• Abuse before marriage.?

    I am the man in the relationship and struggled with emotional (take away stuff, very crude name calling, isolating me, fictious people created to hurt me such police and other guys and slander against my family. Physical abuse ( objects broken over me, spitting, belting while I kneel, etc..) all routing from my... show more
    I am the man in the relationship and struggled with emotional (take away stuff, very crude name calling, isolating me, fictious people created to hurt me such police and other guys and slander against my family. Physical abuse ( objects broken over me, spitting, belting while I kneel, etc..) all routing from my past sins of lying and lusting visually in the past... Which is haunting me now and I can't pretend to be the victim because of the years of violence I have retaliated back sadly on a few occasions after being hit... She has been the hospital twice for bruised ribs and arm and I have been the hospital for stitches and head trauma... I have been more honest and don't struggle with pornography/ lust almost at all anymore... Although a violence and emotional abuse and slowed down in on how often it's still seems she will go from one to 10 Everytime we have a disagreement... As we are getting in 3 months till our wedding... On a side note i want to mention. This is not the main point of a relationship a good portions of the time we are happy and even can conflict resolution really well and have worked through alot of things that have gotten better.but in the future of commitment coming soon I'm getting really anxious to move forward because I do love and and I do care about her but there no concrete deadline for the insults and violence.. and I also love her enough that I want to be happy and we both will to go to counselling Please let me know of any advice.
    4 answers · 2 days ago
  • How do I safely leave my abusive loser husband without losing a significant sum of assets?

    My husband lost his job back in 2013 and ever since he lost his job he has become increasingly embittered. He has also become a "paranoid conspiracy theorist" and blames everything from his boss who he claims is a "witch" and he says the "false jews" destroyed the economy even though... show more
    My husband lost his job back in 2013 and ever since he lost his job he has become increasingly embittered. He has also become a "paranoid conspiracy theorist" and blames everything from his boss who he claims is a "witch" and he says the "false jews" destroyed the economy even though his termination papers site "severe attitude issues". He acquired multiple weapons including an AK47 machine gun, AR15 Assault Rifle, Glock Pistol, Colt Revolver, and Blunderbuss Shotgun. He has given me less and less time with the house to myself and is continually asserting his status as MAN OF THE HOUSE even though he has no income. He treats me like a child and constantly tracks my whereabouts and has adopted anachronistic fundamentalist christian religious views. He talks about obviously fictional literal biblical history as though it is fact and says that he has a plan to "save the world". He doesnt help around the house and I would have left him sooner if I knew I wouldnt have to leave him any assets. I feel closer to my BFF Meghan, and my ballroom partner Jamie than I do to him, and feel he has gone off the deep end. He sent a nasty letter to my ballroom partner Jamie saying that dancing was some sort of evil sin. He even came home from his storage unit where he has begun working with chemicals and walked in on Meghan and I during a hug and he said ,"Are you some sort of lesbian". I feel like I have less and less freedom, and he constantly verbally abuses me, and I am afraid.
    18 answers · 1 week ago
  • Neighbor/ friend and I are having affair and I don't know if she's leading me on advice?

    I moved into a nice condo in Salt Lake City for law school. I met my beautiful neighbor and she was so nice she invited me over for dinner amd we had salad and lasagna. We knew eachother from BYU and youth activities as kids. I texted a friend about her and he told me she's married. So fast forward a few days... show more
    I moved into a nice condo in Salt Lake City for law school. I met my beautiful neighbor and she was so nice she invited me over for dinner amd we had salad and lasagna. We knew eachother from BYU and youth activities as kids. I texted a friend about her and he told me she's married. So fast forward a few days later and she brought over milk and cookies and sat on the couch with me barefoot and sat on my lap seductively. I told her the only reason I slept with her the other night was because I thought she was single. She began to cry and told me about her failing marriage and then kissed me she said she doesn't love her marriage and that her marriage has been over the moment the wedding ended. She told me that her marriage is abusive, sexless amd she feels trapped. When I got this condo I didn't know she was my neighbor. Well we've been seeing eachother secretly for 6 months and she even bought me a Rolex watch and told me that it was for her kind lover. When I had to have surgery on my leg after it was broken a buddy of mine told me that her husband was suspicious of us when his wife found out that I was hurt and left the room and started crying in the bathroom,. I'm not sure what to do... her husband is always working and she even took me to her parents place and introduced me as her special friend and her mom said it was a pleasure to meet me. i love her but I'm not sure if she's leading me on. She said she wants to be together but that we need to wait
    4 answers · 2 days ago
  • My ex keeps contacting me about mail?

