'Respect' that works both ways and doesn't seem respectful to me to need to ask if it's okay. That sounds like a child/parent relationship where your afraid you may get grounded.
You shouldn't ask if it's 'okay' you want to go out with friends you should do, respect would be planning it in advance and not dropping it on your partner last minute, changing time you'd already arranged together, not being 'okay' with them doing the same thing, expecting them to wait up until 4am and you come home and fall through the door and vomit from drinking too much..
Expecting your partner to go to work and then spend every other minute with you is disrespectful and would be considered a starter to domestic violence by many, trying to severe your other relationships or make them less important.
YOU choose If you make your partner more of a priority than everyone else in your life, it's not a biological necessity. But spending less than 10 hours a week on a close relationship will spell doom