• I don’t want kids at our wedding but my fiancé does?

    I’m totally okay with kids in general, but I don’t want them at our wedding. I think kids just change the mood of parties or events and I’d like a mature environment. I don’t want to worry about kids running all over the place or having to pay more for their meals. My family is paying a majority like 75/25 and the... show more
    I’m totally okay with kids in general, but I don’t want them at our wedding. I think kids just change the mood of parties or events and I’d like a mature environment. I don’t want to worry about kids running all over the place or having to pay more for their meals. My family is paying a majority like 75/25 and the wedding isn’t for 2 years. He wants everyone and anyone to be there and he thinks if we don’t let people bring their kids they won’t come. We’ve planned with the venue for about 150 and honestly I don’t want half of our seats to be kids. My side of the family’s kids are all miss behaved and crazy while his side is more tame(due to parenting). But obviously I can’t just allow his side of the family’s children. How can I convince him that kids aren’t really a good idea? Especially if my mom and I are paying for at least the venue and catoring by ourselves.
    19 answers · 19 hours ago
  • Should I ditch my duties as a bridesmaid because I wasn’t placed as maid of honour?

    My cousin (who’s also my closest friend and a childhood friend) is getting married in 2 months. I was expecting to be her maid of honour, long story short I was quite upset for a while when I found out she had placed her second cousin as maid of honour and me after her. I never mentioned anything to her and I... show more
    My cousin (who’s also my closest friend and a childhood friend) is getting married in 2 months. I was expecting to be her maid of honour, long story short I was quite upset for a while when I found out she had placed her second cousin as maid of honour and me after her. I never mentioned anything to her and I didn’t want to make it about me and didn’t want to upset her and make 5ings awkward. But the maid of honour is doing nothing about the hens. I was having a convo with the bride recently and she mentioned she said organising the hens, when I asked her why she was the one organising it and told her to not forget about it because that wasn’t her job. I msgd the maid of honour and started talking about other ideas, the maid of honour seem a like she’s relying on me, she’s got nothing planned yet, I had to book the hotel, and I keep nagging her about where we’re at because we’re running out of time. Should I just stop stressing over it and leave it to the maid of honour and not care about whatever happens on the day? I’m still hurt ober it but why should I be doing these things when someone’s else gets the honour title?
    9 answers · 12 hours ago
  • What can I do that s special for 2 people who just got married?

    My boyfriend s sister and her girlfriend got married last week at the county courthouse. Because of money and health problems they cancelled their original plans for a big wedding in the spring. I want to do something special for them, but i dont know what. I myself am not loaded, but I thought a nice gift or a... show more
    My boyfriend s sister and her girlfriend got married last week at the county courthouse. Because of money and health problems they cancelled their original plans for a big wedding in the spring. I want to do something special for them, but i dont know what. I myself am not loaded, but I thought a nice gift or a small party somewhere would be nice. Any ideas?
    18 answers · 3 days ago
  • Do people use Wedding Planners? UK?

    I want to start a course for wedding planning but i'm being put off by people saying there is no market for it and people plan their own now a days is this true? UK answers please.
    I want to start a course for wedding planning but i'm being put off by people saying there is no market for it and people plan their own now a days is this true? UK answers please.
    11 answers · 3 days ago
  • Should I ask my girls to be my bridesmaids before I make and send “Will you be my bridesmaids” boxes?

    Best answer: Dont waste your money on unnecessary stuff. You said it yourself, every dollar counts, so why waste money? At the beginning people don’t really know how much everything will cost so they make the mistake of wasting money on save dates, magnets, engagement photo shoots and other stupid stuff, and when it comes time... show more
    Best answer: Dont waste your money on unnecessary stuff. You said it yourself, every dollar counts, so why waste money? At the beginning people don’t really know how much everything will cost so they make the mistake of wasting money on save dates, magnets, engagement photo shoots and other stupid stuff, and when it comes time to pay deposits for the venue, caterer, musicians, photographer, cake, dj, invitations, attire etc.etc.etc. they don’t have the money and they are forced to downscale or do without important stuff.

