• Is it wrong to do this to my husband?

    Sometimes I slip tablets into my husband's coffee or tea to help stimulate him to have sex with me. Sometimes he's too tired or never aroused We had a dry spell where we would have sex once a month. Now with using the tablets we have sex 3-5 days a week. One of my girlfriend's suggested this and I... show more
    Sometimes I slip tablets into my husband's coffee or tea to help stimulate him to have sex with me. Sometimes he's too tired or never aroused We had a dry spell where we would have sex once a month. Now with using the tablets we have sex 3-5 days a week. One of my girlfriend's suggested this and I feel good about it. But another friend of mine said its immoral and said I should divorce him for not naturally being able to have sex as much as I desire. Am I horrible wife?
    15 answers · 16 hours ago
  • Husband wants to charge my parents for staying in our house?

    So my parents are coming to stay with us for a week next month since we moved to a different state and don't get to see them often. My husband has been dreading this for awhile. He doesn't like them and they don't like him that much. They weren't enthusiastic with me marrying him because he... show more
    So my parents are coming to stay with us for a week next month since we moved to a different state and don't get to see them often. My husband has been dreading this for awhile. He doesn't like them and they don't like him that much. They weren't enthusiastic with me marrying him because he doesn't have a standard job (flipping real estate) and that he smokes weed (we now live in a legal state). My husband has told me he plans on calling them and telling them he will charge them $100 a night to stay at our house. He thinks that they shouldn't be allowed to be in our house without compensation. I don't want him to do this as these are my parents and they don't have much money. Most hotels in our area are more than $100 except bad motels. What should I do?
    21 answers · 19 hours ago
  • If a husband uses porn to masturbate only when he is away from his wife for a month, should the wife be angry about it?

    In general, the wife prefers to have sex only once or twice a month, whereas the husband would prefer to do it at least once a week. For reasons of work, the husband was sometimes away for a month, during which he used porn for masturbation. On one occasion, the wife discovered it, and she was extremely angry,... show more
    In general, the wife prefers to have sex only once or twice a month, whereas the husband would prefer to do it at least once a week. For reasons of work, the husband was sometimes away for a month, during which he used porn for masturbation. On one occasion, the wife discovered it, and she was extremely angry, complaining about the issue even 3-4 years later. Were her complaints justified? Cheating or sexting never occurred.
    21 answers · 23 hours ago
  • Starting to question marriage?

    My husband and I are pregnant with twins. I’m due in September. I’m planning to take off for a year to take care of the kids. He told me that if I take a year off he’s not supporting me but will support the kids. He asked me why should he support me financially while I’m on a “year long” vacation. I’m devastated.... show more
    My husband and I are pregnant with twins. I’m due in September. I’m planning to take off for a year to take care of the kids. He told me that if I take a year off he’s not supporting me but will support the kids. He asked me why should he support me financially while I’m on a “year long” vacation. I’m devastated. We both currently work full time. I’m actually taking 4 weeks off prior to having our sons which my husband is also upset with. I’m really considering divorce after having the boys. Any advice?
    21 answers · 2 days ago
  • My wife wrecked my car?

    She gave my car to her teenage brother who got his licence like yesterday. She didn’t ask me or anything. She just gave it to him. I get no insurance money because the punk was driving while drunk. I really wish he died. Tell me what to do with this anger? And what to do with my shityy wife and her **** family?
    She gave my car to her teenage brother who got his licence like yesterday. She didn’t ask me or anything. She just gave it to him. I get no insurance money because the punk was driving while drunk. I really wish he died. Tell me what to do with this anger? And what to do with my shityy wife and her **** family?
    19 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why do married men have side chicks (mistresses)?

    Best answer: They can get what they need that they're not getting at home and they don't have to mow the lawn or take out the garbage or put up with screaming brats and a mother-in-law.
    Best answer: They can get what they need that they're not getting at home and they don't have to mow the lawn or take out the garbage or put up with screaming brats and a mother-in-law.
    47 answers · 4 days ago
  • Is Getting married in 2018 a stupid decision?

