• My mum laughs at my weight problem - is she mean?

    Best answer: She might be laughing because she thinks you dont have anything to worry about but you should tell her how it makes you feel.
    Best answer: She might be laughing because she thinks you dont have anything to worry about but you should tell her how it makes you feel.
    7 answers · 7 hours ago
  • How to set things right without being meddlesome?

    I've been babysitting my goddaughter's eldest son (and then her twin toddlers) for a long time. Sadly, she passed away earlier this year after a pregnancy complication. I'm devastated and trying to help around as much as I can. Her widower (the twins' father) is broken-hearted and not coping very... show more
    I've been babysitting my goddaughter's eldest son (and then her twin toddlers) for a long time. Sadly, she passed away earlier this year after a pregnancy complication. I'm devastated and trying to help around as much as I can. Her widower (the twins' father) is broken-hearted and not coping very well. Now my own daughter is expecting her first baby (in France) and I need to be with her because of some urgent matters. I don't feel good leaving the family, though. The young man is completely alone with the three kids because his in-laws - his mother-in-law is my close friend - dislike him so much (and I actually (and quietly) side with him because the dislike is simply not well-founded and wrong; it's just because he comes from a broken family). Anyway he also said recently that it's finally better that his in-laws is staying out of the picture because they drive him crazy and only want to take the kids away. He loves them for sure, but recently he also often falls ill and is generally becoming rather scatterbrained. Would it be wrong of me to ask my friend to check on her son-in-law despite this? I'll be away for at least 4 months (and there will be only a part-time baby-sitter). I worry that whatever I'm doing is wrong.
    11 answers · 4 days ago
  • My 32 year old son doesn't want to get married until he buys a car and learns driving, he says its his passion. Read details.?

    He threatens us that if we forcefully get him married, then he would never consummate the marriage (sexless marriage). We're from India, and his mother and I are both over 60 and don't know what to do. Please help.
    He threatens us that if we forcefully get him married, then he would never consummate the marriage (sexless marriage). We're from India, and his mother and I are both over 60 and don't know what to do. Please help.
    9 answers · 1 day ago
  • Would a 6'2" mom and 6'6" dad more likely have a 7'2" son than a 5'3" mom and 5'7" dad?

    a) yes b) no When you answer, can you give me an explanation?
    a) yes b) no When you answer, can you give me an explanation?
    11 answers · 2 days ago
  • My older brother harassed me on vacation, what should I say to him?

    So I’m sharing a room with my older brother on vacation, I was having a good time until he s*xually harassed me. I was sleeping last night without a blanket and to wake me up he started tickling and patting my bum. I’m so mad at him (he’s 17 and I’m 14), what should I say to him? (I’m not telling my parents and... show more
    So I’m sharing a room with my older brother on vacation, I was having a good time until he s*xually harassed me. I was sleeping last night without a blanket and to wake me up he started tickling and patting my bum. I’m so mad at him (he’s 17 and I’m 14), what should I say to him? (I’m not telling my parents and making an awkward situation, I can handle this).
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • Want to spend Christmas away from family but feel bad. Advice?

    So I have had a very rocky year with my family. I had a massive bust up with my mum and sister when I moved out to live with my partner of 3 years. I took my beloved cat to live with me and my mum wanted to keep the cat. The argument got ridiculously out of hand with both my mum and sister telling me I had changed... show more
    So I have had a very rocky year with my family. I had a massive bust up with my mum and sister when I moved out to live with my partner of 3 years. I took my beloved cat to live with me and my mum wanted to keep the cat. The argument got ridiculously out of hand with both my mum and sister telling me I had changed and they thought it was because of my boyfriend. After around 4/5 months of not speaking we started to slowly rebuild the relationship, however I still feel massive tension. I cant talk about my partner in front of them being a massive problem. My dad has been in and out of the picture. My mum and dad have broke up twice and twice got back together. This has been a roller-coaster for me and severely messed with my emotions. When my mum and dad are together, my dad never makes an effort with me or my sister. However when my mum and dad break up, he begs to spend time with me because he's lonely. ANYWAY this Christmas is the first Christmas in 2 years everyone is coming together, and I really do not want to go. Me and my partner have had a mentally exhausting year. We have gone through financial difficulty and I have suffered bad with my mental health after the family bust up. All I want is to spend Christmas in my new home with my partner and pets and just relax. I am scared to tell them. After working so hard to rebuild our relationship, I'm scared to ruin it. I feel like I'm treading on egg shells. Does anyone offer any advice?
    6 answers · 2 hours ago
  • Parents still won't let me stay out late I am 20 year old female?

