So sorry to hear this!
Did you know there are several types of love? For example, you can have love for Almighty God, feel love toward your fellow man, or love your family. However, the love you’re talking about is the one between a man and a woman, under the bond of marriage.
On the subject of marriage our Creator says “ Rejoice with the WIFE of your youth...Let her breasts satisfy you at all times...Why be captivated by a wayward woman?” So this kind of should be exclusively between marriage mates. Cheaters “ Go astray...for lack of discipline”, which is directly opposed to Jehovah God’s direction.
Those who think it’s ok to have this type of romantic love for more than one person at a time are mistaken. A man and woman vow to avoid developing these type of feelings for anyone else. This is out of true love and respect for your mate and consideration for the sacredness of marriage. Cheaters, since they betray all of that, actually show they love only themselves. They hold that their needs come above everyone else’s. They’re not considering the hurt, and betrayal they cause to everyone involved.
Whether it was intentional or not, your husband has allowed it to continue. You must both talk together. Let him know you know. Discuss whether you both feel your marriage is worth the work of repair. Fixing your relationship will take time. He’ll have to earn your trust, work on showing love toward you only, and his self control. You’ll have to learn to forgive and forget. As a couple you’ll have to work on strengthening your marriage bonds.
If you’d like help, go to www.jw.com.
Success to you both!