• If you're old, can you give me some life-related advice? (Read full).?

    See, i know this is going to sound rude so if you're easily offended just don't read, duhh. I am 20 & a Black woman. I do my best to look good.. You do get the idea. I try to look my best. Thankfully I'm not bad-looking so i do get asked out too When i was growing up, i always noticed how... show more
    See, i know this is going to sound rude so if you're easily offended just don't read, duhh. I am 20 & a Black woman. I do my best to look good.. You do get the idea. I try to look my best. Thankfully I'm not bad-looking so i do get asked out too When i was growing up, i always noticed how practically all men, esp. non-white ones, LUSTED after White women. My own brother, and my dad (though he's still married to my Black mom), too. It was hurtful. My brother is 12 years older than me. He used to EXCLUSIVELY date White women. My dad would visibly lust after those women. And all other men too. So growing up, i decided I'll ONLY date White men, because i know how ,on the inside, most of these men (including my brother who is HIGHLY successful) will reject the best of Black girls for her colour. I'd rather not be someone's compromise or second choice. I'll date only White guys so that i can be assured they find me attractive for having Black skin, or finding me exotic..instead of because they "couldn't land a White girl". I am trying to make myself prettier and I'm in University, now. I date only White men. I have straight hair, I'm thin, i speak properly and do my best in studies because i want to be rich and be able to live happy, and get revenge on those who made me feel less because I'm a Black woman. Do you have any advice for me (only answer if you're older than at least 35-40)? How do i become a successful, rich, pretty Black girl who can attract White guys easily?
    56 answers · Family · 1 day ago
  • My dad wont give me back my ipod back?

    42 answers · Family · 24 hours ago
  • I don’t know what to do with my son and how he treats me?

    My son is 19 and his gf is 16 and she pregnant with a boy. He told me when he found out that if I recommend circumcision he will send me to the ER and get a restraining order. He hates me for that and a few years ago he got some tugging device for it and I threw it out and he got MAD. Her (K) and her parents hate... show more
    My son is 19 and his gf is 16 and she pregnant with a boy. He told me when he found out that if I recommend circumcision he will send me to the ER and get a restraining order. He hates me for that and a few years ago he got some tugging device for it and I threw it out and he got MAD. Her (K) and her parents hate me. They were nice at first and then cause they love my son so much they hate me cause of probably what he told them. I also think he’s bisexual (his internet history when he was younger and the way he hung around other boys and girls too and he acted gay when he was little but doesn’t anymore). K is also racist (she’s Hispanic) and called me white trash. She said she’ll be the mother I can’t be. My son also hates that I didn’t tell him he had Asperger when he was little and told his sister and talked to her about some of his issues before even him and claims I favor her (it’s not that he was just always harder to love) he also threatened to shoot my husband if he came near his gf or son. Also they live in a little apartment in a ghetto part of Pennsylvania I don’t wanna say where but near philly and he got mad when I said it wasn’t safe to raise a kid there. He also hates my dead dad and spread lies about what a bad man and child beater he was. (After he died he could not be bothered with anything about him) and didn’t cry at all. My son also smokes pot at least once a week and drinks. He implies I’m stupid all the time how stupid I am and I can’t take it?
    18 answers · Family · 21 hours ago
  • I wanna get rid of my girlfriend but she said she will kill herself if I leave her?

    Best answer: She is NOT a good match for you. She has a lot of really negative behaviors that NO ONE should tolerate in a partner (or even just a friend). Calling 39 times is obsessive and ridiculous. You simply did not have your charger with you - there is nothing wrong with that. We can't always charge our phones whenever... show more
    Best answer: She is NOT a good match for you. She has a lot of really negative behaviors that NO ONE should tolerate in a partner (or even just a friend). Calling 39 times is obsessive and ridiculous. You simply did not have your charger with you - there is nothing wrong with that. We can't always charge our phones whenever we want/need to unfortunately. Aggressive behavior is also negative and can turn physically violent. She sounds like the obsessive stalker type and THOSE are the types you run far away from.

