I owe him about 10k for everything he’s done for me. He said that he wants 300 out of every paycheck of mine. First it was 500 then he lowered it. I appreciate everything he’s done and want to contribute to the finances, but he was being super rude and is treating our relationship like it’s a financial agreement more than a loving one where people just do things for each other out of love and kindness.
    33 answers · 5 days ago
  • Why would a girl say she doesn’t like you but get mad when you talk to other girls?

    I really like her and I love her really and I confessed it to her but she rejected me she is 8 years older than me. I sleep with her occasionally and we once privately escaped to the coast by the beach and we rented a beach cabin. I had alot of fun she seemed serious most of the time and smiled occasionally that... show more
    I really like her and I love her really and I confessed it to her but she rejected me she is 8 years older than me. I sleep with her occasionally and we once privately escaped to the coast by the beach and we rented a beach cabin. I had alot of fun she seemed serious most of the time and smiled occasionally that same week she was drunk and she told me to dance with her. she suddenly kissed me (she has never done that even in sex) and said that I am hers and hers only as she nuzzled my neck but then she denied ever saying that when she was sober then tells her friends “I do not like or love him. I only use his d***.” On Friday I went to a birthday party she was there too and she was sitting in a chair in the middle of her two friends I was standing holding a cocktail in hand and waved hi to her and her friends they said hi but she didn’t respond then a close woman friend introduced her friends to me we talked and laughed then I noticed she was staring at us coldly and fixedly. They took me to meet their boyfriends I didn’t see her anymore later I searched for her to offer her a ride home but she left with her friends before me. I texted her that night and it lead to me telling her “goodnight my love” she responded “I think you loved those women more. I saw it you were with them for almost the entire night” and didn’t reply again why is she like this? She says she doesn’t like me yet she gets jealous.
    7 answers · 10 hours ago
  • I have been trying to build a relationship with my father's wife but I feel like a total failer, what am I doing wrong?

    We also invited them over for a celebration party and the announcement of our first baby that will be born in 5 months. My dad's wife's reaction was a dirty nasty look, she then picked up the phone and called a taxi home, leaving my father to drive home alone. Over the years I have spent money and time on... show more
    We also invited them over for a celebration party and the announcement of our first baby that will be born in 5 months. My dad's wife's reaction was a dirty nasty look, she then picked up the phone and called a taxi home, leaving my father to drive home alone. Over the years I have spent money and time on this woman, I made sure my father and his wife always went on a nice holidays on their yearly anniversary. I spent one on one time with her only for her to say she's too tired. But the last event she made it very clear that she doesn't want a step grandchild to take up her husband's time that could be spent with her or spoil their plans on having a family. Exactly what do I do? I'm getting to the point where I'm tired of bending over backwards. And with the coming of my first born, I will need to save my energy on my new baby. I just feel that I have failed my father and his wife.
    15 answers · 3 days ago
  • What is normal and can you help with this very personal issue?

    Husband has had sexual dysfunction for 20 years. He takes Cialis but it doesn't always work. When he does take it, he reminds me we're going to have sex in a few hours after it kicks in. There is no romance, no follow up, just a "I took a pill so I hope you're going to be ready". He says this... show more
    Husband has had sexual dysfunction for 20 years. He takes Cialis but it doesn't always work. When he does take it, he reminds me we're going to have sex in a few hours after it kicks in. There is no romance, no follow up, just a "I took a pill so I hope you're going to be ready". He says this is the normal way to do this when you have a problem. I think part of the problem is his mindset and I feel that sex is too rigid of a topic so many times I am not interested. He says it's my fault he wastes his pills if I turn him down when HE is ready. He never asks if I am ready or initiates passion to make me ready! He thinks if he initiates some type of passion, and then I am in the mood, he may or may not be able to perform and then he could possibly fail, so he does nothing until we schedule sex and then try to make it happen cold turkey. He tells me it's up to me to work with him. Yes, I know I have to work with him but it's completely on his terms and there is no variation. He has talked to his doctor who tells him there shouldn't be a problem and this is a personal issue between us, telling me it's not a medical issue, yet he refuses to believe and insists it's all about the pill and timing of the pill and without the pill, he is helpless. When it doesn't work, there are reasons such as being too hot, too full, too something. He drinks daily and I think that is part of the problem too and so does his doctor who told him so, yet he doesn't believe him.
    12 answers · 3 days ago