• Moving in with my fiancé her crazy idea?

    Best answer: Personally, I think it would make more sense to move into one of the existing homes (most likely the bigger or nicer one) and sell the other. Or make the one you're not living an investment property (rent it out .. some companies and realtor can help with this). I understand her reasoning but it won't be... show more
    Best answer: Personally, I think it would make more sense to move into one of the existing homes (most likely the bigger or nicer one) and sell the other. Or make the one you're not living an investment property (rent it out .. some companies and realtor can help with this).

    I understand her reasoning but it won't be exactly "equal" in pooling the money for the houses or the furniture since it's unlikely you'd get exactly the same amount for both, one of you would still be contributing more than the other. The other part of it is it looks like you have minimal debt right now and you'd be creating some just to buy a house that right now it sounds like you don't actually need. Another point on that is used furniture, you really don't get that much for it anyone looking to buy second hand furniture is looking to save money (even if it's not that old). Now if you're looking towards the future and neither house would suit future needs, then it may make sense to to it her way as well.

    My husband and I were both well established when we met. We both owned our own homes. I owned 2 actually and neither had any debt on it. One I lived in, I bought from the bank in a foreclosure sale and paid cash for it. The second used to be my great grandparents cottage/log cabin that they retired to, it left the family for a while and the people who had it before me also foreclosed on it, so I bought that from the bank too. I liked it better that way anyway, no family member can say it isn't mine since well I paid for it. My husband his house was brand new, nicer, bigger and he had a pool so I moved in with him. We lived about 80 miles apart so I had to move, due to his job. My job I can do from anywhere. When he was house shopping he thought of the future, not just when he'd be single. He thought he'd probably get married and have kids at some point so he bought a house that could meet all those needs. He wasn't finding exactly what he wanted so he had one built. The house I lived in, I rented it out for several years and eventually sold it. My cabin, I still have.

    Though it was his house my husband was very welcoming and accommodating. He let me change anything I wanted to. I had 2 kids when we got married and he let them do what they wanted with their rooms too (well, within reason) and added a playground for them in the yard before we moved in. We've made changes to it over the years, added an addition, and things like that Eventually, he added me to the deed so it's equally owned by us both now. He's never referred to it as "my house" or reminded me that it is his.

    Financially we've always maintained his, hers and theirs accounts. Our theirs account is for our share debts, household expenses, things for the kids, etc. His & hers is personal debts we have. Whatever is in the his or hers accounts, we can do with what we want. Neither of us though is likely to go out and by a range rover and have the other find out when they see it.
    45 answers · 5 days ago
  • How do I pick bridesmaids for my wedding when my life is in ruins?

    I’m having a hard time picking bridesmaids for my wedding. I have my maid of honor and that’s it. My friends from high school were not really good friends, so I don’t talk to them anymore. Then when I got to college (I have one semester left) i made a bunch of friends, but then I was sexually assulted. I pushed... show more
    I’m having a hard time picking bridesmaids for my wedding. I have my maid of honor and that’s it. My friends from high school were not really good friends, so I don’t talk to them anymore. Then when I got to college (I have one semester left) i made a bunch of friends, but then I was sexually assulted. I pushed people out of my lives, and then I left college for a year. I still held onto a few friends, but when I left college I stopped talking to them. When I left college, I moved away ti where my fiance is, but I have no friends here. My fiancé suggested to ask the people who were there for me after I was assulted, but I’m afraid I pushed then too far out of my life. And I don’t want an assult define who I pick for my wedding. I have siblings, but they all at first showed distaste for me being him. They are okay now, but at one point they caused us to break up, and my family was emotionally abusive to me.
    19 answers · 6 days ago
  • Did it rain on your wedding day? Wedding blues :(?

    I had much worse weather than everyone was expecting on my big day and I feel really sad about it. As soon as we left the church it poured! I got hardly any photos of the wedding car and feel I just wasted money and wish I hadn’t bothered and when we arrived our guests were all already drinking and we didn’t get... show more
    I had much worse weather than everyone was expecting on my big day and I feel really sad about it. As soon as we left the church it poured! I got hardly any photos of the wedding car and feel I just wasted money and wish I hadn’t bothered and when we arrived our guests were all already drinking and we didn’t get the big announcement we were hoping for as they were all understandably inside keeping dry. All the photos had to be taken inside and you can’t see the real colour of my flowers or the bridesmaid dresses I spent so long searching for as there’s no natural light. I feel so unhappy and can’t help but think what a better day it would of been if it just hadn’t rained!!!! I can’t stop thinking about this and feel so unhappy! All that planning and effort washed away :(
    21 answers · 6 days ago
  • Why did Meghan choose such a simple wedding dress? It was still pretty and elegant..but boring?

    Best answer: It's respectable. If there were patterns, netting or lace it would show more of her body. She's gonna be part of the royal family so she needs to stay classy.
    Best answer: It's respectable. If there were patterns, netting or lace it would show more of her body. She's gonna be part of the royal family so she needs to stay classy.
    13 answers · 5 days ago
  • Why did Meghan wear white whist marrying Prince Harry since she wasn’t a virgin?

    Best answer: Because Britain has no morals.
    Best answer: Because Britain has no morals.
    21 answers · 7 days ago
  • Was the royal wedding tacky?

