Is it ever okay to cheat when your being neglected?

So I know the obvious answer is no but I don't know how to handle this situation. My husbands and my relationship somewhere down the line became a business arrangement. Divorcing would be complicated at best and without us having children, I'd be taking a chance of losing my home. He's threatened to... show more So I know the obvious answer is no but I don't know how to handle this situation. My husbands and my relationship somewhere down the line became a business arrangement. Divorcing would be complicated at best and without us having children, I'd be taking a chance of losing my home. He's threatened to basically stalk me if I ever try to leave, he'd never leave me alone and I believe he loves me but I'm miserable. I'm completely sexually unsatisfied due to his lack of effort and his attitude keeps me anxious all the time just waiting for the next time he flips for no reason. My best guy friend and I use to have sex all the time and of course haven't since I've been with my husband but the opportunity did present itself again recently. I've asked for an open marriage but he refused. Question is, if you thought you might could be happier with your husband if you were getting what he wouldn't give you from somewhere else and no one would ever know, for sure. Would it ever be acceptable? I will add that my husband cheated on me 2 years ago and our sex life hasn't been good in about 4 years. I'm not the person who would usually ask such a stupid question but I don't really have a way out of my marriage right now and I really need some intimacy, I've begged my husband and even begged to go to counseling but he refuses. He isn't going to work on it but I can't leave him right now no matter what I want. I know my secrets safe with my bff and no one would have to get hurt...
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