• 15 and raising my siblings?

    I’m 15 years old and I’m raising my three siblings. A four year old, a ten year old and a eight year old. My mom is an emotionally unstable woman. All she does is sleep all day and lock herself in the room. Sometimes she leaves to her boyfriends house and doesn’t return for a few days, leaving me with no choice but... show more
    I’m 15 years old and I’m raising my three siblings. A four year old, a ten year old and a eight year old. My mom is an emotionally unstable woman. All she does is sleep all day and lock herself in the room. Sometimes she leaves to her boyfriends house and doesn’t return for a few days, leaving me with no choice but to keep my siblings. I’ve been doing this and living like this since I was 10, raising my siblings. I didn’t really have a childhood, it was like going straight to “adulthood”. Our family has been involved with child family services and my siblings and I were all separated I do not want that to happen again I feel trapped with no other options because I know In the end cfs will be involved. Everyone tells me that And I don’t want that. I don’t know what to do...I feel like reaching out to some family members but everyone is busy with their own lives. I’m tired of living like this I love my siblings with all my heart but I need to focus on myself my education and my future.
    16 answers · 1 day ago
  • Am I a bad Father for being attracted to my daughters friends? Or am I a normal male?

    Hey everyone, I'm a 53 year old Married White man and I have three daughters between the ages of 19 and 23. Their friends are in the prime of female youth and I find many of them to be irresistibly beautiful, sexy and very attractive. My mind says this is not right, but my body really wants them sexually. My... show more
    Hey everyone, I'm a 53 year old Married White man and I have three daughters between the ages of 19 and 23. Their friends are in the prime of female youth and I find many of them to be irresistibly beautiful, sexy and very attractive. My mind says this is not right, but my body really wants them sexually. My feelings for them are such that when they visit my house I usually get very aroused being around them and I can't help fantasizing and pleasuring myself over them after they leave. Even they can see how obvious it is I want to have sex with them and at times it can be tense and awkward when I try to flirt. I have also made questionable actions such as collecting their sexually charged party photos from facebook and instagram (short skirts, high heels, make up, low cut tops, bikini etc) for my erotic pleasure. Am I a bad Father for feeling this way or is it natural biology for an older man to be attracted to younger women in their peak even if they are my daughters friends?
    17 answers · 9 hours ago
  • My dad doesn't think I'm ready to start driving. Is driving really that hard?

    I turned 16 a few months ago. I'm now old enough to get my driver's license. However, my father is giving me second thoughts about driving. He doesn't think I'm capable of driving. I told him I'm ready to start driving, and that I want him to teach me. He refuses to teach me. He told me,... show more
    I turned 16 a few months ago. I'm now old enough to get my driver's license. However, my father is giving me second thoughts about driving. He doesn't think I'm capable of driving. I told him I'm ready to start driving, and that I want him to teach me. He refuses to teach me. He told me, "You may think you're ready, but I don't think you're ready." This made me a little angry. Who are you to tell me what I'm not ready for? He told me, "If you proved to mom and I that you were ready I would." I asked him, "What do I have to do to prove that I'm ready to drive." He couldn't really answer my question. He then began to get an attitude and told me, "You're being very combative and argumentative." No, I wasn't. I genuinely wanted to know why he thinks I'm not ready to drive. He couldn't answer my question because I think he has no reason to think I'm not ready. I'm not an out of control teenager. I don't party. I don't do drugs. I don't sneak out. I help out around the house by; taking the trash out, washing the dishes, doing laundry, etc. I earn straight A's in school. I feel as though I'm responsible enough to start driving, so I don't understand why he thinks I'm not ready. He tells me driving isn't that easy. However, all of my friends in school that drive tell me it's very easy. My mother tells me it's not hard. So why is my dad telling me it's hard? How can I prove to him that I'm ready to start driving, and have him teach me?
    19 answers · 1 day ago
  • How should I handle this (and should I involve my son-in-law)?

