Married but still in love with past love?I want to forget,erase his memory?

I met a man about four years ago on a holiday. Over a period we both fell in love . The only problem being we belonged to different countries. There came a point we had to separate, he obviously wasn't interested in me enough to follow it up or maybe he was just not strong enough to take on the... show more I met a man about four years ago on a holiday. Over a period we both fell in love . The only problem being we belonged to different countries.
There came a point we had to separate, he obviously wasn't interested in me enough to follow it up or maybe he was just not strong enough to take on the responsibilities considering he had been divorced. This was four years ago and the weird thing is he still keeps in touch with me.
I married my husband who loves me a lot and whom I love a lot as well.If only I had met my husband before I met him my life would have been so much easier.
I have told him to stop ever keeping contacting me, that it is hard for me because I loved him, but he wouldn't and I just don't know what he wants? It is very obvious he can't forget me and I know I will not be able to forget him for a long time, I felt like we bonded and it felt like everything was right, just that he didnt want me enough to make a commitment .
I desperately want to forget him and it is just so hard for me not to be able to speak to anyone about this ,(particularly not my husband who would be heartbroken).I cannot forgive my past love for abandoning me?I just need to forget him and I have done all I can including marrying someone else, I just wish I could erase him off my mind.
Sometimes I just break down and cry because It's been so hard all these years and I guess it will get easier with time but I wish it were sooner.How do i forget erase remove him from my mind?help me.
I have broken all connections with him but obviously not emotionally. It is hard to remove a memory especially deep love.Tell me how?Thats all.
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