    Just ask the people a year ahead at the most and leave it at that. If your wedding is over a year from now, is not necessary to ask anyone yet. No need for boxes, nobody needs boxes. You will have plenty of opportunities to spend money on your bridesmaids when you pay for their dinner at the rehearsal, give them the bridal party gifts, pay fo their make up and hair to be done, others even pay for the dresses. Keep your purse tight for now, you will need to use your money wisely.
    14 answers · 4 days ago
  • Should I as best man get to plan the bachelor party?

    Best answer: Trolls don't throw bachelor parties. Don't feed the troll.
    Best answer: Trolls don't throw bachelor parties. Don't feed the troll.
    10 answers · 3 days ago
  • Single Maid of Honor?

    My friend recently asked me to be her Maid of Honor and I’m super excited, except I’m going to be single for the wedding. I’ve never had a boyfriend before and I don’t want to ruin the balance or anything, but I’m afraid she’s going to try to set me up and that sounds terrible. What should I do?
    My friend recently asked me to be her Maid of Honor and I’m super excited, except I’m going to be single for the wedding. I’ve never had a boyfriend before and I don’t want to ruin the balance or anything, but I’m afraid she’s going to try to set me up and that sounds terrible. What should I do?
    21 answers · 5 days ago
  • Okay to have a bridal shower next to a playground?

    I'm planning my cousin's bridal shower for a group of about 22 ladies. I found the perfect location, right next to the marina, has nice shade coverage (it was recently remodeled!) but its right next to a playground. I'm worried it might get a little loud for a shower? We decided to do it at a park... show more
    I'm planning my cousin's bridal shower for a group of about 22 ladies. I found the perfect location, right next to the marina, has nice shade coverage (it was recently remodeled!) but its right next to a playground. I'm worried it might get a little loud for a shower? We decided to do it at a park because it was such a large group but not having ever planned a bridal shower, I'm not sure if the playground might be a little strange? I love kids and I don't mind it but I'm not sure if would be too loud with kids running around for one and I know - at least from the showers I've been to - it's always really private etc. What do you ladies think?
    15 answers · 5 days ago
  • Is it OK not to have a cocktail reception??

    Best answer: That essentially IS a cocktail reception - you need to provide drinks (but they don't have to be cocktails)
    Best answer: That essentially IS a cocktail reception - you need to provide drinks (but they don't have to be cocktails)
    12 answers · 5 days ago
  • Which flowers is easy to make outta this list?

    crepe paper flower or twisted crepe paper roses or fabric flower or tulle flower or ribbon flower
    crepe paper flower or twisted crepe paper roses or fabric flower or tulle flower or ribbon flower
    4 answers · 20 hours ago
  • *Serious answers only* what do I do about my Fiancé?

    me and fiancé\gf are only 19 we've been together since 14 and next year wanted to get married, for her birthday I even got her a ring and it was just amazing. in the past I have done bad things but never cheated and never will but the last year I was so in love with her and grew up and only focused on her.... show more
    me and fiancé\gf are only 19 we've been together since 14 and next year wanted to get married, for her birthday I even got her a ring and it was just amazing. in the past I have done bad things but never cheated and never will but the last year I was so in love with her and grew up and only focused on her. the last month I felt that she has been off with me and just not as in love when I asked whats wrong she would say nothing and I didn't want to argue. the last 2-3 weeks has been very very very hard for me as she is now saying she does not love me which I know is not true, she will not reply to my messages until like 8 hours later or try avoid them she does not want to see me even though I haven't spoken to her for 2-3 weeks. two nights ago we had a phone call and I told her not to worry she can tell me everything and she told me that she rushed into the relationship and that she still misses her ex after 4 years of being together. as anyone can imagine this is extremely difficult for me and her but I do not want to lose her as she is my world, I had our dream planned out and it was all coming true until now. please tell me what is best. (ps. I the last two weeks I left her her favourite snacks outside her house and what she enjoys to eat)
    21 answers · 1 week ago
  • How should I end the engagement?