    If she is threatening to harm herself, it is very likely a guilt-trip/manipulation method to try to "force" you to stay with her. She thinks if she makes massive threats like this, you'll stay with her just to keep her from hurting herself. Don't let that happen to you. Sit down and have an honest talk with her. Let her know that her behavior is absolutely unacceptable and you can't tolerate it any longer. Tell her you don't think she's the person you first thought she was. Let her know that hurting herself will not solve ANYTHING and encourage her to get help for her behavioral issues.

    To avoid issues after you call it off you can change your phone number (and ask others NOT to give her your new one), remove/block her on all social media, keep an eye out in public (don't stay holed up in your house, but try your best to avoid her if you happen to see her out somewhere), and make sure you collect any personal items of yours from her that could be an issue (like house/apartment or vehicle keys), and don't be afraid to consider adding some type of security system to your home. I would also warn any NEW dates you may get about her (often times, problematic exes will try to harass/stalk the new partner as well as their ex lover). If any form of harassment or stalking gets too out of hand, contact the local authorities. You definitely cannot stalk people. If they don't want to be with you, too bad. Stalking and harassment are very much so illegal.

    If you're concerned for her safety, call the authorities and explain the situation to them, then see if they'll go do a wellness check. Also, alert people closest to her (friends/family) and let them know what she's been doing and saying.
    32 answers · Singles & Dating · 1 day ago
  • I was molested by another girl?

    Me and my this girl used to have sleepovers when we were both little and i remember i woke up onetime in my bed touching me i asked what she was doing and she said nothing and kept going i told her to stop but she kept talking about how it'll help me and stuff, another time i went to her house and she did it... show more
    Me and my this girl used to have sleepovers when we were both little and i remember i woke up onetime in my bed touching me i asked what she was doing and she said nothing and kept going i told her to stop but she kept talking about how it'll help me and stuff, another time i went to her house and she did it again. she kept taking advantage of me because she was older telling me things making me think it was fine and everything it wasn't until months back i realized what it was and ever since then i just feel so dirty and gross i don't know how to deal with this because i don't want to tell anyone because im scared they'll look at me different. i mean i told my only friend what happened but she didn't really help me at all and it didnt seem as she'd care. i'm losing my mind over this i can't stop thinking about it and i don't know what to do. Please...help!
    22 answers · Friends · 2 days ago
  • Would you keep a man who has this 'baggage'?

    I'm the so-called "a trust-fund baby", financially secure but not rich (don't envy me; I got it because my mom died in an accident). Meaning I can rent (not buy) a flat in a good neighborhood and have a holiday once a year (nothing fancy, tho'). I have a job as an administration staff as... show more
    I'm the so-called "a trust-fund baby", financially secure but not rich (don't envy me; I got it because my mom died in an accident). Meaning I can rent (not buy) a flat in a good neighborhood and have a holiday once a year (nothing fancy, tho'). I have a job as an administration staff as well. Now I'm in a pretty serious relationship with a researcher. As he's working in a university instead of in industry, he's not rich either. I don't mind that. The problem is this: He's half-Japanese, and his widowed mother lives in Japan (no possibility of her coming here). He has recently told me that he has to fully support her, because she has done everything to ensure him a good education in the West, and now she doesn't have enough saving to keep her tiny home unless he helps her. He told me so that I can decide if I want to continue our relationship despite this, as this means that I have to "share" with his mother. I don't want to sound shallow, but this has rather taken me aback. He's a kind and steady man who has promised to prioritize me, but - because he doesn't want to let his mother to lack anything either - this means that we're not going to be as comfortable as I've imagined. Without this problem, we would be able to buy a house and have no worries about bills. He has an elder brother who doesn't want to divide the burden, but he has this sense-of-duty that makes me rather worried for the future. Were you in my position, would you take this man despite his 'baggage'?
    22 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 2 days ago
  • 16 years old, been sheltered my whole life, is this normal for parents to do?

