Should I be honest with my brother that not being invited to his wedding is kind of hurtful?

My brother has a different father than me, and is considerably older than me, so we are not as close as two brothers should be but we are still very amiable. We see each other regularly enough, and since I live fairly close to him he always trusts me to care for his pets when he goes on vacations, for example. In... show more My brother has a different father than me, and is considerably older than me, so we are not as close as two brothers should be but we are still very amiable. We see each other regularly enough, and since I live fairly close to him he always trusts me to care for his pets when he goes on vacations, for example.

In February he became engaged. I know even after all these years his father is still VERY bitter towards my mom, and apparently he's only agreed to attend the wedding if my mom did not bring my father or me along. My brother wants both his parents to be there, so of course I was told that I would not be able to attend.

I said it was fine at the time because I understood the pressure I was under, but truth be told it's actually irking me pretty bad that I cannot attend. I especially think it's unfair that his father will be bringing his own wife, along with their two children, and somehow he cannot see any hypocrisy to that.

Also, as I know it might come up, his dad and my mom were never married. They had a relationship in high school that didn't work out, and he only became upset years later when mom married my dad.
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