It sounds like you live your life completely by fear, and the more you live that way, you will continue to miss out on opportunities and relationships.
If you have social anxiety and if you're quiet most of the time, then people will believe you don't want to be bothered or that you won't contribute...
Best answer: It sounds like you live your life completely by fear, and the more you live that way, you will continue to miss out on opportunities and relationships.
If you have social anxiety and if you're quiet most of the time, then people will believe you don't want to be bothered or that you won't contribute much to a relationship or when socializing. I believe you are very desirable to a lot of people, but you appear as though you're anti-social and that will have people misunderstanding you. I know social anxiety sucks and it's really tricky to getting over it, but you have to sit yourself down and ask what is it you're so terrified of? Do you feel like you sound weird if you speak? Do you think you look funny? Do you stutter? Are you unable to hold eye contact? Sort out the possibilities. Perhaps go see a doctor about it.
Not having a boyfriend is not bad at all. You don't have to have one, and having one doesn't necessarily make you better. I honestly think girls should wait a lot longer to be dating because girls your age and younger are way more likely to be hurt, used, and are very naïve to fall for a lot of things. Boys your age are not looking to love a girl; they're looking to make out or have sex with her and then brag about it with their buddies. So, you not dating is probably safest for you, especially when your self-esteem is way too fragile. You wouldn't have a backbone strong enough to defend yourself and know how to read a person right. You're only sixteen. You have your whole life to find love.
Take a selfie then. What's stopping you? Not that they're important. This is perhaps the first step in getting to know you. Start a diary through Microsoft Word Office or whatever program you have related to it. Post your pictures on there and just start writing about yourself, how your day went, who or what made you feel a certain way, etc. I've been writing about my life since I was 16 (31 years old now). I have documents and documents about each chapter of my life and have gone back to see how immature I was, but how far I've come. Record videos of yourself. It's going to be painful to look back on. I remember doing that for myself and I hated how my lips moved or I didn't realize how bigger I was. But I got to know myself.
If social media gives you anxiety, don't have one. Simple as that. You're likely a lot safer from saying something stupid and then posting it for all to see. Plus your life is more private. Things like photos and drama you put on social media run the risk of remaining on the internet forever. People still don't realize that even today.
How are younger people than you more successful? Are they running officers? Businesses of their own? Have lots of money they generated? They are still very much depended on an adult. Instead of comparing yourself to people, you should focus more on yourself, like hobbies, or what you want to do with your life.
You've never or smoke or done alcohol? Consider yourself a SMART person. I don't get people who even choose to smoke for the first time/. I mean, why? What good enough reason is there to destroy the only body you have? Your mom is wrong. I often believe teenage years are a bit overrated. That isn't the time to go out and party and be wild because at those ages you're most vulnerable and extremely immature.
Follow your dreams. If you want to be an actress, then study it, do research on it. Join clubs or organizations at school or in your city that cater that field. You don't have to look a certain way to be an actress. You're fat and ugly, you say? If you're overweight, do something about it. It won't go away unless you eat right and exercise. But honestly, even if you're overweight, your constant negativity about yourself is so exhausting. it is no wonder you feel the way you do. You are what you believe. You need to start thinking better of yourself.
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