• Question for people who are married or in long-term relationships: have you ever kissed somebody else on the mouth besides your partner?

    Regardless of the circumstances; if it's normal for you to kiss people hello or goodbye, if it was in a dare/a game of spin the bottle, if you were drunk and there was a random person who was giving everyone a peck on the mouth, or if you were having a full-blown affair.
    Regardless of the circumstances; if it's normal for you to kiss people hello or goodbye, if it was in a dare/a game of spin the bottle, if you were drunk and there was a random person who was giving everyone a peck on the mouth, or if you were having a full-blown affair.
    9 answers · 7 hours ago
  • Can you be married and unhappy ?

    13 answers · 20 hours ago
  • Hubby feels date nights are pointless?

    So my husband doesn't see the point of date nights. We haven't been out together in 5 years. The last time we went to the movies or did anything that represented a date was during my pregnancy with our daughter back in 2013. Then our first son was born a year after she was, and we just had our second son 7... show more
    So my husband doesn't see the point of date nights. We haven't been out together in 5 years. The last time we went to the movies or did anything that represented a date was during my pregnancy with our daughter back in 2013. Then our first son was born a year after she was, and we just had our second son 7 months ago. He feels time is better spent staying home and cleaning house (yes, we're behind on housework), except when friends invite us out to the park or over to their house for a bbq. Our fifth anniversary just passed, and we did nothing. He worked all weekend. My boss--who is more of a father than my own dad--told me just to go alone. But getting out of the house alone is a complete chore in itself. My 4 y/o thinks that just because someone is leaving, that she can automatically go too. IMO, he's kind of holding a grudge that I got pregnant again last year. He completely changed after the baby was born. He used to bring me coffee in bed in the mornings. Now if he just pours into my mug is like...wow! It's crossed my mind a few times that he only stuck around because of the kids; that maybe we wouldn't have made this long or far if it hadn't been for them. Now it's to the point where I don't care if I go out with HIM; I just want to go out and do something without the kids. But he acts like I'm being a bad mom for even considering it.
    24 answers · 2 days ago
  • Should I believe my husband or is he lying ??

    I was about to take my husbands everyday leather jacket for drycleaning when I found a pair of tights in his pocket. I asked him about it and he confidently said he bought them for me. Mind he couldn’t tell me where from, when, show me a receipt or even explain why they were unwrapped and roughed up in his pocket.... show more
    I was about to take my husbands everyday leather jacket for drycleaning when I found a pair of tights in his pocket. I asked him about it and he confidently said he bought them for me. Mind he couldn’t tell me where from, when, show me a receipt or even explain why they were unwrapped and roughed up in his pocket. All he had to say was that he bought them for me. Obviously I didn’t believe that and a fight started. Few hours later he comes up with another story saying he got them in my drawers and was gonna ask me if I’m still wearing them, then put it in his pocket and forgot. So the first story was a lie now he wants to make me believe this one that still doesn’t make sense. I told him I didn’t believe him and he got angry and now accuses me of persecuting him, breaking the peace in the marriage and insists he’s done nothing wrong. I asked him for a STI test. He first refused saying I’m overreacting. I insisted and now he will get it done after another long argument about it. I’m i overreacting ? Should I believe him and let it go. ? Ps: he has cheated on me twice before
    21 answers · 2 days ago
  • Was I right to confront my future sister in law about not making me her bridesmaid?

    So in the beginning of my brother's engagement he said he would make me his wive's honarary bridesmaid. I was very excited After six month in the engagement (today) my future sister in law sat me down and said, she would prefer to have close friends and her sisters to be her bridesmaids and insincerely... show more
    So in the beginning of my brother's engagement he said he would make me his wive's honarary bridesmaid. I was very excited After six month in the engagement (today) my future sister in law sat me down and said, she would prefer to have close friends and her sisters to be her bridesmaids and insincerely apologized. This pisses me off. So I later confronted her and told her how much of a controlling ***** she is and just jealous because my brother loves me more and I even threatened to ruin their relationship. She was in tears and my brother was very upset with me and hurt that she didn't want me as her bridesmaid. Who's in the wrong?
    17 answers · 1 day ago
  • Should my friend keep her kids away from their dad?

