• Can my parents stop me?

    My boyfriend booked a ticket for Paris. The flight is in the winter and I want to go with him I can afford it with my job. But he’s 18 and I’m 17 by then he’ll be 19 but I won’t be 18 until March and the flight is in December. He’s a sweet guy but do you think my mom and dad will be pissed off if I bought the... show more
    My boyfriend booked a ticket for Paris. The flight is in the winter and I want to go with him I can afford it with my job. But he’s 18 and I’m 17 by then he’ll be 19 but I won’t be 18 until March and the flight is in December. He’s a sweet guy but do you think my mom and dad will be pissed off if I bought the ticket and flew with him to Europe I know it sounds dumb but we’re young and you only live once. I think it would be beautiful. My family’s Filipino so they’re ...“strict” but they’re sweet. He’s Hispanic but they don’t mind him. My mom likes him my dad is 50/50 but he’s not a bad guy. He doesn’t drink, I have. So he’s more innocent than me
    66 answers · 3 days ago
  • I hate my family. What should I do?

    Best answer: You’re doing the right thing. Save up and move out. Find a friend at school or somewhere who also wants to move out.
    Best answer: You’re doing the right thing. Save up and move out. Find a friend at school or somewhere who also wants to move out.
    10 answers · 16 hours ago
  • How can I get around this?

    So, I am a single mother of a 10 month old and I live with my father. I am responsible for the cable bill, half of the lightbill, my phone bill, car note, car insurance, of course my child, and other personal expenses. I applied for food stamps and i am denied because my father makes too much but i feel that is not... show more
    So, I am a single mother of a 10 month old and I live with my father. I am responsible for the cable bill, half of the lightbill, my phone bill, car note, car insurance, of course my child, and other personal expenses. I applied for food stamps and i am denied because my father makes too much but i feel that is not fair because its not like my dad does for me and my son. He just provides the roof. Its as if he is a roomate and i cant get approved making $9 an hour because HE makes too much. I understand its based on the household income but isnt there a way around this? Can i write a letter or something stating he doesnt take care of me and my son?
    24 answers · 2 days ago
  • How do you get on with life when you never got to be young?

    I am a thirty-seven year old man, and there is a lot in life I never got to do; namely, the entire experience of being young. I was raised by very abusive and parasitic people and spent the first two and a half decades working so my worthless "family" could have money. And when I wasn't working or... show more
    I am a thirty-seven year old man, and there is a lot in life I never got to do; namely, the entire experience of being young. I was raised by very abusive and parasitic people and spent the first two and a half decades working so my worthless "family" could have money. And when I wasn't working or taking care of my father (a drunk) and my sister's kids (who had three of them, by three men and has been on welfare her whole life) While other kids were being teenagers, I was working and babysitting kids I had no part in making. When everyone else went to college, I worked and provided for my father (who suffered a back injury) and my sister. And my mother left us after she beat me when I was younger. Now I'm on my feet and live far, FAR away from them. I am no longer enabling them and have my own "life." I have my ebook business going and I manage a catering company...but I'm 37, and never got to be young, have fun, or even date. I feel like I lost so many opportunities. If I date now it will be with someone my age and more experienced, and I'll never feel "young love." If I travel now it will be as a middle-aged man, and I'll never be young and adventurous. I'll never have any "wild years" and will have to go straight to being old and settled. How does one go through life having missed out on a huge chunk of it that they'll never get back?
    11 answers · 2 days ago
  • How do I talk my mom into letting me go on a vacation with my boyfriend and his parents for two weeks I'm 15 and he's 16 and I really want?

