My boyfriend wants to sleep with someone else but i can't bring myself to leave him?!!!?

my boyfriend and i have been the best of friends and intimate for 7 months, but only he only asked me to be his girlfriend a month ago. our relationship is amazing, we get on so well, he treats me with so much respect, care and love, and we're essentially kindred spirits and soulmates, if these things exist.... show more my boyfriend and i have been the best of friends and intimate for 7 months, but only he only asked me to be his girlfriend a month ago. our relationship is amazing, we get on so well, he treats me with so much respect, care and love, and we're essentially kindred spirits and soulmates, if these things exist. he's perfect for me, and i wouldn't want to live without him... you know the deal.

HOWEVER! he doesn't want to tell people that i'm his girlfriend because for purely egotistical reasons there's a girl that we both know and frequently see, that he wants to sleep with. just once, he says, then he'll tell people about us.

last night, i told him i was leaving him but an hour later i called him back and told him i still wanted to be his girlfriend. so we're still together because we can't stand to be without each other.

he's assured me that it will only be a one-night-no-strings thing and he'll let her know what's going on between us after and that he probably won't even want to talk to her once he's done it. it's just a final ego boost before he settles down for real with me, apparently.


if i let him do it, it will hurt like hell, but i'm so desperate to be with him , that if the only way our relationship can get even more serious is for him to sleep with another girl, then i'm SO tempted to just let him.

is there anything i can do that could make this easier for me that wouldn't involve breaking up with him? or is that the right thing to do?

please help i can't work it out alone!
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