I'm 19 and I've never been kissed. How can I find a respectable girlfriend?

Can someone help me with this problem? For several years now, I have felt like I am inadequate because I could never find and get a girl to date me. My confidence has been soiled to the point where I cannot even talk to a woman. I look around me and see people growing up and getting into serious relationships, and... show more Can someone help me with this problem? For several years now, I have felt like I am inadequate because I could never find and get a girl to date me. My confidence has been soiled to the point where I cannot even talk to a woman. I look around me and see people growing up and getting into serious relationships, and I feel left out. I think that women don't even notice me. They never flirt with me, never complement me, and they sometimes turn me down as "just not my type" or simply "ugly". Older adults keep telling me to “just wait” because a girl “will just come”. I feel differently. Now, I just want real advice.

Let me tell you a few personal things about me. I am shy. I am 6'/6'1, 185lbs (that's not fat for my size), Caucasian, and I practice good hygiene. I do cardio and weight lifting exercise regularly, but still not as much as probably should. I have a summer job, but I want to find some year-round work. I dressed poorly and I had a small wardrobe in the past, but I am making good progress on getting more fashionable clothes. I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. I'm fairly nerdy and I get very good grades at my college. I'm a semi-religious Baptist. I don't have any physical deformities, but I also don't think I am attractive. Also, I believe in celibacy, but I understand that I live in a sexualized culture, so I am willing to compromise with a potential girlfriend on social values and troubles from past relationships.

In regards to finding a girlfriend, I feel more attracted to girls who are competent and have good ethics, but I also appreciate good looks as well. I really like nice girls. I noticed that I like brunettes more than other girls, for some reason.

To get a girlfriend, should I:
-Go to college parties and meet loose women who like to get drunk and find men looking for sex?
-Wait for that unlikely someone to find me?
-Use online dating sites?
-Lower my standards?

Thank you more reading my super-long question. I think that the details I provided will help with your responses. Remember: the more advice you give, the more you can help me with my problem. Again, thanks.

-I'm sorry, but I did not feel comfortable giving my photo out over the internet. I value privacy.
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