    Best answer: I’m a 15-year-old girl, and honestly if I was your mother, I would let you go. But we don’t know if your mom will agree or not, so I’ll give you some advice. Just ask her for permission. List the reasons why you want to go. If she says yes, good for you😊! But if she says no, than ask her why, and possibly... show more
    Best answer: I’m a 15-year-old girl, and honestly if I was your mother, I would let you go. But we don’t know if your mom will agree or not, so I’ll give you some advice.
    Just ask her for permission. List the reasons why you want to go. If she says yes, good for you😊! But if she says no, than ask her why, and possibly compromise with her.
    Also, I highly recommend having your parents talk with your boyfriend’s parents. Maybe that might help somehow.
    I hope your mother allows you to go on that vacation. Good luck😉
    24 answers · 3 days ago
  • My husband doesn’t want to go to my uncle’s (dad’s brother in laws) funeral.?

    I have a big family and he doesn’t. I don’t expect him to go to every family events but durinv bad times i would appreciate if he could be there and be little supporative but nope. He is argung with me how he doesnt like funerals and doesnt want to go. I am like can you please show little respect? How would my dad... show more
    I have a big family and he doesn’t. I don’t expect him to go to every family events but durinv bad times i would appreciate if he could be there and be little supporative but nope. He is argung with me how he doesnt like funerals and doesnt want to go. I am like can you please show little respect? How would my dad feel that his son in law didnt come. He doesn’t understand that. I am seriously thinking of my marriage.
    13 answers · 12 hours ago
  • Mom moving too soon in a relationship?

    My mom and dad separated about 9 years ago. She never went on a date with a man for those 9 years. She met a man about 3 months ago, and I recently got the news that she's in a relationship with him now. I'm the only one out of my siblings that doesn't like the idea of their relationship. I know I... show more
    My mom and dad separated about 9 years ago. She never went on a date with a man for those 9 years. She met a man about 3 months ago, and I recently got the news that she's in a relationship with him now. I'm the only one out of my siblings that doesn't like the idea of their relationship. I know I should be happy, but I find it hard to feel happy when she's already changed her dynamic towards me. I feel like she's moving way too fast, and is already talking about marriage. There are a lot of things I don't like about the guy she's seeing, and I have expressed this to her but she seems to be blinded and only argues with me when I bring it up. She's already talking about spending the rest of her life with him. I'm concerned for my mom, and how our relationship is going to change for the worse because I don't find myself ever agreeing with their relationship. Does anyone have advice for a situation like this?
    11 answers · 10 hours ago
  • My dad wants a three page essay on why he should cut a cheque for me to start university in September.?

    I just graduated high school and accepted an offer to Queen's University. I get really good grades but my parents are threatening not to let me go to university in September because I'm apparently too immature. I don't need a lecture on anything about how my parents know what's best for me because I... show more
    I just graduated high school and accepted an offer to Queen's University. I get really good grades but my parents are threatening not to let me go to university in September because I'm apparently too immature. I don't need a lecture on anything about how my parents know what's best for me because I know they're wack. I just need help thinking about what to fill three pages with so that I can hand in this stupid paper to him. So what should I write about, how do you convince someone in three pages to send you to university.
    11 answers · 14 hours ago
  • How to I stop my little brother from disrespecting me?

    I’m 18 and my 13 little brother is constantly trying to start fights with me by calling me names and trying to emotionally hurt me (which doesn’t work of course) and annoys the hell of me but when he finds my money he takes it saying the reason he took it because he hates me and it’s not with money it’s also with... show more
    I’m 18 and my 13 little brother is constantly trying to start fights with me by calling me names and trying to emotionally hurt me (which doesn’t work of course) and annoys the hell of me but when he finds my money he takes it saying the reason he took it because he hates me and it’s not with money it’s also with food and other stuff and I cant do anything to him because I feel I should punch him or physically hurt him what can I do to make him stop
    12 answers · 15 hours ago
  • My parents bought me a car against my own wishes. What do I do?