    Im guessing he could just snap a pic of it and txt to me . Instead last time he offer to drop it at my home and this time he is telling me “u have important legal mail over here”. Im not sure I even want to respond to him . I do miss him but he has manipulitive traits. If it was important wouldnt u just tell the... show more
    Im guessing he could just snap a pic of it and txt to me . Instead last time he offer to drop it at my home and this time he is telling me “u have important legal mail over here”. Im not sure I even want to respond to him . I do miss him but he has manipulitive traits. If it was important wouldnt u just tell the person where the mail came from but also if u didnt care about the person and wanted them to “go away” why even bother informing them of mail??
    7 answers · 4 days ago
  • Been with my married lover several years now. Recently I started having doubts. It's hard being a mistress. He said he'll never let me go.?

    He said he will never let me go. Even if I want to leave him, he won't let me. He says he has control of me. And he seems to like it that way. Should I be concerned? Why is this controlling?
    He said he will never let me go. Even if I want to leave him, he won't let me. He says he has control of me. And he seems to like it that way. Should I be concerned? Why is this controlling?
    6 answers · 4 days ago
  • What was life like for a gay teenager in the 1990's as compared to the life of a gay teenager in the 2010's?

    Best answer: My cousin is gay. He spent his teenage years confused and ashamed. He lived in a small town with closed minded people including his father. It wasn't until he was 18, moved away from his family that he found happiness and was able to live how he wanted despite losing the relationship with his father because of... show more
    Best answer: My cousin is gay. He spent his teenage years confused and ashamed. He lived in a small town with closed minded people including his father. It wasn't until he was 18, moved away from his family that he found happiness and was able to live how he wanted despite losing the relationship with his father because of it.

    I still remember the late night chats, his crying and fear about liking boys and too afraid to do anything about it because of what others would do/say.

    Now, people like who they like and most are not afraid to be themselves. There will always be haters, but more acceptable now.
    13 answers · 7 days ago
  • Kind of feel bad for him, but he made the decision and quite honestly he has bragging rights, agree?

    My dad just had a baby with a co worker of his. I went down to the hospital with him to see her and the baby. I asked him why he wasn’t there for the birth and he said that Jennifer’s mom didn’t want him there. She thinks their age differences are terrible. He’s 55 and she’s 26. Also they’re not dating anymore. He... show more
    My dad just had a baby with a co worker of his. I went down to the hospital with him to see her and the baby. I asked him why he wasn’t there for the birth and he said that Jennifer’s mom didn’t want him there. She thinks their age differences are terrible. He’s 55 and she’s 26. Also they’re not dating anymore. He wanted to be there for support since he knows the kind of pain Jen went through. I asked how. He said passing kidney stones. He’s passed a handful! He basically summed it up by telling me that they went out a few times and had a night of wild sex....resulting in a baby girl 9 months later. He said he’d like to be with her, but she doesn’t feel the same way and being they work together, makes it even more difficult. I kind of feel bad for him, but he did get a young, hot woman pregnant. That’s something to brag about. Agreed?
    4 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why do women hang with guys like this?

    These guys are typically athletic. These guys uses the word ‘gay’ in their sentences. These guys usually has excessive body and facial hair. Usually they wear a gold or silver chain necklace, sometimes they might wear ear rings. Sometimes they spike their hair and frost their lips, place light makeup... show more
    These guys are typically athletic. These guys uses the word ‘gay’ in their sentences. These guys usually has excessive body and facial hair. Usually they wear a gold or silver chain necklace, sometimes they might wear ear rings. Sometimes they spike their hair and frost their lips, place light makeup on. Sometimes you see them in pink shirts, and a white baseball cap pointed to an angle. When they walk they slowly move their head side to side. Sometimes they might have a tattoo of a tear underneath their eye. Or have a tattoo underneath their ear. Sometimes they wear fake sun tans. Sometimes they might look like they smoke but wear sunglasses even when it’s dark. These guys are called ‘the brothers’ ‘bros’ When you see these women Facebook profiles they’re always partying with these guys. When you attempt to talk to these women, these guys would show up around her and begin to smart off at you and try to provoke a fight. Or you may try to talk to her and these guys would appear and smart off insult you or bully you when you attempt to talk to her. Or these guys would bully you when you go where she is at.
    5 answers · 3 days ago
  • Are there any women who want kids but are not depending on a man for financial security?