    So my parents are really strict, to a point where I'm just stuck in the house. I have friends at school but the only time I talk to them is over the phone or through text, but sense I don't really know them outside of school or really "hang out" with them, I feel like I only know the school side... show more
    So my parents are really strict, to a point where I'm just stuck in the house. I have friends at school but the only time I talk to them is over the phone or through text, but sense I don't really know them outside of school or really "hang out" with them, I feel like I only know the school side of them. So yea, I really don't consider anyone to truly be my best friend or even my friend in general. I've missed so many events that would have benefited me towards things like college (college visits my parents will not let me attend) and events where I can have fun, to a point where I don't even care about going to things like prom. I'm just tired of being fake and pretend happy to people, because I truly feel lonely and depressed all the time in the inside, and nobody knows that. So there really wouldn't be any reason for me to even go to prom. Like I've never even had a girlfriend or even a first kiss for that matter, and I'm only 16. Like everyone is doing so much, and it may seem little or not as important, but too me, because of my parents sheltering me off so ******* much, I feel like the most loneliest person in the world. IN the house, I'm either asleep, on the internet most of the time, or just shooting hoops in my backyard. That's practically it. It honestly just sucks, that I have no emotions to things that are "important" IS THIS NORMAL FOR PARENTS TO DO? HAVE YOUR PARENTS DONE THE SAME THING?
    25 answers · Friends · 1 day ago
  • Would you ever cheat on someone?

    Best answer: No. Because I wouldn't want to be cheated on myself.
    Best answer: No. Because I wouldn't want to be cheated on myself.
    102 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 days ago
  • Do you have a dirty secret?

    Best answer: Yeah, but if I told, then I'd have to kill you.
    Best answer: Yeah, but if I told, then I'd have to kill you.
    15 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 hours ago
  • Can a guy think of a girl alot and not text/call her?

    What are the reasons
    What are the reasons
    58 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 days ago
  • Would you kick out your nephew?

    Best answer: Like they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I'm curious about what was said to him when you let him in. Did you write this out as a contract with a final deadline date or was this just a friendly chat? I have a horrible feeling it was more like the latter!. Also, is there any stipulation... show more
    Best answer: Like they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I'm curious about what was said to him when you let him in. Did you write this out as a contract with a final deadline date or was this just a friendly chat? I have a horrible feeling it was more like the latter!. Also, is there any stipulation about jobs and contributing to family income? Finally, whose family "side" does he come from?

    I ask because what happens next is mainly the responsibility of the spouse whose relative he is. The biggest risk here is to your marriage, so if this is your relative, your wife is going to start resenting you for this mess. If it's her, you'll start resenting. So one of you owes it to the other to come down much harder on this nephew, including kicking him out.

    People are telling you to kick him out, but it's not as easy as it sounds. If he refuses to go, in most states this involves a court hearing (this all started as a way to protect tenants rights).

    You have 2 choices. If you want to give him one last chance, you've got to step up your game. Write up a contract with specific dates, like he needs to be employed w/in 5 days. He needs to give X percent of his income to you. He's to help with chores around the house, including his laundry. Get him to agree and sign this.

    If he gives you lip, or you're at the point where you're past this, then try kicking him out. If he refuses to leave, then you have to make it much more difficult for him to live there. This will be unpleasant for both of you, but you're out of options. Find a way to not give him access to your food, even if it means putting a lock on the refrig. Obviously, stop cooking for him. Dinner is for the 2 of you, and if he gets obnoxious or tries taking it anyway, call the cops. He's stealing from you.

    If he has a key to your place, try to snag it where he keeps it (it's not stealing, because it's your property). If this doesn't work, change the locks and don't give him a new key. Tell him you'll let him back in until 8 pm and after that you won't. If he stands at the front door yelling, call the cops.

    I know all this sounds extreme, but don't forget, he thinks of you and your wife as easy marks and he's taking advantage of you. You can "love" him as a relative but hate him as a person, and this is where you need to be.
    21 answers · Family · 1 day ago
  • My mum wants to kick me out and have another baby Because she dont get any money from CSA anymore?

    Im 17 and my mum wants to kick me out as she no longer gets money from CSA?shes planning on having another baby so she gets the money back! However i want to live with my friend but my mum said she will get the police involved. Shes kicking me out so surely she cant do that!
    Im 17 and my mum wants to kick me out as she no longer gets money from CSA?shes planning on having another baby so she gets the money back! However i want to live with my friend but my mum said she will get the police involved. Shes kicking me out so surely she cant do that!
    8 answers · Family · 22 hours ago
  • What are insufffiecnment funds?