    I currently drive a 2001 Hyundai. Even though I'm 19, I recently started driving, and am starting to get very comfortable driving the Hyundai. My parents, however, decided it wasn't 'safe' enough for me to commute to school in and bought me a 2018 Cross-Trek. They had been talking about buying me a... show more
    I currently drive a 2001 Hyundai. Even though I'm 19, I recently started driving, and am starting to get very comfortable driving the Hyundai. My parents, however, decided it wasn't 'safe' enough for me to commute to school in and bought me a 2018 Cross-Trek. They had been talking about buying me a new car for a while, and even bought themselves a new Forester last year. I begged and pleaded with them not to buy me the Cross-Trek because it's very expensive (we're not poor, but both of my parents are medically retired so their funds are sort of limited + I can't afford to pay them back). I also hadn't test driven any other vehicles, which I view as a must when buying a car, and when I did test drive it, all the safety gismos and warnings freaked me out a little. I've driven the Cross-Trek twice and both times, I felt like the driver's seat was in an awkward position; It's not high enough and makes me feel the hood is right in front of my face. I'm really not a fan of the car, so far at least. I don't want to come off as a spoiled brat here, but I wish that they had just let me continue to get comfortable with driving on the Hyundai and not bought me the Cross-Trek. Further, every time my family sees people we know I feel like I have to put on a fake smile and pretend all is well with the car, I couldn't be happier, etc. I sort of feel like this is hanging over my head and this question is venting more than anything, but some advice would be much appreciated.
    10 answers · 15 hours ago
  • Is is ok to tell my Mother in Law that we do NOT want her to ever be our houseguest again?

    Best answer: Touchy situation. Leave this to your husband.
    Best answer: Touchy situation. Leave this to your husband.
    10 answers · 15 hours ago
  • My girlfriend didn’t invite me to her graduation and then got moody with me because I was upset. Was I being too sensitive about it?

    Best answer: The biggest factor in breaking up is expecting the other person to do (or treat us) the way WE would treat them. She didn't invite you to her graduation. She isn't you. You helped her with her assignments and you expected appreciation back. Love is about giving not because we are trying to "buy"... show more
    Best answer: The biggest factor in breaking up is expecting the other person to do (or treat us) the way WE would treat them.

    She didn't invite you to her graduation.
    She isn't you.
    You helped her with her assignments and you expected appreciation back. Love is about giving not because we are trying to "buy" behavior, but because we give without expectation.

    You either accept her as she is, or risk losing her. You either act because you care about her happiness (instead of expecting something back) or you don't love.

    At the same time, not everyone is worthy of your love .. and she might not be.
    But as long as you are being jerked around by your own emotions, you are not ready for a good relationship.

    And anytime we get upset with someone, the underlying message is "You are not good enough as you are. I don't care about you as you are" .. so of course this alienates them.
    Marriages only work well once we learn to take responsibility for our own emotional reactions and work with them ourselves instead of expecting the other person to fix our emotions. And usually it takes about 10-20 years of being together before we figure out how to do this.
    11 answers · 18 hours ago
  • Why mom says being thin is important?

    Like she wanted me to look like a model and be "the best girl". I was thin till I was 13, and She body shamed me. forced me on diet, and compared me to other girls. She says nobody like fat woman and my husband will cheat on me if i gain weight.
    Like she wanted me to look like a model and be "the best girl". I was thin till I was 13, and She body shamed me. forced me on diet, and compared me to other girls. She says nobody like fat woman and my husband will cheat on me if i gain weight.
    9 answers · 11 hours ago
  • How to tell my son that I never wanted him?

    Best answer: http://thankfulhomemaker.com/2012/04/the-sin-of-selfishness/ But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without... show more
    Best answer: http://thankfulhomemaker.com/2012/04/the-sin-of-selfishness/
    But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.
    (2 Timothy 3:1-5 ESVOpen in Logos Bible Software (if available))
    46 answers · 6 days ago
  • Why doesn t anyone love me or even want to give me a chance? I deserved a job much more than my sister, and they refuse to let me have it.?

