• I found out my husband had been cheating on me with a women from church that I knew. Should I tell her hisband what she did?

    Best answer: You just don’t want to react in revenge, for your own sake. I would probably tell her that she needs to tell her husband and leave it at that. Then she’ll be afraid you will tell him and hopefully she’ll tell him herself. But you have your own marriage to worry about. It’s going to be a bumpy road figuring out why... show more
    Best answer: You just don’t want to react in revenge, for your own sake. I would probably tell her that she needs to tell her husband and leave it at that. Then she’ll be afraid you will tell him and hopefully she’ll tell him herself. But you have your own marriage to worry about. It’s going to be a bumpy road figuring out why he cheated and trying to fix the problems, you don’t have the energy to add more fuel to the fire. Concentrate on your selves for now atleast
    46 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is it cheating on my husband if i’ve performing oral sex on my best friend’s husband? We rarely have sex. I just give him oral?

    Best answer: cheating is all in the mind everything is legal until and unless u get caught...go live ur life
    Best answer: cheating is all in the mind everything is legal until and unless u get caught...go live ur life
    45 answers · 3 days ago
  • Should I leave my jobless/low ambition wife?

    Best answer: I’m sorry about your situation. I can’t imagine how frustrating and difficult it may be sometimes. As the others on here have sugguested you may have to set some time aside with your wife to discuss the matter. WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS: “There is . . . a time to speak.” (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 7) Make sure that you spend... show more
    Best answer: I’m sorry about your situation. I can’t imagine how frustrating and difficult it may be sometimes. As the others on here have sugguested you may have to set some time aside with your wife to discuss the matter.

    WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS: “There is . . . a time to speak.” (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 7) Make sure that you spend time talking about the problem. Honestly let your wife know how you feel and what you think on the subject. Always “speak truth” with your wife. (Ephesians 4:25) Even when strong emotions are involved, resist the urge to fight. A calm answer can keep what should be a simple discussion from escalating into a battle.—Proverbs 15:4; 26:20.

    Even if you disagree, remain gracious, never forgetting to show love and respect to your mate. (Colossians 4:6) Try to resolve the issue as soon as possible, and do not stop communicating.—Ephesians 4:26.

    Marriage mates discuss a problem together. Set an appropriate time to discuss the problem.
    When it is your turn to listen, resist the urge to interrupt. You will get your turn to speak


    Try to listen and to understand (this goes for the both of you).

    “Have tender affection for one another. In showing honor to one another, take the lead.” (Romans 12:10) How you listen is very important. Try to understand your mate’s point of view with “fellow feeling . . . and humility.” (1 Peter 3:8; James 1:19) Do not just pretend to listen. When possible, put aside what you are doing and give your mate your full attention, or ask if you can discuss this later. If you think of your marriage mate as your teammate rather than your opponent, you will “not be quick to take offense.”—Ecclesiastes 7:9.

    Keep listening with an open mind, even if what you are hearing displeases you
    Listen for the message behind the words. Notice your mate’s body language and tone of voice

    FOLLOW THROUGH

    “There is benefit in every kind of hard work, but mere talk leads to want.” (Proverbs 14:23) Agreeing on a good solution is not enough. You need to follow through on what you both decide. This may involve hard work and much effort, but it will be worth it. (Proverbs 10:4) If you work together as a team, you will “have a good reward” for your hard work.—Ecclesiastes 4:9.

    Decide what practical steps you will each take to solve your problem
    From time to time, evaluate your progress
    TACKLE PROBLEMS TOGETHER
    By working together, you can ensure that your marriage will be strong and happy rather than weak and miserable. (Proverbs 24:3) Look to the future, and do not bring up past problems. (Proverbs 17:9) When you cooperate with each other and apply Bible principles, you can handle any problem successfully.

    ASK YOURSELF . . .
    What is the most urgent problem that I want to discuss with my mate?
    What can I do to understand how my mate really feels about the problem?
    19 answers · 1 day ago
  • Mistress is pregnant and I don’t know if I should tell my wife?