    my friend has left her marriage and she feels afraid of her husband. Some founded fears and some unfounded never the less she will not allow their children to speak or see their father. He wants to see and talk to his kids but she won't let him. I feel this is making the situation worse for herself but she... show more
    my friend has left her marriage and she feels afraid of her husband. Some founded fears and some unfounded never the less she will not allow their children to speak or see their father. He wants to see and talk to his kids but she won't let him. I feel this is making the situation worse for herself but she won't listen to me and in fact, it has driven a wedge between our relationship. I am just wondering if I am in the wrong for telling her she should let her kids have a relationship with their father. My point of view is that the kids didn't do anything that they should have lost their dad. He may have been a crappy husband but he was a good father. The kids loved their dad and he loves them. She keeps saying they will be fine without him. I don't agree and now she hates me for saying that. She feels I have sided with him but the reality is i have sided with the kids because they don't get a say.
    12 answers · 11 hours ago
  • Do you need love In marriage?

    Let’s say that you married your wife because of a serie of unfortunate circumstances and family pressure. It was a kind of an arranged marriage. So you have no feelings for her, but you still think that she’s a good person.
    Let’s say that you married your wife because of a serie of unfortunate circumstances and family pressure. It was a kind of an arranged marriage. So you have no feelings for her, but you still think that she’s a good person.
    33 answers · 4 days ago
  • Age difference is too much for her!?

    Best answer: OK first of all everyone saying that the fact the age gap bothers her means she doesn't like you enough are just people talking out of their a'rse who never were in love with someone much younger and better looking than themselves. Especially for a woman it can be a scary prospect since society is even... show more
    Best answer: OK first of all everyone saying that the fact the age gap bothers her means she doesn't like you enough are just people talking out of their a'rse who never were in love with someone much younger and better looking than themselves. Especially for a woman it can be a scary prospect since society is even more judgmental of it than if the man was the December and woman was the May party in the relationship.

    Everyone in her circle, including her child will have something to say and it will go from how dare you act like a cougar and want just sex from this younger guy to, good for you, you cougar you, get some good sex out of this much younger guy.

    It doesn't matter that you guys aren't really even that far apart in age, considering you're 30 yourself, your girl was never before in love with someone 13 years her junior and society has indoctrinated her that a woman should be with a man slightly or even a good deal older, or one her age, never a younger one...

    Also, no one, not a single person, not even the most well intentioned person in her life will assume that she might want a proper relationship with you, or that you would ever take her seriously enough to want that...

    She will, of course, want that and see that you too want it, but this indoctrination in her head and the people round her acting like this is impossible and crazy will constantly gnaw at her making her think you guys can't possibly work and she will get hurt and heart broken.

    She will imagine all the young women you can date, all their young perky bodies, and she will, as you say, be properly freaked out about all that.

    I think the fact that she dreads the age difference is more likely to mean she does care about you a great deal, than the contrasting...

    If she didn't really care about you, she'd get some good sex out of a younger man and when she'd done, or when you've had your fill of older woman fantasy and move on, she would be OK.

    But if she is in love with you, she must be properly terrified...

    Even though in comparison to how young my 17 years younger husband was when we met you guys don't have an age difference to your girl you do, since you are the youngest man she ever loved.

    She needs time to adjust to the fact you are 30 and she's 43 and that PERFECTLY OK. She also needs more reassurance than you could possibly imagine from you. You need to be very assertive, sure that you want her and show it abundantly, both emotionally and sexually. Be all over her sexually since she will start off thinking why on Earth would he bother with my mature body when he could be dating a 20 year old and her perky bum...etc

    I am worried a bit about the fact she said she wishes you were older and not that she were younger, since I personally in seven years never once wished my husband were older than he was. To me he's perfect just the way he is, I did wish many times I was a decade younger and more age appropriate for him....But that doesn't mean anything, it's one sentence out of many she said to you, that you may or may have not remembered correctly...

    Also, maybe I don't remember my life correctly either and I did act or even say I wished my husband was seven years older at the time... This doesn't mean I wanted to change him, or that he was immature...We all grow up in a society and our minds are inevitably indoctrinated with the beliefs (that can be right or wrong) of this society and I was taught to believe that if I accept a reationship with this man I adored I will disrupt his development and ruin both his life and him...I felt u had to leave him or I'm not just selfish but evil. Of course all he saw was rejection and he was hurt, he didn't feel loved but hurt... I was being hurtful....

    Anyway, point being, if you want this woman you have to be sure you want her and show it very assertively and abundantly...She will then be reassured you do want her, she's not just some older woman fantasy phase for you and she will get used to your age and she won't notice it anymore...