    Best answer: Yes, quite a few.
    Best answer: Yes, quite a few.
    7 answers · 5 days ago
  • Where would a young man find single older women?

    Best answer: Anywhere really. I see older women everywhere I go. Grocery stores, coffee houses, malls, etc. Act self confident when you approach them, they like it.
    Best answer: Anywhere really. I see older women everywhere I go. Grocery stores, coffee houses, malls, etc. Act self confident when you approach them, they like it.
    5 answers · 4 days ago
  • How to deal with hateful aggressive disrespectful evil neighbors?

    Best answer: Ignore them. Do your thing like they don't exist.
    Best answer: Ignore them. Do your thing like they don't exist.
    11 answers · 7 days ago
  • Are you smarter than your mom?

    Best answer: I sure am now, but it's not her fault.
    Best answer: I sure am now, but it's not her fault.
    8 answers · 6 days ago
  • A random guy was looking at me many times for a long time...did i look familiar to him?

    Best answer: I would say he is interested in you, je doesn't have to look at you many times to determine if you are familiar or not.
    Best answer: I would say he is interested in you, je doesn't have to look at you many times to determine if you are familiar or not.
    4 answers · 3 days ago
  • Does your parent(s) spoil you?

    4 answers · 3 days ago
  • I live an apt. so my neighbors above us...not going into detail but they have been trouble..?

    Best answer: they admire your taste. it's flattery
    Best answer: they admire your taste. it's flattery
    5 answers · 4 days ago
  • Does he want a baby with her? Why does he say these things ?

    Best answer: He want kids with her.
    Best answer: He want kids with her.
    5 answers · 4 days ago
  • Is it any of my bosses business to know how my date went ? Or ask me about my date ?

    Is it his business..also to know I went on a date ☆ Sent from iOS Dr. Know! 1.1.04
    Is it his business..also to know I went on a date ☆ Sent from iOS Dr. Know! 1.1.04
    14 answers · 1 week ago
  • Why would God and loved ones and others call me selfish and a wretched, low-down scumbag for wanting to kill myself?

    Best answer: Why would God and your loved ones call you selfish? Well, I can't speak to their state of mind. I'm sure if you asked them, they would tell you exactly why you shouldn't kill yourself. I see many who are concerned for your well being here on this very cynical website are actually reaching out as... show more
    Best answer: Why would God and your loved ones call you selfish? Well, I can't speak to their state of mind. I'm sure if you asked them, they would tell you exactly why you shouldn't kill yourself. I see many who are concerned for your well being here on this very cynical website are actually reaching out as Christians. I myself am one, and from a biblical perspective, I'd have to agree with much of what they say.

    In God's eyes, and even your family's, you have a great path set ahead of you. God intends good things for your life, but you have to choose to follow in that path. All your life you've been "taking the wheel" and driving. Look where it has led you! It's led you to despair, deep in sin, and separated from God; who according to himself is love, light, and life. Those are precisely what we want in life! So really, if you want to feel joy, seek God out and know how he will judge. Know who he says he is first-hand rather than by listening to what other people have to say about him. Maybe he can change your life for the better. I know he can because he did it with me.

    So why then is it selfish to kill yourself? Well because simply God intends for us to do what he says. He tells his followers, the ones going to heaven, to spread the gospel of peace. He wants us to follow him. He wants us to love the poor, the widows, and the orphans. Your family wants these good things for you too, even if not biblical things. By you killing yourself, it's like giving the finger to all those elements and just ending it because it got too hard for you. If it's hard, console in the family that clearly loves you. Ask for their help to take some pressure off of you. Seek God so that you know how to pray to him, and then ask him for his help to strengthen you. What has kept you from doing that?
    10 answers · 1 week ago