    Our grandson (7 y/o) spent last week with us while his father was away for work reasons and his nanny was having a week off (our daughter has sadly passed away four years ago). Usually my grandson called me Granny, but over the week he insisted on using my first name. Last night when I called, he also did the same.... show more
    Our grandson (7 y/o) spent last week with us while his father was away for work reasons and his nanny was having a week off (our daughter has sadly passed away four years ago). Usually my grandson called me Granny, but over the week he insisted on using my first name. Last night when I called, he also did the same. However, he called my husband Gramp, as usual. I told grandson that he should call me Granny. I asked where he picked that up and grandson answered that his daddy (my son-in-law) also calls me that way. My son-in-law calls my husband "Dad" because my husband told him to do so long ago. I didn't, because of some misunderstandings in the past, and as years gone by it has become awkward to change. I don't know if my son-in-law has told his son to be disrespectful toward me. How should I bring this up with my son-in-law? I don't want to have another fight with him. My husband said just let it go, but I don't want this to become a habit, or that our grandson grow up thinking I'm a witch or something.
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • Should I babysit my niece and nephew for free?

    Best answer: She is correct in that it's nice for aunties to spend time with their nieces and nephews. However, you do that on an occasional basis when it's convenient for YOU...it's not a JOB with a required SCHEDULE. If it were my sister, I'd tell her that I'd be willing to fill in here and there if her... show more
    Best answer: She is correct in that it's nice for aunties to spend time with their nieces and nephews. However, you do that on an occasional basis when it's convenient for YOU...it's not a JOB with a required SCHEDULE.

    If it were my sister, I'd tell her that I'd be willing to fill in here and there if her regular carer was sick, but that your priorities are school and a paying job. You just don't have time for a five day a week volunteer position.

    Maybe your sister should make up with your mother. It's pretty cheeky of her to get into a pissing match with her unpaid employee and then expect you to pick up the slack.

    It's not like she is a single mother. These kids have two parents and they are responsible for them.
    27 answers · 3 days ago
  • Is it okay to slap your 15 year old when necessary?

    I got into an argument that my daughter is too young to date someone in college. She talked back and became angry with me. I slapped her and CPS is involved because she went to the counselor the next day, told her that I disapproved of her trying to date someone. The conversation focused on why she “loves” a... show more
    I got into an argument that my daughter is too young to date someone in college. She talked back and became angry with me. I slapped her and CPS is involved because she went to the counselor the next day, told her that I disapproved of her trying to date someone. The conversation focused on why she “loves” a college boy, but the school called CPS to inform them about multiple concerns. They’re related to not only child abuse, but the fact that she’s a young girl involved with an older man.
    32 answers · 4 days ago
  • Parents are controlling MY money?

    So I work and I absolute hate it but I was motivated at the fact that I have my own money to spend when, where, and on what I want. I am even saving my money for a few ~major~ things at the end of this year. When I applied for my job, the only bank account I had was the one that was connected to my dad’s account,... show more
    So I work and I absolute hate it but I was motivated at the fact that I have my own money to spend when, where, and on what I want. I am even saving my money for a few ~major~ things at the end of this year. When I applied for my job, the only bank account I had was the one that was connected to my dad’s account, meaning that all my earnings go into this account. I made my own account and I asked my dad if he can put all my earnings into that’s account but he refused because he doesn’t want me to handle a big sum of MY HARD EARNED money. So when I want something I ask my dad to transfer me the amount of money I need and he does it for me. I’ve bought a birthday gift for my mum, some shoes for myself, and some other small things. Yesterday my mum told me that this WHOLE time my dad has been putting his money in my account for me to buy those things therefore my money hasn’t been spent. You are probably thinking “I wish my parents could do that for me, what a spoiled brat” but I honestly like the idea of being responsible with my own money and having that good feeling you get when you know you have worked for something. They will refuse to put any money in my account that is mine saying that “you will need it later?” What do I do?
    8 answers · 4 hours ago
  • Would you classify my mother as a psycho?