    I’m a 19 year old male, and for some reason I cannot wrap my head around why people get married in 2018, specifically men. I think it’s betamale behavior to get married due to the simple fact that most women cheat in the process. Getting married also poses huge financial risks such as alimony, child support (since... show more
    I’m a 19 year old male, and for some reason I cannot wrap my head around why people get married in 2018, specifically men. I think it’s betamale behavior to get married due to the simple fact that most women cheat in the process. Getting married also poses huge financial risks such as alimony, child support (since women almost always win the custody battle), and other expenses. You also lose your freedom, friends, and your manhood in the process. I think marriage is a bad business decision for men, and a life insurance policy for women. There’s no incentive for a man to marry a woman due to the simple fact that he can get sex without having to marry a her on today’s times. Women on the other hand literally have a financial incentive to do so. The divorce rate is 52 percent and 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women because they know they can take their husband to the cleaners in the event the marriage goes sour. So what exactly is in it for a man to get married?
    19 answers · 2 days ago
  • How to gain my wife's trust post domestic abuse?

    To make a long story short, i hit my wife several times over the course of two months. I had personal issues she wasnt aware of and it got worse when her parents got into a conflict with me etc. So now she's gone for her own safety and she is in alot of emotional pain. We talk for hours each day on the phone... show more
    To make a long story short, i hit my wife several times over the course of two months. I had personal issues she wasnt aware of and it got worse when her parents got into a conflict with me etc. So now she's gone for her own safety and she is in alot of emotional pain. We talk for hours each day on the phone but she is scared of me. She doesnt want to see me or be in a room alone with me ( thats how serious things are ). I got some treatment and im following her instructions on how to spend my time alone constructivly etc. Is there anything i can do to gain her trust again ? Time is running and we miss alot of the things we did together. I dont need any advice or criticisim about me; just advise on how i can gain her trust..i know im a monster cause ive been made this way by my alcoholic father abusing me and beating me as a kid and juvenile.
    11 answers · 7 hours ago
  • My husband told be it wasn't necessary for him to be at the birth of our child. And now I resent him?

    I thought he was joking but when I went into labor he literally just drove me to the hospital and made sure I was admitted and he went home. He said he wasn't going to lose sleep over me. I had an emergency c-section twins one girl and one boy. I was all by myself. I was scared and felt so alone. He decides to... show more
    I thought he was joking but when I went into labor he literally just drove me to the hospital and made sure I was admitted and he went home. He said he wasn't going to lose sleep over me. I had an emergency c-section twins one girl and one boy. I was all by myself. I was scared and felt so alone. He decides to show up late in the evening the next day and his excuse for not coming earlier was because he had to be at work. he told me not to bother him and to make sure that when i call him to have my stuff and the babies ready because he was not going to sit there and wait with me. His daughter was in the hospital and he stayed by her side and followed up with additional visits to her home. His mother is getting married for the fourth time and he is going through hoops to make sure that he is there. I am constantly being verbally abused. I feel weak and hopeless because I have other kids to think about. I didnt want to be divorced. But he is totally pushing me out. I am so angry and resent him for putting others before me. Why do men do this to a woman. They say they love you but then actions say different. Can anyone relate? I need to know that I am not alone
    17 answers · 2 days ago
  • How often should married couples have sex ?

    Best answer: Anywhere from ten times a day to never. It all just depends on their individual libidos and what they've negotiated between themselves. Childless newlyweds will usually manage several times a week unless either of them have an extremely demanding job or unpredictable schedule. Sex tapers off of course if... show more
    Best answer: Anywhere from ten times a day to never. It all just depends on their individual libidos and what they've negotiated between themselves. Childless newlyweds will usually manage several times a week unless either of them have an extremely demanding job or unpredictable schedule. Sex tapers off of course if children are involved and there'll usually be about a ten or so year period when sex has to scheduled for "date night" or on those rare occasions they get to take a vacation without the kids. But then as the children grow into teens and prefer their own company the parents will have more freedom to rekindle their sex lives. There is no absolute to this though.
    17 answers · 2 days ago
  • My son is leaving home for college and has never had to cook or clean. What should I do?