    My ex mistress called me to tell me that she is pregnant with my kid. She said that she will get an abortion only if I come along to support her and if I don’t come she will keep the child and tell my wife. The thing is, my wife knows about what went on with us and she decided to give me another chance. We moved... show more
    My ex mistress called me to tell me that she is pregnant with my kid. She said that she will get an abortion only if I come along to support her and if I don’t come she will keep the child and tell my wife. The thing is, my wife knows about what went on with us and she decided to give me another chance. We moved our family to a different state to try to “start over” meaning I would have to go all the way back there just to be present when she gets that abortion. I don’t really want to tell my wife because it’ll be a major step back and she most likely will end up leaving me and taking our kids with her. I don’t know what to do?
    29 answers · 2 days ago
  • Should i believe my Husband or should i just move on.?

    My husband of 17years. Wants to seperate from me due to endless arguments,my attitude and trust issues. He said that he wants to move on to his on place so that he could be more independent. He feel that he didn't get to experience being a independent man living on his own being that we were together since the... show more
    My husband of 17years. Wants to seperate from me due to endless arguments,my attitude and trust issues. He said that he wants to move on to his on place so that he could be more independent. He feel that he didn't get to experience being a independent man living on his own being that we were together since the age of 18 years old. He refuses to go to marriage counseling, because he work too much. I asked him would he like to save our marriage and he answered yes; but only if i make those changes in my attitude and become more independent. He fell out of love with me because of the way i get angry and handle different situations. He tells me that im still a beautiful woman to him and that he want a year living apart from me to see If he would miss me again. He say that his heart is blocked from loving me he just cant seem to get pass all the hurtful situations we both put each other through. I Love my husband and I dont want him to leave me. Please I need helpful advice.
    29 answers · 2 days ago
  • If your spouse is too attached to their mother can it effect your marriage negatively?

    They call their mother several times a day and their mother calls several times a day(6-10 times a day). They work for their uncle and their mother is also involved in that same company. Mother comes over to the house 3-6 times a week for dinner. Their mother calls late at night while you are in bed together. Could... show more
    They call their mother several times a day and their mother calls several times a day(6-10 times a day). They work for their uncle and their mother is also involved in that same company. Mother comes over to the house 3-6 times a week for dinner. Their mother calls late at night while you are in bed together. Could this effect your marriage negatively?
    24 answers · 2 days ago
  • What to do about cheating husband?

    To start with, we were married 10/14/17. Everything was fine, until we got into an argument over the idea that I pushed we wait to have a baby. (We had previously agreed my birth control would come out in october, but now I want to postpone to May when I graduate) He was very hurt, and betrayed that I made the... show more
    To start with, we were married 10/14/17. Everything was fine, until we got into an argument over the idea that I pushed we wait to have a baby. (We had previously agreed my birth control would come out in october, but now I want to postpone to May when I graduate) He was very hurt, and betrayed that I made the decision alone, and held his hopes up the entire engagement(one year long). He said he understood my reasoning, but I could sense that he sort of resented me for it. Fastforward, and our arguing increases, (finances, home remodel, the normal small stuff), but at the end of the day, I thought we were both happy. I could tell he was becoming more distant, but I attributed that to him working 7 12s and being exhausted. I noticed over the course of last week, that the affection had dwindled to nothing, and that he hadn’t really even looked at me the three days prior. Sunday we talked, and he told me how miserable he was, and that he wanted a divorce because he was unhappy. I asked what had happened, and he said he had lost the infatuation(did I spell that right?) that he had once had for me. I asked if he still loved me, and he said yes. I told him I wanted to try to work it out, but he said he was afraid things would be good for a little while, and then he would become unhappy with me because he wasnt sure if he could find the desire again. He promised he would try though, and so the next day began.
    16 answers · 1 day ago
  • Is it important to get to know your spouses family after you get married?

    My husband is upset that I don't have a personal relationship with his mom and family he asked why I never check up on them or call them I don't dislike them or have any hard feelings towards them I respect them as his family but I don't understand why I should reach out to get to know them personally I... show more
    My husband is upset that I don't have a personal relationship with his mom and family he asked why I never check up on them or call them I don't dislike them or have any hard feelings towards them I respect them as his family but I don't understand why I should reach out to get to know them personally I mean after all I didn't marry them I care about my husband and my relationship with him not his family and we don't have any kids so it's kinda awkward forme just to call his mom am I wrong???
    15 answers · 23 hours ago
  • How do you live in a sexless marriage at just 36 years old?