    Whenever someone says something disparaging about the age difference in my marriage i just think f'uck you, you ignorant t'wat, and sometimes i say it too...Doesn't phase me one bit, as before I would feel terribly selfish and like I'm tying my husband down to a literally OLD ball and chain and distracting him from perhaps women better for him on paper....But he showed me so many times, and with such love and passion, that it's me he wants, I make him happy and I can make him miserable by being a bad wife due to my indoctrination and fears, or by leaving...That finally I had to let go of my fears and indoctrination so I can be the kind of wife he deserves.

    Please disregard the advice of people who've never been in love with someone younger and are talking out of prejudice and their own indoctrination.

    People will assume many things, that she's in charge in the relationship, that you are looking for a mother figure....and many, MANY other stupid things that make zero sense...In reality I know some couples where the younger person (in this case the woman) is in charge and her significantly older husband is the walkover, I don't think power struggle couples have as much to do with age as much they are to do with character...

    In my marriage we are two equals who are trying to balance each other out and age doesn't even come into it...This is so because we are two people who don't believe love and marriage should be based on a power struggle but working together as a team...

    My husband is my rock and I try to be his strength as well, and I don't even remember the stupid fears and guilt that paralysed me in the beginning and I regret giving in to those and not being a better parter to my husband from the start...

    Good luck.
    11 answers · 19 hours ago
  • Hi How do i get my husband from controlling our bank account?

    Hi My husband and I share the same bank account. My husband gives away the money that I work hard for to other people. I asked the bank for a separate account where I can control and use the money I earn from work. The bank said I cannot. Now I cannot control where my money goes since my husband has a lot of... show more
    Hi My husband and I share the same bank account. My husband gives away the money that I work hard for to other people. I asked the bank for a separate account where I can control and use the money I earn from work. The bank said I cannot. Now I cannot control where my money goes since my husband has a lot of control over our account? What do I do?
    13 answers · 1 day ago
  • If your wife bring a younger and pretty woman into the bedroom would you accept it?

    Best answer: Not without having a long talk with the wife. I know a trap when I see one.
    Best answer: Not without having a long talk with the wife. I know a trap when I see one.
    15 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is it ok "Trying to get physical close &intimate to wife's unmarried sister if wife has no problem"?

    Best answer: Sure.. but the sister has to want it too..
    Best answer: Sure.. but the sister has to want it too..
    12 answers · 1 day ago
  • In a divorce, why doesn't each person keep what is there's (what they payed for)?

    So if one spouse works and earns income, or buys something (especially something big like a house), why shouldn't they be able to keep their income THEY earned and the house THEY bought?
    So if one spouse works and earns income, or buys something (especially something big like a house), why shouldn't they be able to keep their income THEY earned and the house THEY bought?
    14 answers · 2 days ago
  • What should I do when my husband leaves?

    My husbands going to his best friends bachelor party in Vegas (which I’m very against but he’s set on going). I need ideas on how to keep distracted I don’t want to be sitting on the couch crying for 3 days and wondering every second if he’s got a stripper around him. If I go to Vegas too it’ll look like revenge... show more
    My husbands going to his best friends bachelor party in Vegas (which I’m very against but he’s set on going). I need ideas on how to keep distracted I don’t want to be sitting on the couch crying for 3 days and wondering every second if he’s got a stripper around him. If I go to Vegas too it’ll look like revenge and I don’t want to do a spa day that just gives you more tome to think and panick. Any ideas? Im desperate? I live in California so anywhere I can go to totally distract my mind from paranoia?? :( Thanks!
    15 answers · 2 days ago
  • Husband 15 year prison sentence? Advice?

    My friend husband just received a 15 year prison sentence for drug possession, what would you advise her to do, wait for him or divorce him, I didn't dare say go on with your life yet because she's emotionally attached to him, they been married 3 years no kids . Honestly if he was a repeat offender I think... show more
    My friend husband just received a 15 year prison sentence for drug possession, what would you advise her to do, wait for him or divorce him, I didn't dare say go on with your life yet because she's emotionally attached to him, they been married 3 years no kids . Honestly if he was a repeat offender I think he didn't think of the consequences or about how this would affect her , pretty selfish I'd say, honest opinions ONLY.
    23 answers · 4 days ago
  • What does it really mean when woman says "don't judge me"?

    but she made a mistake and made you angry....
    but she made a mistake and made you angry....
    11 answers · 1 day ago