    Hi I am 20 years old and living at home with my parents. They are both really controlling and strict over everything I do. They expect me to be home at 8pm or else it gets really dark. They said it is not safe for a female at night cause they are weary about rape, dangerous people and other stuff. I really want to... show more
    Hi I am 20 years old and living at home with my parents. They are both really controlling and strict over everything I do. They expect me to be home at 8pm or else it gets really dark. They said it is not safe for a female at night cause they are weary about rape, dangerous people and other stuff. I really want to go to parties which ends at 1am but cannot...
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • Is it a bad idea to raise kids without gender roles?

    A pre-teen boy wearing light makeup and a dress will receive different reactions from people compared to a girl of the same age. Children who don't know how they're expected to act might be perceived as socially awkward. There's lots of parents who don't want their kids to act a certain way because... show more
    A pre-teen boy wearing light makeup and a dress will receive different reactions from people compared to a girl of the same age. Children who don't know how they're expected to act might be perceived as socially awkward. There's lots of parents who don't want their kids to act a certain way because of their sex, but it could lead to the child being confused as well. If they're from a family where gender roles are non-existent BUT see particular differences between how boys and girls act outside of home then they might not know how they're "supposed" to be.
    7 answers · 20 hours ago
  • I'm begging my Mom to help me take care of my kids in the future when they are born but she won't help me if it's with a certain man?

    I had an abortion before by a certain man because she didn't like him and I had no education yet but this prompts me to go to school and now I'm finishing. I feel like I let myself get talked into an abortion by her because this man was no good etc. He doesn't work and lives with his Mom like I do and... show more
    I had an abortion before by a certain man because she didn't like him and I had no education yet but this prompts me to go to school and now I'm finishing. I feel like I let myself get talked into an abortion by her because this man was no good etc. He doesn't work and lives with his Mom like I do and also does not have a college degree so we were poor and succumbed to the decision to abort. I resent my mom for this because there are moms out there that no matter if you don't have a college degree, that they'll help you out. It's sad I didn't have a mom like this it's not like I was trying to use her for babysitting I was going to go to school but to her, it meant that since I didn't have a degree yet shell have to help out a lot. My boyfriend mom tried to help me but I didn't want to live with her because I didn't like the way her son was treating me he had friends over every day no privacy didn't care what I thought brought them over any time of day while I was visiting. Yes, it's not my house but still, i thought it was inconsiderate. why do you need so much time with friends if there's so much to do like go to school and work full time? especially since I was pregnant. but no hell play video games, smoke weed, and just not work as much or sign up for school. his mom also doesn't clean and the house is a constant party I couldn't bear the thought of raising a baby with that stress and that I didn't even have an escape plan because of no education. I still resent my Mom?
    7 answers · 21 hours ago
  • What is the adult thing to do?

    Best answer: I'm saying this to be helpful, I promise! But you are coming across as very selfish, even though that isn't your motivation. Is this your first serious relationship? I ask because you can't get close to a guy and blow off his family. It's understandable you're hurt by your own family's... show more
    Best answer: I'm saying this to be helpful, I promise! But you are coming across as very selfish, even though that isn't your motivation. Is this your first serious relationship? I ask because you can't get close to a guy and blow off his family. It's understandable you're hurt by your own family's actions, but you risk your relationship if you project this on to HIS family.

    What struck me most in your question was you saying you had a "good" convo with his grandma where you discussed how crappy your relatives are. Really?! Are you sure she enjoyed it as much as you did? You felt better because you were venting and whining, but this doesn't sound like an enjoyable discussion, especially to an older person.

    One thing wasn't clear. You mentioned not knowing anything about pricing. Are you expected to pay your own way? If so, obviously your best reason for staying home would be you can't afford it, but I get the impression he's paying. If so, why did you bring that up?

    The bottom line is simple. If you love this guy and want him in your life, you're going to have to make sacrifices. And if the issues remaining from your upbringing are so serious it prevents you from welcoming his fam into your life, do yourself a big favor and get some talk therapy to sort this out. It's not your fault you had a crappy childhood, of course, but at some point, as an adult, you want to realize you don't want your family defining your options. That gives them power they don't deserve.
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • I'm an only daughter, and I don't want to get married?

    I don't want to ever get marry or have a husband. It's that I want to spend my life doing other things, instead of raising a family. But I'm an only child and a girl, so if I don't have children, that's kind of it for my dad's lineage. He doesn't have any siblings either. I'm only... show more
    I don't want to ever get marry or have a husband. It's that I want to spend my life doing other things, instead of raising a family. But I'm an only child and a girl, so if I don't have children, that's kind of it for my dad's lineage. He doesn't have any siblings either. I'm only sixteen but am worried how this is gonna affect me when I'm older. :/ My parents haven't talked about this to me, yet, but I'm still scared.
    9 answers · 2 days ago
  • What can I do when my mother keeps comparing me to others?

    Others from my old school, from higher classes than mine, my elder sisters. Everyone. Be they bad or good. Even if I tell her to stop or express my dislike for such actions she won't stop. She's even comparing me to my head master.
    Others from my old school, from higher classes than mine, my elder sisters. Everyone. Be they bad or good. Even if I tell her to stop or express my dislike for such actions she won't stop. She's even comparing me to my head master.
    7 answers · 1 day ago
  • I need advice quick!?