    I have been with this man for almost 3 years. But the past few months I have not been that happy. I don't feel like I love him as much as I did and I just feel like I'm giving up. He is obese and I am really into health and nutrition. It's kind of hard for me to be with someone that is that big. At... show more
    I have been with this man for almost 3 years. But the past few months I have not been that happy. I don't feel like I love him as much as I did and I just feel like I'm giving up. He is obese and I am really into health and nutrition. It's kind of hard for me to be with someone that is that big. At first it didn't matter to me at all. He admits that he wants to change, and I know that i can't make him change. But I try to think of ways to help him, only when he asks. Like going to the gym together, which we have never done in the 3 years we have been together. I will try giving him ideas on what to eat instead of going out to Arbys. Nothing is changing. It's also impossible for us to have friends together because he always ruins the friendship for the both of us. He always thinks he's right about everything, and doesn't give me an opinion on what kind of trips we take together. I just feel like it's not going to work out and that I'm not going to show up to the wedding if I don't say something now. Oh, and I also already bought my wedding dress. We also talked many times before about all these issues, and still nothing has changed. There are many other issues as well. Like that he's terrible with money, he is a terrible employee wherever he works, he doesn't care about anyone elses feelings or what they might be going through. I really can't even think of anything that we both love that we do together. I just feel like I'm settling for something I don't want.
    17 answers · 7 days ago
  • Am I ungrateful for getting angry with my fiancé present?

    We never celebrate Valentine’s Day because we don’t believe in it. But this year we decided to celebrate it. We decided not too spend much on one and other as well. So what he brought me was chocolates artificial flowers in a vase and a card which didn’t even say anything in it. Which said to then my name. And then... show more
    We never celebrate Valentine’s Day because we don’t believe in it. But this year we decided to celebrate it. We decided not too spend much on one and other as well. So what he brought me was chocolates artificial flowers in a vase and a card which didn’t even say anything in it. Which said to then my name. And then at the bottom “lots of love” then his name. I got pissed off I don’t ask for much but he couldn’t of at least put some thought into the card. We been together for 4 years and we getting married now he didn’t even have anything to say in that card apart from that. Am I wrong for get upset? I just wanted a thoughtful card that would of made me feel special
    31 answers · 1 week ago
  • Ring size for an engagement for my girlfriend from the Philllipines?

    Hi guys, okay if this is the wrong place then my apologies, I really don t know where to ask this. But, I ve been searching since yesterday on the answer to her correct ring size and got literally only a bunch of incomprehensible charts(for me cause I m stupid) at all so it is getting kind of hopeless and... show more
    Hi guys, okay if this is the wrong place then my apologies, I really don t know where to ask this. But, I ve been searching since yesterday on the answer to her correct ring size and got literally only a bunch of incomprehensible charts(for me cause I m stupid) at all so it is getting kind of hopeless and frustrating. Well, let me explain. I want to propose to this special girl for awhile now since a few years and I know more or less she will say yes so there s really no risk of rejection. She once mentioned that she bought a ring back in her country that was size 17 that still fits on her finger. It s a bit embarrassing, but due to limitations on money, I could only buy her a cheap ring valuing around 100 Euro on Amazon and am planning to buy a proper one for our wedding. But anyway, in my foolishness and excitement, I bought a ring that s apparently size 14 in Europe. I was doubtful whether it ll fit or not, so, I tried it on my own finger to see if it is indeed to small. And well, it didn t went pass the, "middle part" of my finger. Now, for the question my good, fellow men. Can this size 14(Europe) ring, fits on her size 17(Asia) ring finger? If it doesn t can any of you experienced gentlemen gives me the Europe equivalent of this 17?
    7 answers · 5 days ago
  • Why doesn't he want his army friends at our wedding?