    So last night we got into an argument about my poor attitude and she started to widen her eyes and nod crazily and just show symptoms of being insane. She would cut me off and nod her head quickly with scary eyes and get excited to punish me and when she insulted me I said "thanks a lot that makes me feel... show more
    So last night we got into an argument about my poor attitude and she started to widen her eyes and nod crazily and just show symptoms of being insane. She would cut me off and nod her head quickly with scary eyes and get excited to punish me and when she insulted me I said "thanks a lot that makes me feel great" and she put a thumbs up and clapped her hands and smiled, like a psycho. Then I started getting angrier and when I tried to go get my things from downstairs she took them and ran around the house with them away from me trying to hide, trying to call her mother (faking a phone call with her mother for about 5 minutes straight) and when I tried to block her from leaving her room so she can address her problems like a human being, she started to get physical and aggressive. She started pushing me hard and then pulling me by my hair down to the ground so I would get out of her way. All the time she is screaming and then finally she called my dad to try and tell him to come home now and that's when she finally sat down and ignored me, giggling to herself and texting and being a really insane person. Is she unfit to be a mother? Should I call somebody or try and get her help? I think she is a psycho and I had to hide in my room because she was trying to hunt me down like a psycho.
    8 answers · 6 hours ago
  • Am I wrong for feeling this way?

    Best answer: I'm not sure what you're asking if you're "wrong" about. You resent your sister and the kids and the dependency. I understand, but understand this whole scenario is by choice -your choices- and only you can change it. Find your way to supporting yourself and your child, to move yourself out... show more
    Best answer: I'm not sure what you're asking if you're "wrong" about. You resent your sister and the kids and the dependency. I understand, but understand this whole scenario is by choice -your choices- and only you can change it.

    Find your way to supporting yourself and your child, to move yourself out of that situation. It may well mean putting school on hold for a while, finding employment and roommates, etc.
    9 answers · 22 hours ago
  • Why do some people think of adopted kids as treated differently?

    It’s been assumed that my parents don’t have that “die for you” love set on stone because I’m adopted. Also that they don’t show any affection or talk fondly of me. This is not true at all, my parents showed equal love to my brother and I (he’s their bio son). But overall, I have met a few people who thought my... show more
    It’s been assumed that my parents don’t have that “die for you” love set on stone because I’m adopted. Also that they don’t show any affection or talk fondly of me. This is not true at all, my parents showed equal love to my brother and I (he’s their bio son). But overall, I have met a few people who thought my parents had a whole “different” love where they were ONLY willing to take care of me, meet my daily needs, but no affection.
    7 answers · 7 hours ago
  • I was the unplanned child?

    Hi, im a nineteen year old boy I am the youngest of three my brother is twenty one and my sister is twenty five. A couple of weeks ago my brothers friend who i dont really like said to me”at least i wasnt the unplanned child” i kind of shrugged it off and turned it back on him. But then i saw on my brothers phone... show more
    Hi, im a nineteen year old boy I am the youngest of three my brother is twenty one and my sister is twenty five. A couple of weeks ago my brothers friend who i dont really like said to me”at least i wasnt the unplanned child” i kind of shrugged it off and turned it back on him. But then i saw on my brothers phone that he had told this girl that our parents said that i was the unplanned child. My dad got vasectomy im assuming after i was born. Im having a bard time going through my teenage years and i just dont know why i even exist if my own parents who are the people i trust the most didnt want me at all. This has mad me depressed and ive been crying over it a lot.
    16 answers · 3 days ago
  • PLEASE HELP! (bed wetting issues)?

    So i am an adult and i wet the bed as part of mine and my partners ddlg lifestyle however i live with my parents so i cannot purchase and wear diapers. What can i wear/put on my bed that will stop my matress and blankets from being ruined but still allows me to wet the bed?
    So i am an adult and i wet the bed as part of mine and my partners ddlg lifestyle however i live with my parents so i cannot purchase and wear diapers. What can i wear/put on my bed that will stop my matress and blankets from being ruined but still allows me to wet the bed?
    8 answers · 11 hours ago
  • My girlfriend's father just proposed to my mother. what do we do?

    the girl i'm dating is about to become my sister! now what?
    the girl i'm dating is about to become my sister! now what?
    14 answers · 3 days ago