    Wife just has a bunch of excuses or finds any little stupid thing for us not to be intimate. We can go anywhere from 4 to 7 weeks without any intimacy. She’s 41 and my just 36. This isn’t normal!!! Now if I cheat then it’s my fault but why would any woman put their husband in a position like this or drive them... show more
    Wife just has a bunch of excuses or finds any little stupid thing for us not to be intimate. We can go anywhere from 4 to 7 weeks without any intimacy. She’s 41 and my just 36. This isn’t normal!!! Now if I cheat then it’s my fault but why would any woman put their husband in a position like this or drive them elsewhere? Love fades and I feel my love for wife fading as I don’t think she’s just interested in me anymore.
    32 answers · 3 days ago
  • Sex with wife,s niece?

    my wife,s niece wants to do sex with me who is 19.i want also I m 33.what you think?
    my wife,s niece wants to do sex with me who is 19.i want also I m 33.what you think?
    28 answers · 3 days ago
  • Is my marriage worth saving?

    Best answer: Start fighting for your marriage not with him. Get both of you into marriage counseling. Many long term married couples will tell you they go through periods where they argue. It's natural but most couples are able to handle it on their own and work out the differences. My husband & I are different like... show more
    Best answer: Start fighting for your marriage not with him. Get both of you into marriage counseling. Many long term married couples will tell you they go through periods where they argue. It's natural but most couples are able to handle it on their own and work out the differences. My husband & I are different like night and day but together we balance each other out. What I lack, he has and same with him.

    If your husband refuses to go to marriage counseling then you go by yourself for awhile and let him see you are serious about saving the marriage.
    15 answers · 2 days ago
  • Will I always be forced to beg for his time?

    Best answer: Oh Honey - get yourself into therapy. Find a hobby. You come across as clingy and needy. I don't know why he avoids you, but sitting around moping about it is NOT going to make him want to be around you. So get the hell out of the house? Maybe if you quit being a doormat it will encourage him to... show more
    Best answer: Oh Honey - get yourself into therapy. Find a hobby. You come across as clingy and needy. I don't know why he avoids you, but sitting around moping about it is NOT going to make him want to be around you. So get the hell out of the house? Maybe if you quit being a doormat it will encourage him to acknowledge his gratitude when you come home.
    10 answers · 3 days ago
  • Boyfriend has some traditional beliefs about marriage...?

    My boyfriend and I were discussing our future, beliefs, etc. And he said “I do think men have more control in marriage, but if he truly loves her, he will do everything to make her happy, and she will do the same for him.” His views are fairly modern and align with mine for the most part, but he also has some... show more
    My boyfriend and I were discussing our future, beliefs, etc. And he said “I do think men have more control in marriage, but if he truly loves her, he will do everything to make her happy, and she will do the same for him.” His views are fairly modern and align with mine for the most part, but he also has some traditional views, like the husband should always be strong and take care of his wife, and the wife’s respect for him is super important. He’s always encouraging me to do the best I can in school and get the best job that I can and etc, so I don’t feel oppressed or anything but we come from two different cultures and sometimes it scares me if we don’t see exactly eye to eye on something. I fear that it will come back to haunt us. He never said anything that I very strongly disagree with, but sometimes I felt a little uncomfortable because it felt a little 1950s. We want to get married in the future, so do you think this is something to be concerned over, or am I just overthinking? Are these beliefs fairly normal for men?
    10 answers · 19 hours ago
  • Is a wife's use of "toys" for her self-gratification every bit as bad as her husband watching porn for his?

    isn't she cheating on her husband by not saving her desires for him?
    isn't she cheating on her husband by not saving her desires for him?
    35 answers · 4 days ago
  • How did you react when you saw the other women?