    Best answer: Please do not be one of those brides who gets caught up in the wedding plans but ignores the marriage. You may not even realize this, but your fiancé has some unresolved anger issues. This is a huge red flag and a warning to you that you must open your eyes to see it. Here you are, trying to make plans to marry... show more
    Best answer: Please do not be one of those brides who gets caught up in the wedding plans but ignores the marriage.

    You may not even realize this, but your fiancé has some unresolved anger issues. This is a huge red flag and a warning to you that you must open your eyes to see it. Here you are, trying to make plans to marry him and he is shutting you down and actually YELLING at you? What about war do you not realize? PTSD? That his army buddies are reminders of death and destruction? That he is traumatized over what happened during his stint in the army? That they know things about him that he fears you will find out? That he does not want to see these men who remind him of what happened while they were fighting and killing and watching members of their unit suffer and die after being blown apart? And you want to pull all of that out of him? You are absolutely clueless, just clueless.

    While you are thinking of wedding flowers and church bells, in his mind he is dealing with war memories of blood and bullets whizzing by his head. Girl, you need a reality check.

    LEAVE IT ALONE. He does not want to invite his war buddies to your wedding.

    I would be very hesitant to promise my life to a guy who flips out on me over a seemingly simple question. A normal guy would say "Babe, the war really played with my head and seeing those guys in my unit will bring back some horrible memories, so I would rather leave that part of my life in the past." But, noooo, he could not even communicate that with you in order to let it go and move on.......instead he became verbally abusive.

    You pushed him for information and that is why he told you to mind your own business. He probably felt that you were intruding on boundaries where he did not want to go.

    I would be very skeptical to promise the rest of my life to a guy who cannot communicate but rather gets mad and angry. This is a red flag. You can choose to ignore it or you can never mention wartime stuff again or you can learn later on that his PTSD is going to cause an abusive marriage and eventual divorce.

    If you go through with this marriage, I implore you to stay married for several years to see that your marriage is on solid ground before you go getting pregnant. Because now that you know that you could possibly be facing the consequences of a husband with PSTD, you would be cruel to bring a child into the dynamics of that situation.

    I highly suggest you do some reading about PTSD and learn the signs. I believe it should be mandatory for all military personnel to go through counseling.

    By the way, I dated a guy who fought in Vietnam. He always seemed cool and reserved.......until something small set him off and he shut down communication, retreated for days to cool off, then returned without discussing anything. It was awful to be walking on egg shells and never knowing what was going through his head. It destroyed our relationship.
    24 answers · 1 week ago
  • What should I do?

    I'm a finalist for an internship I applied to and it's for 8 weeks and they would pay for everything from transport to housing and on top of that they provide interns with a very generous stipend! However, on one of the days of the internship, my best friend is getting married, and I'm in the wedding. I... show more
    I'm a finalist for an internship I applied to and it's for 8 weeks and they would pay for everything from transport to housing and on top of that they provide interns with a very generous stipend! However, on one of the days of the internship, my best friend is getting married, and I'm in the wedding. I knew about the wedding before I knew about the internship. Part of me feels bad for even applying because I knew one of the days conflicted with the wedding. Of course I don't know if I'll get the internship but I think there's a good chance that I might. Should I tell my friend about it now? Or wait til I actually get the internship?
    13 answers · 1 week ago
  • If one of your relatives was getting married would you hire a professional makeup artist or do your own makeup??

    Best answer: When I got married, I did my own makeup.

    I would not hire a professional makeup artist for someone else's weddings.
    Best answer: When I got married, I did my own makeup.

    I would not hire a professional makeup artist for someone else's weddings.
    20 answers · 1 week ago
  • My fiancé is mad because I said I don't wanna go down to her brothers level.?

    Because her brother is a Muslim and him and his wife host a Christmas lunch/dinner every year at their house and they invite us Was that mean of me to say "stoop to their level"
    Because her brother is a Muslim and him and his wife host a Christmas lunch/dinner every year at their house and they invite us Was that mean of me to say "stoop to their level"
    12 answers · 1 week ago