Problem.. my bf doesn't want to have sex?

My boyfriend loves to have sex and having sex is really a big deal to his life, according to him it is really important in his life. He told me he wanted to have loads of sex with me and told me not to deny when he wanted to have sex. Of course I would not refuse to have sex with him since I am very attracted to... show more My boyfriend loves to have sex and having sex is really a big deal to his life, according to him it is really important in his life. He told me he wanted to have loads of sex with me and told me not to deny when he wanted to have sex. Of course I would not refuse to have sex with him since I am very attracted to him and I love him very much. But when it comes to having sex, it's a real pain but I can't get wet. We discussed this matter last night when he started to say " I doubt we'll be having any sex for a while." I asked " what do you mean" and then he went on to explain that.

He says sex does not interest him anymore ( I was quite surprised to hear that because I know he loves it and loves it)
" well it still interests me but not hmm with you. it sounds bad but I still love you"

You're still gorgeous and you have a great personality and I still love you, but I just can't have sex with you.

The thing is I can't get wet because when we do have sex it's like " get naked, have sex, get dressed again and now let's watch a funny movie"
I told him I need to be in the mood and it needs to be romantic but he said
" I can't light the candle every time we have sex i'm sorry " in a sarcastic way

His suggestion is, though, to get advice from the net or do some search and buy some pills to make myself wet????

It devastated me when he told me " it almost feels like a chore instead of having fun"
We have a complete different point of view. I love this guy and I don't want to lose him. What made me really sad was that despite my boyfriend loves having sex more than anyone, he says he is addicted to it, he told me he did not want to have sex with me.
I can live without having sex for a long time and when I have sex it's more than fun it's hard to explain. I sleep with the one I love and I treasure that because it lets me feel like I am wanted by him. (I am Japanese by the way so please forgive me for my English.)

I am very scared to say this, but, I am afraid if he cheats on me. "sex interets me but not with you"
this phrase has been killing me. I couldn't go to bed until 3.

I'm sorry to have written too much. I think I need some advice rather than answers since my question doesn't look like a question at all.

I want to know if there are more than few people who are going through the same situation.
Update: it sounds like my bf isn't a good guy, but he is wonderful, cheerful and funny and all. I love him and we get on well each other. We 're like best friends, but only when it comes to intimacy.
Update 2: BlakMATT


he told me the exactly same phrase you wrote.
Don't deny me when I want to have sex, seriously though, he is addicted to it and I have accepted him and approved of him for who he truly is. And I'm not angry.
Update 3: Micah S

Thank you so much. It cheers me up.
I will try my best.
Update 4: Marlee Thank you in advance. I've told him getting kisses on my neck and nipples it used to me get wet. But the way he does it, you know, he does it because I tell him to and I don't want to tell him to lick my nipples. (I'm sorry for my language) He just checks if I am wet and almost without... show more Marlee

Thank you in advance. I've told him getting kisses on my neck and nipples it used to me get wet.

But the way he does it, you know, he does it because I tell him to and I don't want to tell him to lick my nipples. (I'm sorry for my language)
He just checks if I am wet and almost without kissing, starts to bang me.
Update 5: yepps11

thank you. I wish I could, but I am in love with this guy.
Update 6: holymell


no he does get horny whenever he touches my belly or lay in bed together. its me who cant get turned on. i need to get wet but the way he does, its yes, as he told me, it s like a chore.

"its a bummer i cant have sex with my girlfriend" is what he says
Update 7: Peace

Thank you. He texted me earlier about 3 hours ago " hello, are we cool or are you mad at me?"

he wants to stay with me and we are still planning on living together. I don't think we'll break up any sooner.
Update 8: Keith H I wish I could find someone else but I haven't been in love with a guy for a long time and I was almost giving up like oh I don't give a damn anymore I don't need a guy in my life anymore then I met him and started to date and I know I truly love this guy. I can't dump him. I wish I... show more Keith H


I wish I could find someone else but I haven't been in love with a guy for a long time and I was almost giving up like oh I don't give a damn anymore I don't need a guy in my life anymore then I met him and started to date and I know I truly love this guy. I can't dump him. I wish I could since he can let me down in many ways, but I love him and I don7t know what to do.

My ex were just guys that I hung out with and had sex. I always wanted to have a boyfriend who did not just want to have sex activities with me, I wanted to enjoy a lot of things with him, not only sex.

I met him and I fell in love him and turned out he was addicted to have sex more than anyone in t his world. I know he loves me but hmmmm

I cried

and

i feel so alone
Update 9: Evalyne


thank you. I'm always happy to know people like Japan since I don't myself, lol

well we discussed that issue last night. that he cant live without having sex and Im not desperate. i dont know if he can cheat. but ill keep my eyes on him.
Update 10: justme

thank you so much for your advice.
i found it really helpful not only other advices :)
it really cheered me up when i read your advice. thank you.
and i hope things will work out well for me and him.
Update 11: bambamxo, letoya

thank you very much for the advice.
I'll copy your advice and put them keep them in my pc to read when i'm confused again. I think I know what to do now, at least better than an hour ago.

Thank you in advice.!!!
have a good day.!
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