Should I discuss my Ex-Father-in-Laws behavior with his Wife?

My ex and I divorced last year, when we first divorced my ex's dad started acting really weird. He would want me to come over when no one was home, he wants to "talk" to me, he says he misses me a lot. But he always says don't tell mom or anyone. So one time I went over there and he started asking me personal... show more My ex and I divorced last year, when we first divorced my ex's dad started acting really weird. He would want me to come over when no one was home, he wants to "talk" to me, he says he misses me a lot. But he always says don't tell mom or anyone. So one time I went over there and he started asking me personal questions about when I was married to his son and our sex life, then he told me how beautiful I was and that his son was stupid. Then he offered me money to go buy a pair of boots that he liked because he knows how much I love shoes and boots, I refused, became uncomfortable and left, he kept hugging me and kissing me as I left. Now I left my husband for another man (my high school sweetheart) but our marriage was over way before anything happened between me and this other man it's just that no one knew it, we always put up a good front, so everyone was shocked at our divorce. I've been avoiding my ex father in-law because I don't believe I should be keeping secrets and I'm not really sure what his intentions are. I would hate to believe that I thought of this man as my father for ten years and now he might be thinking something else of me other than being his daughter. Now my ex is out of work and 6 weeks behind on child support, so my ex father in-law is calling me again telling me to come by because he made food for the kids and me. This morning he called me at work and asked me to come to his restaurant early on Saturday morning before any one gets there so he could give me food and not to tell anyone. Now I'm not sure if he is just trying to get information out of me so he can spy for my ex husband or for his own knowledge, because he likes to gossip, or if he's trying to give me things so he has something to hold over my head or use against me or if he's just being a dirty old man-YUCK! I am really uncomfortable now and I think I should tell my ex mother in-law (whom I still have a fairly decent relationship with) but I'm not sure what to say to her. I don't want to start any family trouble since I'm not really part of the family anymore but I have to put an end to this somehow...HELP! :)
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