    He is my only child. My husband worked. My son went to school. I stayed home, cleaned and cooked. That’s how it has always been, and it worked for us. He’s now leaving for college in less than a month and I’m worried that he isn’t prepared as far as knowing how to sustain himself. I don’t want to load a pile of... show more
    He is my only child. My husband worked. My son went to school. I stayed home, cleaned and cooked. That’s how it has always been, and it worked for us. He’s now leaving for college in less than a month and I’m worried that he isn’t prepared as far as knowing how to sustain himself. I don’t want to load a pile of chores on him at once and overwhelm him, but I didn’t realize it could be a problem until now. Please help.
    11 answers · 16 hours ago
  • What to do if my friends with benefits ex-wife gets a serious boyfriend?

    Best answer: Well, first mistake was to think about getting back together. You two broke up for a reason, and that reason is still there. Get back, and you two will only break up again. Second mistake was to not do the "one-year NO communication" rule. Yes, now that she is falling for someone else, she will drop... show more
    Best answer: Well, first mistake was to think about getting back together.
    You two broke up for a reason, and that reason is still there.
    Get back, and you two will only break up again.

    Second mistake was to not do the "one-year NO communication" rule.

    Yes, now that she is falling for someone else, she will drop you.

    As for rekindling a flame, once a fire has turned to ashes you cannot re-light it.
    13 answers · 2 days ago
  • How do I go about asking for oral sex in a Muslim marriage?

    So I’m about to get married soon and I’m just wondering if it’s okay to discuss sex before marriage. What would be the best way to bring it up without sounding perverse? I’m from the US and I’m traveling to Dubai with my parents to search for a potential bride. The reason I’m asking is because oral sex is very... show more
    So I’m about to get married soon and I’m just wondering if it’s okay to discuss sex before marriage. What would be the best way to bring it up without sounding perverse? I’m from the US and I’m traveling to Dubai with my parents to search for a potential bride. The reason I’m asking is because oral sex is very important to me and I’d hate to find out after spending a fortune on a wedding to realize she either disagrees with the act or simply just doesn’t wanna do it. Don’t tell me it’s ‘haram’, I’ve done my research and came to the conclusion that there’s no decisive evidence forbidding it. How could I bring up the subject without sounding rude or perverted? It’s a vital part of sex and not receiving it is honestly a make or break deal in a marriage for me. I’m 24 with an extremely high sex drive and I have needs and desires that require fulfilling. I’ll be damned to put myself in a position to be sexually frustrated. It simply just isn’t fair or right. Disagree all you want, but that’s just how I feel. So how would I go about finding out? Any subtle hints I could give or jokes I could throw out to see if she’s into that? What do you guys think? Lemme know. Thanks!
    10 answers · 11 hours ago
  • Every time I bring the possibility of marriage, the my boyfriend always brings up a prenup. Should I break up with him?

    I’d bring up marriage and he’d say something like “yeah but just so you know I’m getting a prenup” and he’s reminded me at least 4 times in the two years we’ve been together and ruins a good moment to think of the future with him. It bothers me that every time I think of us having a future he’s basically like “yeah... show more
    I’d bring up marriage and he’d say something like “yeah but just so you know I’m getting a prenup” and he’s reminded me at least 4 times in the two years we’ve been together and ruins a good moment to think of the future with him. It bothers me that every time I think of us having a future he’s basically like “yeah but our future could end”. Is it bad that I don’t like that that is the first thing he thinks about? I feel like he’s more worried about his money and house than thinking about a good, happy future? We’re in our early twenties and he’s never even been married to be this skeptical but I understand getting one in general but why bring it up every time??
    10 answers · 11 hours ago
  • How can I have a prenuptial agreement with my fiancé without coming across as not caring about or loving her?

    Before I start off, it's been 17 years since I was born, I've never been in a relationship before, and I have never kissed anyone because I want to save that for one person. Call me what you will, I know who I am and it is my choice. Alright so, let's begin. I've been thinking about the future and... show more
    Before I start off, it's been 17 years since I was born, I've never been in a relationship before, and I have never kissed anyone because I want to save that for one person. Call me what you will, I know who I am and it is my choice. Alright so, let's begin. I've been thinking about the future and planning a lot. Marriage and Money are the things I think the most about. My marriage will obviously be the most important thing in my life, my family and friends second, and my money third. I am not a stingy person when it comes to money. I love paying for meals when eating out, giving big tips, helping people out financially when they legitimately need it, stuff like that. It makes me happy to help people. However, I am working very hard to set myself up financially for the future. I am not willing to get into debt except for absolute emergencies. And in the sad and unfortunate case of a divorce, I do not want half of my hard work to go to someone who is ditching me. Nor do I want someone to think that my stuff belongs to them. Those are the only reasons I even want a prenup. I want to be the best possible husband I can be, and love and care for my future wife more than most people do. Divorce is something I don't even want to think about because I hate it so much. Sometimes though, not everything is up to you. So now with my explanation done, how can I talk about or discuss this with a girlfriend/fiancé, but make sure that she knows how much I love her and knows my reasoning?
    11 answers · 1 day ago
  • I don't want to have sex anymore....?