    Best answer: Before it even started
    Best answer: Before it even started
    12 answers · 5 days ago
  • Is it expected to wear heels with my wedding dress?

    I’d like to wear trainers on my wedding day. I bought a full length dress, it’s currently a little long and needs hemming, so my shoes won’t really be seen. For various reasons I can’t wear heels at all and I’m not a fan of typical flats as I need a thicker sole. I was planning on wear some brogues, but I think... show more
    I’d like to wear trainers on my wedding day. I bought a full length dress, it’s currently a little long and needs hemming, so my shoes won’t really be seen. For various reasons I can’t wear heels at all and I’m not a fan of typical flats as I need a thicker sole. I was planning on wear some brogues, but I think trainers would be much more comfortable.
    30 answers · 1 week ago
  • Did your wedding go to plan?

    If not what happened? I keep worrying about so many different things with my wedding.
    If not what happened? I keep worrying about so many different things with my wedding.
    10 answers · 6 days ago
  • Can we break these traditions asap?

    No sex before marriage? Not seeing MY bride before the wedding? And men not going in a womans purse anytime he want?
    No sex before marriage? Not seeing MY bride before the wedding? And men not going in a womans purse anytime he want?
    10 answers · 7 days ago
  • Is this dress appropriate for a wedding?

    Is this dress appropriate for a wedding?

    I'm going with my boyfriend to his cousin's wedding on saturday. I was starting to pack for our weekend when I realized my dress may be too white. I haven't been to too many weddings but I know your not supposed to wear white unless you're the bride. This dress has a white background. The pictured... show more
    I'm going with my boyfriend to his cousin's wedding on saturday. I was starting to pack for our weekend when I realized my dress may be too white. I haven't been to too many weddings but I know your not supposed to wear white unless you're the bride. This dress has a white background. The pictured dress os the one I bought last summer and was planning on wearing.
    23 answers · 1 week ago
  • Is this OK before the wedding?

    Best answer: Many bridesmaids do this and some wedding planners even stick a bottle of champaign in the dressing room. The trick would be not to get too sloshed before trying to walk down the aisle in heels.
    Best answer: Many bridesmaids do this and some wedding planners even stick a bottle of champaign in the dressing room. The trick would be not to get too sloshed before trying to walk down the aisle in heels.
    21 answers · 1 week ago
  • My fiancé doesn't want to set a date for the wedding.?

    I ve been dating this guy for four years. He proposed three months ago and since then doesn t want to talk about setting a date, choosing a venue, etc. He says he wants to get premarital counseling first, which I agree would be a good idea since this will be a second marriage for both of us. The problem is he... show more
    I ve been dating this guy for four years. He proposed three months ago and since then doesn t want to talk about setting a date, choosing a venue, etc. He says he wants to get premarital counseling first, which I agree would be a good idea since this will be a second marriage for both of us. The problem is he hasn t made any effort in contacting anyone to get the counseling started. We have a great relationship, are established in our careers and money isn t an issue for either one of us. He told me a week after his proposal his greatest fear is marriage. His hesitancy is making me rethink this whole thing and I need advice. I don t want to push things but it s been four years of dating and three months of being engaged with absolutely no talk of when he wants to seal the deal. HELP.
    22 answers · 1 week ago
  • Why are weddings mostly always about the woman getting married and not the groom?

    Best answer: Same reason that advertising decorates everything from cars to power saws to hot water tanks with beautiful women, not with handsome men. We really like looking at women, especially good looking women in beautiful clothes. Balls, proms, dances and so on have always been more about the ladies than about the... show more
    Best answer: Same reason that advertising decorates everything from cars to power saws to hot water tanks with beautiful women, not with handsome men. We really like looking at women, especially good looking women in beautiful clothes. Balls, proms, dances and so on have always been more about the ladies than about the gentlemen.

    Maybe it also has something to do with a cultural percept that while the bride has happily "landed a man" the groom has sadly "tied himself down." The brides wear white while the grooms wear black.

    Maybe it has something to do with the history of wedding receptions. Back in days when much more difficult and expensive, it wasn't unusual for there to be two celebrations of the new marriage. One was after the wedding journey (honeymoon) given my the groom's family when his extended family and social circle officially received the two as a married couple. And another was right after the service in which vows were exchanged, given for the bride's extended family and social circle to officially receive the two as a married couple. So the party taking place on the actual day of marriage was the bride's family, the bride's big day, where everyone petted and praised and made much of her.
    7 answers · 1 week ago
  • Family don’t want to attend wedding after admitting they don’t like my fiancee?

    Best answer: Nothing wrong a longer engagement that allows more time for people to get comfortable with Elle being part of the family, for Elle to get comfortable with her new in-laws. But eventually there comes a point where you have to recognize that this or that family member will NEVER have a good attitude toward Elle and... show more
    Best answer: Nothing wrong a longer engagement that allows more time for people to get comfortable with Elle being part of the family, for Elle to get comfortable with her new in-laws. But eventually there comes a point where you have to recognize that this or that family member will NEVER have a good attitude toward Elle and adopt an policy "If you're unhappy with my marriage, you can either get over it or die unhappy."
    13 answers · 1 week ago