    I am tired of living with my mother. It has been 7 years since my grandma died. But the men of this city, the corporations, etc., even the govt. agencies supposed to be doing interviews properly have turned into a profiling, hacking, harassing, lobotomy fest against those labeled with "ADHD, ADD, Bi-polar,... show more
    I am tired of living with my mother. It has been 7 years since my grandma died. But the men of this city, the corporations, etc., even the govt. agencies supposed to be doing interviews properly have turned into a profiling, hacking, harassing, lobotomy fest against those labeled with "ADHD, ADD, Bi-polar, etc.". Trust me, losing one s memories, visual reasoning, memorizing abilities, and imagination, and any other special abilities, no one deserves just because a sibling was smarter or the teachers or famous or wealthy wanted a bigger tax cut. My recruiter, failed to do his job correctly. Just because you do not like someone s talents, thinking, or refuse to even give them a dinner date. He gave my sister, 4 dinner dates, an outing at a club, and went out for 6 weeks at a bar. She gave him art gifts to guarantee to get the job. NO ONE DESERVES THIS. THEY NEED TO GO BACK TO ORAL AND WRITTEN EXAMS.
    10 answers · 16 hours ago
  • Is my dad actually physically abusing me or am I over reacting?

    I’m 15 and my dad didn’t hit me but I felt like he was really trying to hurt me. So tonight my parents and some friends had all gone to a comedy show and then to a friends (who I was babysitting for) to have some more drinks. So after we had pulled up to our house later that night, we were standing on the porch... show more
    I’m 15 and my dad didn’t hit me but I felt like he was really trying to hurt me. So tonight my parents and some friends had all gone to a comedy show and then to a friends (who I was babysitting for) to have some more drinks. So after we had pulled up to our house later that night, we were standing on the porch waiting for my dad to unlock the door and he was being stupid about it, and I was annoyed so I flicked him in the head and told him to unlock the door but he turned around and pushed me against the wall and said (as he kinda of chuckled) “if you ever hit me again.. your in such...” he never really finished what he was saying but he kept telling me that if I hit him he was going to do something. So he unlocks the door and my drunk mom punches me in the arm and says “don’t you ever hit your father” so I turned around and pushed her and told her not to hit me and then my dad put me in a chokehold and dragged me inside and pushed me down on the couch and put his finger on my forehead and pushed down really hard (while I was still in the chokehold) and I couldn’t breathe and I just started crying but he was still pushing me down . Then my sister started shouting at him to get off of me, he did but he started yelling at me and I got up ( still crying) and ran downstairs. I know it’s so long I’m sorry I just don’t know what I should do or if I’m over reacting or if it counts as abuse. It’s not the first time he has hit me when drunk but before it has never been that intense.
    10 answers · 1 day ago
  • 19 years old in a difficult situation?

    Well I’m 19 and I’ll be 20 soon but I am dealing with a huge problem and don’t know how to handle it. I’ve lived with my grandma my whole life but me being the youngest she has always treated me differently. She has always been over protective of me but also controlling in a way. I’m not gonna mid though the whole... show more
    Well I’m 19 and I’ll be 20 soon but I am dealing with a huge problem and don’t know how to handle it. I’ve lived with my grandma my whole life but me being the youngest she has always treated me differently. She has always been over protective of me but also controlling in a way. I’m not gonna mid though the whole thing has caused me to be sort of childish up until now. I’m ready to grow up. I fell in love with a guy, he’s 20, he’s a great guy and we have history and we both care about each other a lot, but with him comes his daughter too, which to me isn’t a problem. I love kids and am very willing to treat as my own. My grandmother doesn’t agree with me being with him though(she assumes he’s trash because he has a kid already) he’s actually a great guy, works a great job, brings home good pay and takes care of his daughter very well. But my grandmother is always telling me “You better not go try and be with that deadbeat” just because he has a child. I’m ready to just move out partly because I’m tired of her assuming I’m just childish on my own when I’m reality I only act childish at times because that’s how she treats me. I’m ready to take this step in life and move ahead. He wants us to get an apartment together(we have been together awhile, I just don’t know how to handle the situation with grandmother without hurting her or making her feel disappointed in me) I’m just trying to do what makes me happy! What do I do. Living here at home makes me depressed beyond words.
    10 answers · 19 hours ago