    I'm a 20 year old college student and I'm living with my grandmother and aunts because of family issues amongst my parents. I thought living here would be so much better but it's not and the reason why is because there are constant arguments and a lot of bad energy. Even though it's almost a daily... show more
    I'm a 20 year old college student and I'm living with my grandmother and aunts because of family issues amongst my parents. I thought living here would be so much better but it's not and the reason why is because there are constant arguments and a lot of bad energy. Even though it's almost a daily thing, I'm used to it so it's not my biggest concern my biggest concern is one of my aunts always nagging. Everyday, "you're not doing this right or that right" "do you know how to wash dishes"....questions she already knows the answer to because she saw me do it sooo many times (and no she doesn't have alzeimers). Recently, it was an alteration in the hallway in our building and a man was calling a women filthy names and she's asks me if he was talking to me. (He was yelling the name Rosa and my name isn't Rosa) and then she went everyone else in the house that he was yelling at me because "he was yelling at a young women" and nobody's knows who Rosa is...she tries so hard to make me seem like a bad person and I don't get it. Another thing that kills me is my grandmother asking for money every other day. She acts as if I don't contribute to the house and she never complains about the other women in the house not buying things. They both went a couple of months without buying anything but it's not an issue when they don't. I'm paying off a debt to my school and I work a minimum wage job. You'd think out of all people my grandmother would understand that. I'm so done with life.
    8 answers · 2 days ago
  • Help me! my son been taken away!!! we really need your help on how to get him back?

    Hey i'm writing on the behalf of my mother-in-law. Her son was taken of her just about a week ago by social services because she 'abused' him 'mentally and physically' but she never did and they had no proof of it since its wasn't true. And we need some help on how to get him back because... show more
    Hey i'm writing on the behalf of my mother-in-law. Her son was taken of her just about a week ago by social services because she 'abused' him 'mentally and physically' but she never did and they had no proof of it since its wasn't true. And we need some help on how to get him back because there is only 5 of us that is trying to get him out because the rest of the family help to hand him over because they don't like my mother-in-law. We just need some tips and how to get him back. please help we really need it...
    7 answers · 1 day ago
  • How would you react if your parents took your stuff?

    When me and my brother were kids/teenagers, anytime we got anything new, our parents always took it. For example, one year, I got a brand new TV for my birthday from my grandparents and my parents took it from me and gave me their old, crappy one in exchange. They also took any Christmas money we got from... show more
    When me and my brother were kids/teenagers, anytime we got anything new, our parents always took it. For example, one year, I got a brand new TV for my birthday from my grandparents and my parents took it from me and gave me their old, crappy one in exchange. They also took any Christmas money we got from relatives (to spend on themselves. They didn't save it for college or anything). When I was a teenager, my grandfather gave me a car. It wasn't a very new car but it was in good shape. My parents also took that and never let me drive it and they ended up messing it up. If your parents had been like this, would you ever be able to forgive them?
    9 answers · 2 days ago
  • My daughter is acting spoiled.?

    I planned a nice trip to Japan because my daughter said she wanted to see snow for the first time. Suddenly she tells me that her favourite band is coming to town and coincidentally they're coming the day before we come back from our trip. She's begging me and crying to change the flight but I already told... show more
    I planned a nice trip to Japan because my daughter said she wanted to see snow for the first time. Suddenly she tells me that her favourite band is coming to town and coincidentally they're coming the day before we come back from our trip. She's begging me and crying to change the flight but I already told her it will be expensive and troublesome but she keeps on pestering me to do so. What should I do?
    9 answers · 2 days ago
  • What happens if you buy someone an expensive car they can't afford the insurance for?

    In real life example: My mother makes over 300k a year and has always been very generous to her children, using her wealth to pay for our apartments, rent, insurance, travel costs. Well last year my mother bought me a BMW as I requested because I had no transportation. Well, now my mother is having a tantrum and... show more
    In real life example: My mother makes over 300k a year and has always been very generous to her children, using her wealth to pay for our apartments, rent, insurance, travel costs. Well last year my mother bought me a BMW as I requested because I had no transportation. Well, now my mother is having a tantrum and has been trying to squeeze me dry of what little money I have saved because she's just that type of toxic person... She has sent me a bill for my health & car insurance. She has sent me a bill for minor damages to property I may have done over the years of living in her house. She has sent me a bill for rent I must start paying. She has withheld my paycheck (I work for her company) in argument that I haven't done the work due. She has sent me a bill for my tuition... I obviously can't afford all of these things. Why would a mother who makes over 300k a year try to financially suck her son dry of his savings by billing him for everything she can and withholding his paycheck? If this continues I'll be in debt in just a few months.
    5 answers · 24 mins ago