    Best answer: It means that you do not have the money or do not have the entire amount of money that you are trying to spend on a debit or credit card.
    Best answer: It means that you do not have the money or do not have the entire amount of money that you are trying to spend on a debit or credit card.
    6 answers · Family · 22 hours ago
  • Did I make a mistake joking with my friend about her mom?

    Yesterday, I was with my friend and her mom, and she took us to the mall to eat. Her mom (who is pretty heavy) was walking ahead of us. She was wearing a thin maxi dress, and if you looked carefully you could tell she was wearing a thong panty. I joked to my friend that her mom's buttocks ***-clap whenever she... show more
    Yesterday, I was with my friend and her mom, and she took us to the mall to eat. Her mom (who is pretty heavy) was walking ahead of us. She was wearing a thin maxi dress, and if you looked carefully you could tell she was wearing a thong panty. I joked to my friend that her mom's buttocks ***-clap whenever she walks. My friend did not say anything for a few moments, then talked about other things. We've joked about our moms before, so I did not think this would be a problem. I don't know if she got offended or not. Should I ask her, or just ignore it?
    14 answers · Friends · 9 hours ago
  • Ex gf says “go with with the flow” to me. Is she just being friendly or might reconsider getting back together?

    Basically me and my ex decided to be friends. (Long distance)I haven’t talked to her much cause I wanted to give her space after the break for the both of us. So I’m actually suppose to see her in August for two weeks. I just told her out of the blue if we should just talk when she gets back from her study abroad... show more
    Basically me and my ex decided to be friends. (Long distance)I haven’t talked to her much cause I wanted to give her space after the break for the both of us. So I’m actually suppose to see her in August for two weeks. I just told her out of the blue if we should just talk when she gets back from her study abroad trip and if she feels comfortable sharing a bed when I see her. She said these two things 1) about the bed situation “We’re visiting a refugee site?? we’re all confused as to what it is exactly but that’s what we’ve been told lol and it’ll be fine. if it does get weird i’ll sleep with (her friend) or on the floor idc. just don’t worry about it. 2)about the texting her “it‘s fine to text while i’m here. we don’t have to wait or save stuff to talk about once i’m finally home. that’s too much. stop overthinking things, just go with the flow and not worry too much” Is she showing somewhat of an interest or just playing it cool as friends?
    34 answers · Singles & Dating · 3 days ago
  • Should I tell my ex’s wife he cheated on her?

    I'd been in a secret relationship with my boss for for 6 months. I'm 24, he's 46. I wanted to be with him properly and he said he was going to leave his wife but after he kept making excuses about it not being the right time for her and his kids etc I told him either he told her or I will. Then he... show more
    I'd been in a secret relationship with my boss for for 6 months. I'm 24, he's 46. I wanted to be with him properly and he said he was going to leave his wife but after he kept making excuses about it not being the right time for her and his kids etc I told him either he told her or I will. Then he decided not to leave his wife and he's fired me from my job citing poor performance. Should I tell his wife what's been going on? My worry is she won't believe me and she'll just think I'm bitter about being fired.
    26 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 2 days ago
  • My wife wants to work but I don't think it's inconvenient. Please tell me what you think. Thanks?

    I run my own company and drive a truck. I usually work from morning till around 6 pm. I pay for all the bills and everything she wants. But now after 3 years she wants to get a job that starts at 5pm. I find it inconvenient because after a hard day of work I have to get home then switch cars to go pick up the kids... show more
    I run my own company and drive a truck. I usually work from morning till around 6 pm. I pay for all the bills and everything she wants. But now after 3 years she wants to get a job that starts at 5pm. I find it inconvenient because after a hard day of work I have to get home then switch cars to go pick up the kids and I know the kids would rather be at home than going to the babysitter. I used to like coming home to my kids screaming dads home and it's nice to come home and see my wife. How should I feel about this thanks
    13 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 12 hours ago