    I am 49 years old and dont want to have sex with my husband anymore, we have been together for 31 years and I just dont want to. He on the other hand wants to everyday and gets mad at me when I say no so I just do it so he doesn't get mad. Please don't tell me to just do it or to talk to him and tell him... show more
    I am 49 years old and dont want to have sex with my husband anymore, we have been together for 31 years and I just dont want to. He on the other hand wants to everyday and gets mad at me when I say no so I just do it so he doesn't get mad. Please don't tell me to just do it or to talk to him and tell him maybe every other day or something like that. what could I do to want to do it.
    20 answers · 3 days ago
  • Do your in-laws insist on visiting at inappropriate times? What did you do?

    We are moving and will only be in our house "6" days and my husband's mother insists on coming to visit to "see" the house. We will have a massive amount of unpacking to do yet. His dad said, What, you won't have the place unpacked yet. To me that is just crazy talk, expecting the... show more
    We are moving and will only be in our house "6" days and my husband's mother insists on coming to visit to "see" the house. We will have a massive amount of unpacking to do yet. His dad said, What, you won't have the place unpacked yet. To me that is just crazy talk, expecting the house to be in order by 6 days. It is a stressful time right now packing everything up, let alone moving to a new place and company wanting to visit right away. Of course, my husband won't say no to them as they are in poor health. I get that, but their timing has never been good. I guess they will just have to deal with the boxes everywhere. Beds won't be entirely set up yet, etc. I will not make any apologies for the unpacking not being done.
    14 answers · 2 days ago
  • Caught my underaged daughter having sex my husband is encouaraging it and I despise it?

    My husband and I are in a disagreement because our daughter is 15. He thinks its amazing that she's having sex because that's when he started. He actually started younger than that. Anyway, I caught my daughter and I let them finish the deed and waited until later when the boy left and then I talked to my... show more
    My husband and I are in a disagreement because our daughter is 15. He thinks its amazing that she's having sex because that's when he started. He actually started younger than that. Anyway, I caught my daughter and I let them finish the deed and waited until later when the boy left and then I talked to my husband about it. It makes me sick that he's encouraigng this and he thinks its the greatest thing of life. He's praising our daughter for it as well. is this weird? Should I talk to my daughter if my husband already talked to her?
    46 answers · 5 days ago
  • I think I want a divorce?

    Best answer: Your title says a lot, because people who are ready to leave a marriage don't say they "think" they want a divorce. They know it! Is it possible your expectations are too high? Being the parent of a 1 year old is obviously a lot of fun and love, but it's also incredibly stressful. Are there... show more
    Best answer: Your title says a lot, because people who are ready to leave a marriage don't say they "think" they want a divorce. They know it!

    Is it possible your expectations are too high? Being the parent of a 1 year old is obviously a lot of fun and love, but it's also incredibly stressful. Are there other issues cropping up, like sharing of workload, finances, etc? If so, you may not have gone to a good therapist. Also, are the 2 of you having date nights together? Experts recommend this, because it gives you a chance to reconnect. It doesn't have to be expensive, but it's so important.

    Another idea: do you know anyone who's ever gone to those couples workshops on a weekend? I know 2 people in 2 different states who've done this, and they loved it! You learn a lot, but it's fun and rewarding. My husband and I are thinking of doing this, and we have a very happy 10+ years marriage.

    I'm not trying to talk you out of anything, but the way you wrote this doesn't sound like someone at their wits end. It sounds like someone in a rut. And you do want to be able to tell your child some day that you did everything you could to make this work.
    10 answers · 1 day ago