    We live in a small town, my husband had a flirtatious relationship for about 1month at work and1 week texting with one of his coworkers, which resulted in a kiss. The OW knew he was married, and still went along. He claims he doest like her at all and he doesn't have an explanation why he did it. He is... show more
    We live in a small town, my husband had a flirtatious relationship for about 1month at work and1 week texting with one of his coworkers, which resulted in a kiss. The OW knew he was married, and still went along. He claims he doest like her at all and he doesn't have an explanation why he did it. He is doing everything in his power to make it up to me. If you have gone through something silmilar how did you react or feel when you or both bump into her for example store, dr. Etc. Did you feel ashamed, proud, disgusted, or? He tells me she is nothing to him and for me to keep my head up high cause I'm way better than in every way and that he was the dumb one. I just hate the fact that he shared words and a kiss that were suppose to be for me with someone I may bump into any time.
    14 answers · 2 days ago
  • Can my husband be in love with another women?

    Best answer: Of course he can be "in" love with another woman. "In" love isn't love, it's infatuation, lust. You seem surprized to learn that a man (women too) can love more than one person. NEWSFLASH: you are, and have been, in denial. For you to have thought you had a perfect marriage while... show more
    Best answer: Of course he can be "in" love with another woman. "In" love isn't love, it's infatuation, lust.

    You seem surprized to learn that a man (women too) can love more than one person. NEWSFLASH: you are, and have been, in denial. For you to have thought you had a perfect marriage while he's been building a relationship with someone else means YOU have been lying to yourself about the health of your marriage.

    You would expect her to end it? WHY? Why would she end a relationship in which she gets sex and gifts without the actual responsibility of working at it? She isn't the one betraying your marriage vows, HE is.
    16 answers · 2 days ago
  • I want to marry someone but still married to my ex?

    Hi, Im 30 yrs old now, i was married when i was 18 , because i got my ex pregnant. we are not together anymore im just supporting our child. And now i have my girlfriend for 3 years and we are getting serious . i can tell i want to be with her forever. but im very frustrated , coz i can not marry her. annulment... show more
    Hi, Im 30 yrs old now, i was married when i was 18 , because i got my ex pregnant. we are not together anymore im just supporting our child. And now i have my girlfriend for 3 years and we are getting serious . i can tell i want to be with her forever. but im very frustrated , coz i can not marry her. annulment and divorce is not allowed in our country . Can you give me any idea to make her happy without giving her dream marriage she wants? I i'm very disappointed and my heart is breaking that i can not give her the wedding she wants. I planing to prepare a artificial wedding for here. with the help of my friend ,on our anniversary. but i not know if she will like it or if she will just feel frustrated coz its not real wedding . please help.
    8 answers · 8 hours ago
  • Husband is being a true Grinch but is he right? Serious advice needed please!?

    I have been with my husband for 5 years and I love him but I am at my breaking point. On the outside he seems to be a great guy but at home is a different story. He cheated on me in the beginning of our marriage; he has caused me physical injury in the name of being "playful"; makes "joking"... show more
    I have been with my husband for 5 years and I love him but I am at my breaking point. On the outside he seems to be a great guy but at home is a different story. He cheated on me in the beginning of our marriage; he has caused me physical injury in the name of being "playful"; makes "joking" comments about my weight and looks; gives me silent treatment when he gets upset over the smallest things; and he just generally seems not to care about my feelings. Today he has upset me yet again. We aren't spending Christmas together because he refuses to spend a holiday away from his mother and this Christmas I wanted to be with my family. So I made plans to stay home and have my family down next weekend to do holiday activities and spend time together. My husband had already planned to travel home for Christmas. Well I told him that I made plans with my family starting next Friday and invited them to stay at our place and he told me, " you don't make plans for people to stay at my damn house without discussing it with me." And now he is saying he may not even leave until Christmas Eve, though he was previously planning to leave earlier than that, and he won't allow my family to come while he is there, so he is basically purposefully ruining Christmas plans. When it comes to his family he has no problem inviting them all the time but mine is another story. I am upset but not surprised. I don't want to call my family and cancel everything. Was I wrong not to ask him first?
    11 answers · 2 days ago