We wanted to is the ultimate reason, we both want the commitment of marriage. There's legal benefits to marriage that there isn't living together.
A big legal privilege with marriage is medical decisions. If you're not married, you're not that persons next of kin so it won't be you who is...
Best answer: We wanted to is the ultimate reason, we both want the commitment of marriage. There's legal benefits to marriage that there isn't living together.
A big legal privilege with marriage is medical decisions. If you're not married, you're not that persons next of kin so it won't be you who is making their decisions for them if they can't their self. Their next of kin does, so it would be a child of legal age and if there is none, then it would fall back to that person's parents and then their siblings if the parents wasn't an option. The next of kin doesn't have to allow you to visit them, either or release any updates/information on it. My husband is who I would want making my medical decisions if something happened and I couldn't do it myself. I'm also the person that would make them with him, however I would also consult his family in them as well and I'm pretty sure he would with mine too. You can do that not being married by filing some paper work, but your family can also contest it. Being married, I didn't have to make those extra steps.
Kids - when a woman has a baby and she is married, the husband is automatically deemed the legal father of the baby. If she's not, the father has to be named on the birth certificate and sign it to establish his parental rights at that time. That has to be done when the mother is coherent. If something happens to the mother during the birth and she's unable to make decisions for herself, her next of kin will make them for her AND the baby because at that point if the father is not married to the mother, the next of kin for the mother is also the next of kin for the baby, until a court says otherwise.
Myself, I don't have any issues with people who decide to do things different than me. However, I think it's harder to show kids the commitment of a relationship if you don't actually have one to display to them. I haven't figured out why a couple will make a 30 year commitment to the bank for a house, but not with each other.
Some states still have common law marriage. If you meet the criteria for it and have an actual common law marriage what some don't realize is when/if you break up, you actually have to get a divorce just like a traditionally married couple will. My grandparents had a common law marriage back when it was recognized in Michigan and were together for 30 years when they split. Since they had assets and minor children together they had to get a divorce.
Bank accounts - if you have a shared bank account but are not married the funds in the bank account are fair game, first come first serve. If you broke up, one person can go to the bank and withdraw everything in the account. Since there's legal protection for cohabitation like there is with marriage, they're not required to give any of it back. Under marital assets they would have to pay back 50% of it.
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